Summary: I went on a date with a HB9 I met on tinder. We had a few drinks in town and I failed to close. She texts me the next morning to say she had fun but it's not going to work out. IDGAF - it was a good learning experience and I would like to share my analysis and failures with you.
Body: I'll start with a bit about myself for context. I'm very recently unplugged. I started lurking and chewing through sidebar about a year ago. Due to heartbreak from letting myself get fucked over by my beloved oneitus slut, I had an epiphany that forced the bitter red pill down my throat like a bullet out a barrel. Since then I have commit myself to learning and applying every tool the manosphere has to offer. I am a work in progress, mainly that my game needs improvement. I think my frame is solid, I'm 6 foot, 200 pounds lean, and reasonably good looking. I know how to dress well, and am pretty self assured and confident. However due to a conservative christian blue pill bullshit upbringing, I lack experience with woman and subsequently, have weakness in the area of kino, flirting, and escalation. This is what I believe let me down on my tinder date last night.
I matched with an HB9 on tinder. She is 26, I'm a month shy of 22. This is fuck up number one. She made multiple comments about how I'm so young and blah blah blah. Shit test failed. I had no ammo to shoot back. I was at a disadvantage from the start. I probably should have given her shit for being a "cougar" or teased her for being old or something along those lines. But I can confirm it was masculinity undermined. I thought it could be cool to fuck a sexy older woman. Maybe if I was level 99 Chad it would work. Correct me if I'm wrong.
She met me at the bar and had already bought me a beer. Not a bad start. She was friendly, talkative, flirty (kept playing with her hair and biting it, touching her neck), laughed a lot. This is good. But then it sort of went no where. I had no game. My years of blue pill thinking have made me and expert at talking to woman like they are friends, and left me with few skills to build sexual tension. I had this idea in my head that we would have our second drink and leave. The plan was to grab her waist and kiss her outside then say "your place or mine?" or something like that. After an hour I decided that it was enough chit chat. I told her to finish her drink because its almost her bedtime. We go outside and I ask her where she parked. I was looking for some signals but it ended very quickly with her kissing me on the cheek and saying goodnight. FUCK THAT. I walked away. I felt like a bitch for a few minutes then decided that I'm not bitch, I'm learning. I went into it from the start with outcome independence. Of course you always think it would be nice to fuck a tall blonde bombshell who's 5 years older, but I had realistic expectations. I went into it wanting to learn and I have.
This morning she text me saying that she thinks im hot and funny, but to young to handle what she's into. Turns out she's a mega-slut swinger. God dammit I probably could have grabbed her 5 minutes into the date and fucked her in the bathroom. Oh well.
Lessons learned Dating older woman is sort of fucking stupid. No matter what else you have going for you, if you don't have enough game to close, you won't close. Go figure. Practice makes perfect. Take risks. She's probably a whore.
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