Summary: My frame has moved to a new level that I am calling “Bye, Felicia” others may call it IDGAF. Essentially I have reached a state of mind where I do not care if a plate walks away from me, and I don’t care about walking away from a plate when I’m sick of her shit.

Body: Perhaps you’ve heard the phrase “Bye, Felicia”. Which is a phrase used to get a woman out of your face that you don’t care about. It originated from the movie Friday starring Ice Cube, and more recently appeared in the film Straight Outta Compton, resurging its use in today’s vernacular. I’ve adopted this as a new tool for my toolbox, it’s a tool I use to shield my own sound mental state from a woman’s chaos. This shield protects me and enables me to live in a state of abundance and free from oneitis and chaos.

When I dated in the past I used to always ask myself “What can I do to make this person like me?” Now I ask myself “Why the hell should I like this person?” Usually the first answer to that question is because I am attracted to them, but that can’t be the only reason. I must keep asking the question until I have reason to walk away, or let her walk. When that reason comes, whether is general craziness, manipulation, or a woman trying to control and use you, there is one simple answer to the question, “Bye, Felicia”.

Here is an example of my use of “Bye, Felicia”:

I spent Thursday night and Friday morning with HB9 who lives in my building, I recently moved into this building and it was coincidence when we first met that she happened to live in the building I was moving into. I knew that it would be convenient for a while but eventually a situation like this is about to turn bad, this is why you don’t shit where you eat. Anyways, Friday evening I had a date planned with HB6 who came over and spent the night. Well the concierge in my building has been aware that HB9 and I were seeing each other since we take her dogs for walks and such…well I guess the concierge woman who happened to be working that night is friendly with HB9 and tipped her off. Oh well. I get a message the next morning along the lines of:

Her: “Listen, I know you got recently divorced, and you should be seeing many people, I did the same, but we just spent Friday morning together and for you to bring another woman over hours later is not okay.”
Me: “K”
Her: “Sleeping with multiple people in one day is not okay behavior, its hurtful to treat another person this way. When I asked what you were doing late you should have said you were going on a date. I don’t like your lying and have no tolerance for it.”
Me: “I’m not in an exclusive relationship, I’m enjoying my life and its your choice to be a part of it or not, I am not sorry.” (I probably should have just ignored her or given her another K, I have no reason to explain myself or offer her information)
Her: “Please don’t text me anymore. I heard she wasn’t even as pretty as me.”
Me: “Bye, Felicia” (Yeah I actually texted it to her, no need to though, you can just tell it to yourself.)

This girl was an annoying narcissist that only cares about herself (what HB9 isn’t), she was a damn good lay though which is why I kept her around. But I don’t care that she walked away, concierge actually did me a favor. I did go downstairs to shame my concierge though. Went up to the woman and in a jocular tone said “You talk too much” she was taken back and I said “You’re trouble, why you gotta be blowin up my shit.” I then hugged her while I was laughing and joking with her and then walked away. The next day she apologized to me “I’m sorry I did that, I know you are divorced recently and I shouldn’t have delved into your personal life.” Yeah so I successfully shamed her while joking and being nice about it.

Lesson Learned: This tool has helped free my mind, when at one time of my life I would have been apologetic and trying to fix it with this girl which would have ultimately left me to be a beta tool for her to use and discard at a later date. I know this tool has protected me as I was able to walk around all day with a smile on my face knowing that I am mentally free and in control of my life. I went out that night with friends and had a wonderful time dancing with other ladies at the bar, HB9 will be replaced quickly… Bye, Felicia.