How to get women to stop asking your for favours in the workplace and other social situations

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So you find women bothering you for help constantly in the work place. You'd like them to leave you alone. The favours they ask of you are stupid and pointless and they always seem to need them done right now. You kind of know its just for attention or some other stupid reason, and you want to say no, but each individual request is seems reasonable so you can't just say no without being a dick and causing some drama.

You're tempted to tell them to just get lost, but you can't do that because iyou have to get along and/or you want to be a good worker. And all the beta's say yes so you'd stand out and attract attention by saying no.

Here's why they are doing it and how you get them to leave you alone.

NB: This does not apply to your female boss. It applies to female co-workers and some types of simps.

This will help you distinguish between legitimate requests for help which you should be doing as part of a productive workplace. And the usual female bullshit status climbing requests.

Why?

She's doing it to test her level of control over people. Women exchange favours as means of testing status. The person who can get the most favours while giving the least in return wins and is the queen bee. Watch women and you'll see they constantly exchange little meaningless favours (Annie asks Betty "can you pass me that" followed within a minute or two with Betty asking Annie for a small favour). The higher status women get things done for them, but don't do things in return and instead give attention as how they return the favour. The favours are usually exchanged within a few minutes of each other and the favour ledger is wiped clean at the end of the day and starts again tomorrow. Whoever got the most favours in return for the least won that day and is at the top of the female social hierarchy. Social climbing is a 24/7 female activity.

The exchange of favours does not apply to men. That's different. Women do favours for Alpha's, and Beta's do favours for women. Period.

The first thing any women does in a social group is try to establish herself as higher status than all the beta males. Showing the beta's doing favours for her is the most common way. She will never return those favours if she can help it.

They always need you to respond to the request immediately. Because its a test of control over you.

Those of you raised by single mothers or have beta fathers will have seen this your whole life at home. You've probably all seen it from teachers in school. You'll have to train yourself to overcome your mothers and the education system's programing to become aware of these requests. Its not hard, but does require a bit of conscious effort to de-simp yourself.

Rules

• At all times maintain an even, slightly disinterested demeanor. Do not get angry or upset. Maintain a completely even keel frame.

• If you lose frame and react negatively (angry, unhappy, sulky etc) she's won and got something valuable out out of you. An emotional reaction which proves to everyone that she has power over you (feels are reals, and she made you have a strong feel).

• At all times control where your attention is directed. Keep it focused on your task and the process below. If she gets you distracted from that and onto her, she gets what she wants and wins status points.

• *Divide women into those playing games, and those there to work. Until they prove otherwise assume each women is just there for the social games. If she eventually shows she's a real worker then you can ignore all the below and just treat her like a guy (although be aware she could backslide at any time and be on the look out for it.)

The process

• Acknowledge the request calmly, but don't immeditale say you'll do it. Don't break eye contact from your work. Use words like ("Hang on a sec"). Basically make her wait a few seconds for you to respond

• Check if the request is reasonable (ie aligns with what you do in your job, you're the best person to fulfil it etc)

If its an unreasonable request

• Politely and very briefly say no without explaination ("Sorry, I can't do that").

• Immediately direct your attention away from her and back to the task you were doing. She's only doing it for the attention and you "mini ghosting" her like this completely destroys any point in talking to you. If people around her become aware she got ignored by you she'll lose status so she'll likely take off immediately.

• If she tries to continue to engage you continue to politely say no, but don't give her the reasons. Simply say "I have to do this" and point to your own work. Make it clear your own work is a higher priority than what she has requested, and continue to ignore any other point she brings up, just repeat you have to do this. She will keep asking you "why, why?" But whatever you tell her will be ignored or she'll come up with some random reason to disagree with you. She doesn't care about your reasons, she's just trying to get you to cave and will say anything to force you to argue. Don't do that. Don't justify your current task. Don't give her the reasons. She just has to accept your answer. Period. She's not your boss.

• If she escalates to management, then give them the reasons you think her request was unreasonable, if they ask. She won't have a counter to them because you kept your mouth shut in the previous step and she did not have a chance to make up a bullshit argument why your reasons are invalid.

If it is reasonable

• Make her wait. The longer the better. Never respond to the request immediately. Always give at least a small delay, even if responding immeditaely would make sense. Always make her wait. ("I can do that this afternoon", "I'll be free in fifteen minutes").

• She's trying to show everyone she has control over you. But the one who waits is the one without control, so she'll hate being in this spot.

• Most of the time she'll find someone else to do it for her because waiting makes her feel lower status than you which is the opposite of what she wants to feel. She'll eventually stop asking you for stuff because it doesn't work.

• Always negotiate the request. If she asks you to move a box, you ask her to do something for you in return. (Her: "Can you move this box?", You "Sure, if you can call Alex for me"). Results in a net favour ratio of zero, so she gained nothing. Actually its worse, since doing something for a beta lowers her status.

• If you can, be vague about the time you'll do it. Have clear maximum time frame. If you say by 3:30. Then do it at 2pm. That way she doesn't know when it will be done, but she does know it will be done and the deadline (which you set, not her).

• But do what you say will, and have it done by when you said you'd do it. She'll take your words seriously in future.

• Upon completion of the request don't go out of your way to inform her. If she is able to see for herself its complete, then she does not need additional attention from you to tell her its done. It will look like you're seeking her approval (which you subconsciously probably are. Life time of simp training is hard to overcome)

• She may come back and pretend she needs it urgently. She'll use the word I. "I need it urgently". Women usually word requests in terms of themselves. Ignore the I and find out who actually needs it urgently. Never believe a women who tells you she needs something urgently. Find out the reason, and which person needs it. Then contact that person directly. Half the time she's exaggerating or making it up. Re-negotiate the urgency with that person directly.

• As you fulfil the request make a stupid meaningless request of her while you're doing it. So if you're carrying a box for her, ask her to bring your coffee or pen along for you or something just a meaningless. This puts her in a dilemma. She was trying to win some status by getting a favour out of you, but that gets wiped out if she has to do something for you too. Make sure you do it at the same time, and use the wait time to plan what it will be.

• She'll either do what you ask and feel she got nothing out the whole situation since the net favours balance is still equal, or there's a chance she'll try to bitch queen it out and just say no or fuck it up.

• If she tries to bitch queen it, then call her out on it. Politely but firmly. ("I'm asking you to do something very simple while I help you. Is there a reason you can't do this? It seems very impolite to not help when you're the one asking a favour").

• Bitch queen approach depends on not being called out. If she's able to act like a bitch and no-one says anything, she wins status points. She's so pretty and imporant people let her get away with shit. But if she gets called out, especally by a beta, she loses status. So you have to call her out (but without getting angry or upset, or expecting her to do what you asked. You've won the moment she got called out anyway)

The end result

If you do all the above then women will generally stop asking your for meaningless favours. Female co-workers do this shit constantly and its just someting you have to deal with in a modern workplace.

Fighting back overtly just gets more female attention

You can try to stop the requests by pointing out the gender unfairness. If you're stupid. It will give you a justice boner but that's about it. The women won't leave you alone. They'll covertly group together and undermine you since you've made it about gender and are hence attacking all of them. That's not going your own way. That's attracting all the female attention and making your life harder. Do what I suggested and they'll leave you alone which should be what you really want.

This is a stupid game and I don't want to play this stupid game at work

Mosquitoes are a waste of your time. They have noting to offer you and you just want them to leave you alone. You still have to learn how to keep them away. They won't go away just because you don't want them around and try to ignore them.

Warning

Most women will leave you alone if they can't get things out of you. They might even have a little bit of begrudging respect for you and be a little nicer to you. Someone might even find you vaguely attractive. Just beta it up a little and they'll quickly see you as a non-entity again.

Emotionally untstable women otoh, can get turned a little psycho by being ignored like this. Its extremely hard for them to deal with being ignored. Especially lack of eye contact. It can literally send them into meltdown. If you sense a women is a little BPD or crazy, do all the above, but give them a little eye contact and don't be as blunt. They find being invisible incredibly stressful so simply "seeing" them by giving them a bit of eye contact during the above will be enough to keep them calm.