English is not my main language so I hope everything it's understandable. I'm posting here because after 1 month lurking I think it's the most appropriate suvreddit.

During my childhood I was normal but at middleschool I started getting progressively shy and at 15 I left school because I started getting paid at the orchestra I was playing in and kept going to a music school while I was working aswell. So my social skills are pretty bad because of that. I interacted with mostly people way older than me and at 21 I started to look for someone.

I'm religious so I wanted to look for someone that is aswell but to my surprise I found only girls that had 4+ previous partners wtf? My colleagues told me I'm too picky and I'll never find someone else that had 0 previous relations. I got some funny stories or women trowing tantrums when I tell them that I wasnt intersted after hearing of previous relations.

So after I while I met this girl trough work (she was 17 at the time) and she was a vergin and had mostly my same experience (adolescence spent with music so not much social interaction). So we started hanging around and around 1 year later we decided to marry (I know it's wierd for some but in other religious countries it's not).
I already knew that women are difficult and I've heard the stories of some older man (the most succesful ones mostly) that get divorced and kicked out of theyr home and forced to pay. I took every precaution so that wouldn't happen to me but since she is really religious (and her family too) I doubt anything would happen.

But something entirely different happened. She started to become really submissive after once that I became angry to her because she wasted a lot of money to fix something I could have done myself. So after that she started doing small things to piss me off (I think it's on purpose) and after that when I get angry she becomes again submissive and after that the situation excales in very submissive sex where I dnot even look her on the eyes. We were not this sexual active in the past and this is getting out of hand.

Is this a red flag? I want her to stop to do this little things because its getting annoying. I tryed telling her but she deny the fact that she is doing it on purpose.