What I'm getting out of MGTOW

ExpertDabbler · 2017-09-19T06:24:31+00:00

she never loved u. because she never loved anybody but herself. she jsut loved what u could do for her. u were not a human being for her, u were a human doing, and it was just your turn. she was never yours. everything you built up in your mind with her, the two of you, the love, the relationship, the team, the you and her against the world, the soulmates, it was all an illusion. u were nothing but a supporting actor in the movie of her life and now shes filming a new movie with new supporting actors.

mrscene1 · 2017-09-19T06:27:22+00:00

Ten years is a long time, you're not going to walk over here and be as happy and content as most of us. A lot us of eschewed relationships from a young age. Never developed any emotional achors, and lived free and unfettered lives. But rest assured, after some time passes, you will start thinking rational again. Focus on your career, hobbies, friends, family, health. Everyday gets a little easier, and when you finally transcend that abysmal rut you were so adamant on sitting in; into a blissful utopia. Well you'll ask yourself, why did I sit on that rut for so long? ;)

lostapwbm · 2017-09-19T06:34:43+00:00

Please tell me, what do you enjoy about being single? Or how did you deal with your last (presumably final) relationship ending, because right now it feels like I could never date another woman

When I was finished with my final "relationship", and the first thing I noticed was the silence. Blissful, peaceful silence. Everything was exactly where I put it. Nobody asking "how was your day?" (FEED ME INFORMATION/ENTERTAINMENT). Nobody bitching at me about something that "needed" to be done right this minute. No more sullen stares or cold shoulders. No more screaming matches. No more forced social outings.

What do I enjoy about being single? Peace and quiet. The kind where a man can sit on his porch with a bottle of bourbon, watch the sun go down, and not do one single thing he doesn't want to.

MajorRobotnik · 2017-09-19T06:25:50+00:00

When I finally broke free of my ex-landwhale's gravitational pull, it was the happiest day of my life. The boss called me into his office at work because he had to know why I was so damn happy, my brothers and all my friends congratulated me- even my parents took me out for a celebratory dinner. It was great! That's when I decided I should focus on the people who really matter instead of pointlessly chasing after stuck-up thots who want nothing to do with me and ending up settling for a disciple of the Plague Lord.

2017-09-19T06:34:04+00:00

Mate, it's normal that it's gonna hurt for a while straight up and sadly the only thing that's going to make that stop is time. So be patient and go easy on yourself for a while. Small steps and all that shit. 10 years is a long time and I imagine the adjustment period for that is difficult. Hang in there, you'll be ok.

What do I enjoy most? I don't have to answer to anybody. I can do whatever I like, whoever I like, whenever i like. I can spend my money on anything, or nothing at all. I have total freedom and control over my life and where I want to go and very few responsibilities.

I'm a MGTOW who is into pump n dump. I don't date. I don't get into relationships. I need sex. I can't forego that so I'm still social and go to bars regularly. But strictly pump n dump.

I didn't deal with my last/final relationship breakup very well at all. I went down a self destructive path for many months. Drinking daily, smoking weed, eating like shit, random hookups and just generally angry at the world. I finally came to the realization that I as a person was not moving forward so I began to exercise daily, cut the booze back, quit smoking cigs and started eating better.

I was reading RP and MGTOW the whole time (even when I was messy) and agreed with it, the information was there and one day it just finally clicked. I started seeing the stuff we talk about here in daily life and I knew I was on the right path and could commit to it. I strongly recommend reading everything you can on both subs.

right now it feels like I could never date another woman

One day you'll say to yourself "I don't need another woman" and you'll be content.

Good luck brother.

Setari · 2017-09-19T10:15:09+00:00

I got out of a 6 year relationship last year.

However, most of that was her not working around the house while I was at work, and just playing World of Warcraft all day, but I still had the companionship I guess, which in the end doesn't count for much.

Everyone will tell you you'll feel better, and you will be like "Fuckin' fat chance", but you will. I was relieved when she left in my scenario, but it's a terribly long story. But as soon as she left I re-arranged my apartment and settled in for a cozy night watchin' Netflix by myself and eating whatever I wanted.

You sound like you've got it good already dude. An apartment, a job, savings. That's all you need, dude!

I'd wish you good luck, but you don't need it!

Also it'll take some time to get back on the right track, dude. You can't force it, it will just... settle in place.

Edit: Also you don't need to date, just be on your own. Don't go looking for a rebound relationship, and if you just gotta have sex, pick a girl up, do it, and have her leave and never contact her again if at all possible. Simple.

DarwinianKEKistani · 2017-09-19T10:36:08+00:00

3 months is the time necessary bro rewire your synapsis and remove the dependency from smthing/someone...

I suggest you start doing something for 3 consecuive months ... Find an impegnative hobby maybeb and you'll see that the former dependence will go away...

3 months...

ZeroBlink · 2017-09-19T10:59:12+00:00

Do stuff, as stupid as it sounds, just do stuff, grab a book, get a bike jump on it and ride motherfuker , RIDE! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HotdsZgjpSI
Jokes aside...
MGTOW is about finding your own way of life and happiness, if you're happy getting demolished by that woman and sulking about it , non of us can stop you from doing so. MGTOW take all of the energy that you use incorrectly and pour it into ourselves and our self-worth. First step to becoming MGTOW, stop pretending you're not a person without a woman. You are worth MORE than any woman. As soon as you realize that you're just having the Stockholm syndrome , you'll be free. Ask yourself a question, "what is the value of pussy" , "why do I even like women" , you simply trick yourself into thinking that you're worthless without a partner. "Im so lonely" , "I cant get a gf im such a looser" etc etc
You're destroying yourself.
How about "I am so happy i was able to finish that book in peace" or " Im so happy I could go out with my buds without any nagging" so on and so on.

LuigiC173 · 2017-09-19T12:03:47+00:00

it's natural your brain learned to associate your own personal happiness with another person completely, over the course of a decade that would ensue for anyone do not feel bad. Unfortunately your brain playing you like that is a one way road to the utter devastation you've felt over the past few weeks when its "drug" has been taken away w/o weaning.

As far as being single it'll take you time but to start focus on every single decision you make big or small and ask would you be able to do this with a significant other? The biggest thing in all this MGTOW is self acceptance and acceptance of your reality. I am 27 around 25 I really started buckling down on limiting dating...in my younger 20s living in DC/NOVA I was a serial dater going out hooking up the whole nine yards, for me the shit is old now same old song and dance and the juice is not worth the squeeze IMO. Gotta enjoy your new found independence man you have been on a two way street for quite some time take advantage of this new era for yourself where you are the cobra commander. Meditation will always help you in this time of grievance and over the course of time will make you mentally stronger. Find a serious hobby one that requires immense focus to get anywhere i.e. guitar, drums, coding, etc. I spend two hours a day running through scales and such on guitar and my chops are on point that type of time invested into bettering my skills would never happen in a relationship I would have to sacrifice at least an hour to listen to her blab about her day I give no fucks about.

2017-09-19T14:36:26+00:00

You can get used to almost anything. Then sudden big change is either extremely painful or ecstatic depending on the event. It doesn't mean your new condition is better or worse than before. Drop those judgments. If you don't have any emptiness you may not have any space for new things. Not feeling complete is good. It means you have space for the new.

2017-09-19T15:33:44+00:00

We all know why women need men - resources and reproduction. What we seldom discuss here is why men need women.

Men are pyschologically dependent on women. This makes sense - we seek validation from women because if we don't, we probably aren't getting laid. "Greedy genes" comes to mind.

We aren't fighting conditioning. We're fighting our own genetics - the very essence of what we are.

Most mgtow here have it easy because they are old. Our bodies still think we are living in Africa and fucking at puberty. We really just aren't meant to live past 30, and it just so happens that our sex drive diminishes quickly after that.

One thing you may have heard is women value security like men value freedom. Relationships are a one-sided deal in that sense.

I can't tell you why you'll enjoy being single. In fact, most men don't. This path isn't for everyone.

What I can say is you don't need this sub to make that decision. Stop chasing pussy for a year or two and you'll know.

Title	What I'm getting out of MGTOW
Author	kirktjames
Upvotes	6
Comments	16
Date	September 19, 2017 6:17 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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