It’s been years since I’ve first discovered TRP.

A hopeless romantic I was, struggling to find out why I was so shit with girls.

First, i discovered PUA, followed by TRP.

Book after book, post after post, I sought after the best advice, the best tricks, the “hacks”, the secrets. I was an information junkie. And I have no doubt, just by browsing the subreddit that others are as well.

One of the severe consequences that came with this was “overthinking” and extreme “self-consciousness”.

With almost every situation, with both guys and girls, I would always consciously think:

“Am I holding frame?”

“Am I being alpha?”

“Am I being unreactive?”

“Am I doing [x] , [y] , [z] correctly?”

Key word: “consciously”

You could see why I was an awkward fuck. This pattern of thinking and behaving resulted in severe disinhibition in basically my entire personality and natural self.

There are four key stages of competence:

  1. Unconscious incompetence
  2. Conscious incompetence
  3. Conscious competence
  4. Unconscious competence

Stage 4 is the END goal. This is where everything is natural. TRP and being good with girls is not about “techniques”, it’s about your “mindset”. This is why natural game is the best game.

A lot of you guys probably have problems with your social life. I definitely did. TRP really fucked it up for me like I would never have expected.

I felt the need to get this out there. It’s a massive realization for me. Stop thinking so definitively about everything. Stop thinking girls are disgusting sluts, that they’re bad etc. the power lies within you accepting that it’s the way things are.

Also, self-consciousness is a disease. And that’s exactly what TRP does to you when you overdose on it. Everyone coming across TRP will inevitably go through that stage, but it’s important to move beyond it.