Becoming more of a loner as a MGTOW

mgtowguynow · 2017-04-25T08:10:56+00:00

This happened to me when I first began on MGTOW a couple of years ago and I can say without doubt

MGTOW =/= Social Isolation

Get out and interact with others. Join a martial arts group perhaps, or some sort of social outing that involves a hobby of yours. At first it feels pretty good to sit inside and do fucking nothing but overtime stir craziness does tend to kick in.

Totally understand though, am heavily introverted myself but at the end of the day having people to talk to helps a lot.

fruguy · 2017-04-25T08:21:17+00:00

you have to get a hobby brother. lmk if u need some ideas.

Fearless_Ser · 2017-04-25T10:44:57+00:00

I spend great swathes of time alone. I haven't spoken to anyone in two days.

It's fucking great, ha ha.

2017-04-25T10:55:33+00:00

Other than my hell hole job I love staying home being alone doing whatever I want.

2017-04-25T10:52:26+00:00

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2017-04-25T12:50:44+00:00

You might as well get used to it. I'd rather be comfortably alone than to be around the people who make me feel lonely. Pick up hobbies/sports, take walks, read books etc.

0kool74 · 2017-04-25T13:41:22+00:00

Being alone is a hundred times better than being around people who add no value to your life whatsoever. Seek out venues that have truly masculine men involved in them and little to no typical female degenerates if you want to get rid of the loneliness.

VogaLodamee · 2017-04-25T14:35:31+00:00

True loneliness is sleeping on the couch.

Don't get maried.

get an xbox live sub

sesimie · 2017-04-25T14:14:30+00:00

Self Improvement with everything. Physical,Financial Emotional and even Social. I've found that in the 5 years after My Divorce and Exodus from Social Media, My quality of Friendship has increased and the quantity has decreased. I agree that it can get very lonely and temptation is all around to hook up. But Self improvement builds confidence, and that attracts.

IslandicFreedom · 2017-04-25T15:47:50+00:00

This is why I'm not against friends with benefits.

The last good one I had was really hot, roughly 10 years younger than I was. Found her on some dating site, and just came out with it. Told her I wanted to pick her up in my car and we would just drive and see where we ended up. And so I did.

Absolutely nothing happened that time. But it was fun to get out and about rather than being stuck in doors.

2nd time I invited her to my place. Since I wasn't all blue pill around her, trying to get her to love me etc or even a hint of that shit. She slept over. Back then I used to drink, so we just bought a shit fuck ton of beer and sat there talking and drinking. We went to bed later and fucked.

3rd time I took her to a night club, we danced (I fucking hate dancing). I felt zero attachment for her, so decided to see how she interacted when she thought I wasn't around, so went to the bar and ordered a drink and took my time and noticed the wolves try to pick her up. Typical bullshit if you're out with a girl even slightly attractive.

But it did come with a price, listening to her bullshit about previous guys or guys she was interested in. Consider this tax for sex.

In the end since we lived fairly far apart we saw each other less often. But I'll see her again next month for old times sake.

2017-04-25T16:15:08+00:00

Just before The Buddha died, he made sure to leave us these final instructions about women: Don't look at them. If you see one, don't talk to her. If you must talk to one, be mindful and maintain self-control.

You're following that advice. Good for you!

Jax_Gatsby · 2017-04-25T10:53:30+00:00

yeah, I can relate. Sometimes i feel okay when i'm alone and other times I feel really lonely.

sendnudesb · 2017-04-25T17:47:11+00:00

This is the part where you buy your dream car and stay up to the wee hours of the morning every night working on it for 5 years straight.

Also I am VERY happy in being alone, idk if you are built the same or just haven't reached that level yet.

theunconquored · 2017-04-25T13:02:35+00:00

OP, do you think that you're an extrovert? Are you more energized around people than you are by being alone? Or are you more energized by spending time by yourself?

reptilianoverlord94 · 2017-04-25T20:25:24+00:00

I felt really alone last night. It was a public holiday, most people were with family. I was in the cold walking home. I realised that this would be my life inevitably if I go mgtow indefinitely and you know what I'm ok with it. It's taken about a year but I can finally say I'm ok being alone. It's not going to be easy but it'll save me alot of heartache and pain. Plus I can virtually do anything anything at all.

andzzaco · 2017-04-25T14:17:13+00:00

I'm pretty lonely too but I usually just play video games and find friends that way. I already have a group of friends that play at least 3 times of week, so I fill up my social meter that way.

TheocFetoh · 2017-04-25T16:34:52+00:00

My loneliness started to dissipate the more I started to read and enjoy stories on MGTOW.

I guess maybe I used to believe I was lonely, but when I started to read more and more about other people that liked just doing what they wanted, I felt less so.

When I really feel lonely I go and visit one of many friends and family in the area.

Fictitiousfallacy · 2017-04-25T17:49:59+00:00

You only feel lonely my brother. There are many young mgtow and some young people that aren't mgtow that are in your same boat.

I'm 24. Something I've done to combat that lonely feeling is trying new things. I recently built my first computer, I've taken an interest in martial arts, Brazilian Jiu Jitsu specifically, and plan on taking some classes (able to do this with the money I save on not going out/ girls). I've started to learn more about a lot of things and I've become a lot more curious in general. You have so much more time on your hands dude. Sure it's nice to just chill, watch some Netflix or whatever, but never forget to keep improving yourself! This may be the most important idea of mgtow, self improvement.

You'll find if you occupy your time trying to improve yourself and expand your knowledge, you'll feel less lonely and less bored because your mind will be more focused on what you're doing.

Sure I still get lonely at times, but remember it's just an emotion, it passes. Nothing, especially emotions of that sort are permanent. Keep your head up my man!

Do_I_look_like_I_giv · 2017-04-25T14:17:18+00:00

I think if you're from ages 16-30 MGTOW isn't exactly what you should do with your young years. Live it up a little. Party, dance, have fun with good friends. Just anything you can do with good friends... See if you can get a girl. Start a healthy relationship. After you reach 30+ yrs you can make an informed decision if you truly want to go MGTOW, since you will know more about people and how things work then.

From ages 16-30 is when most people peak, you've got your best looks in this gap so why not put yourself out there and have some fun with it?

zero119 · 2017-04-25T15:23:21+00:00

I read from a fellow mgtower (sry forgot name) that being lonely is same thing as being horny. When you are bored, nature wants u to reproduce.

Hopefully it'll go away as you age.

For now, just masturbate and pick up some new hobbies.

2017-04-25T15:57:08+00:00

I was so very relieved not to be in a relationship, so I wasn't lonely initially. After about six months I started feeling it a bit.

So I joined some meet-up groups what talking wasn't really required - Hiking, photography and indoor climbing. I also went to the gym. That did the trick.

I talk to a lot of people at work as well, so I really appreciate peace and quiet at home.

1176LN · 2017-04-25T19:48:26+00:00

I was a loner to begin with, and highly introverted. MGTOW hasn't changed that. But growing up with nothing but BP mates means I have very few avenues for release. Luckily for me I'm big into techno and the whole underground scene. Through that I've made a ton of new friends in different countries and at least once a month, often more, I travel to another country, go rave with some people, then retreat back to my cave. Works for me.

dirtydog113 · 2017-04-25T20:51:23+00:00

My current job sees me spend a lot of time alone...I work 12 hour night-shifts, alone , and deal with minimal amount of others at work .I love it. No one to give me the shits.In bed all day , then up to do my workout. I can see in the future it will change ,and I am accepting of this ..will deal with it when the time comes. Loneliness is more a state of mind when your bored I believe

2017-04-25T22:10:06+00:00

You're not lonely, you're bored. Join a sports team.

Title	Becoming more of a loner as a MGTOW
Author	B12D2DHAEPA
Upvotes	75
Comments	52
Date	April 25, 2017 7:58 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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