Just found this subreddit. How do I recalibrate myself? How do I recover from all the shitty situations my blue pill past self got me into?

VZPurp · 2013-07-23T20:20:43+00:00

Everyday's a new day, read and apply. There's no quick fix, no royal road

Nihilism0 · 2013-07-23T20:00:14+00:00

Join a fitness studio on campus. Buy a pair of barbells. Lift. Exercise. Don't fap too much. Work your way through /r/becomeaman. Read! There's always the classic "How to Make Friends and Influence people". Read the actual science! Of attraction. Of your brain. GABA receptors. Nutrition and what produces testosterone. What part of your personality is influenced by testosterone (hint: assertiveness and confidence - to name a few). Go out. Approach people. Try out a few societies. Find a hobby (plus if it's a "male" one.) Definitely try out shooting real guns! Follow the white rabbit; only he can show you how deep the rabbit hole goes.

favours_of_the_moon · 2013-07-23T19:24:56+00:00

Well, you are lucky to still be in college while making this discovery.

Perhaps the fight club approach, the scene where tyler instructs the fight clubbers to go out into the world, get in a fight, and lose the fight.

Get out there, approach some girls, get rejected, learn what that feels like, learn to stop fearing it. Aside from that you have your standard advice, work out, eat more, read the game books. Keeping in mind that it is a long, long journey ahead.

IdleGod · 2013-07-23T21:27:38+00:00

I think this is because I was too nice, too understanding, not strong or dominant enough.

With guys, sometimes the opposite is true. Now that I'm more dominant and strong, things go better, even for guy friends. However, some friends only kept me around in the same way women keep beta orbiters around. They just want to feel better about themselves by getting your attention. Thats OK, replace them with better friends.

favours_of_the_moon · 2013-07-23T19:56:46+00:00

Don't be afraid to disobey a girl. Don't be afraid to violate taboo. Don't base your self esteem or your own sense that you are "normal" on what a girl says or does.

A girl will shit test you. At the extreme, she will tease you until you hit on her, then act all horrified and aghast. Sometimes she will even spread rumors mocking you for having done so.

Even so, don't back down. Be like I GOTTA BE ME. If you ever back down in that situation, it's over. Just smile and keep on doing your thing. "The worst she can do is throw shadows at you."

roe_ · 2013-07-23T20:47:10+00:00

Stuff that helped me:

Working out

Practise dominant body language - take up space when you walk or sit, walk with your spine erect and head up, make and hold eye contact (seriously, it sounds slightly ridiculous, but your brain sees you walking like a dominant person, and thinks "I must be a dominant person!")

Practise social dominance - ask for what you want, in a non-obsequious but polite manner - refuse requests that inconvenience you in the same way

Read Dr. Robert Glover's "No More Mr. Nice Guy"

The way to fix big, insurmountable problems is not to tackle them head-on, but to work on other, more tractable areas of your life (cribbed this from Athol Kay's new book Mindful Attraction Plan which is also worth a read)

For NiceGuys, the red pill isn't just about getting sex, it's about valuing yourself in proper proportion to what you have to offer - which pretty much fixes other problems in your life.

HTH

thereisnosuchthing · 2013-07-23T22:03:55+00:00

First, forget what they(everyone else) think of you, imagine other people thinking about what everyone else thinks of them, and how that would impede them living their own lives.

Imagine some random, non-threatening(to you) person who you 'basically like' but don't really care for one way or the other otherwise - imagine this person internally obsessing over YOU and whether or not YOU like them, whether or not YOU are impressed with them, what YOU are thinking of them - imagine this is at the foremost of this other person's mind all the time, whether you like them or someone else likes them, or what other people's perception of them is.

In reality the only thing being accomplished is that this person's life is being unlived and stolen away from them by their fears and thoughts about what other people think of them.

Never worry about that, the only people whose expectations of you you should have to live up to are YOUR OWN, that way you are self-validating and not needy and not constantly seeking external validation, maybe your parents or close family if you respect them and think they're smart enough to warrant it.

[deleted] · 2013-07-24T15:24:42+00:00

Every single day when you get out of bed, you have a choice: you can tread the paths you trod yesterday, or you can strike out in a new direction. There is nothing stopping you from moving towards a new life except your own inertia.

Remember that the road is not the destination. You can choose to walk towards a new life; you cannot choose to have it already. It will take time. But if you continue to choose to walk towards it you will inevitably reach it.

Title	Just found this subreddit. How do I recalibrate myself? How do I recover from all the shitty situations my blue pill past self got me into?
Author	Nihilism0
Upvotes	5
Comments	13
Date	July 23, 2013 7:10 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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