When I first started reading TRP, I saw this post, and scuffed at one of NightwingTRP's post about attitude and ego. I wanted to learn the tricks and gimmicks to actually “manipulate” girls into begging me to reverse cowgirl them in the back of my car. After doing A TON of dates, I realized that if I read every post on TRP and could only internalize one, it would be this one. If you have the right attitude and mindset everything else will fall in place.

So what is the right attitude? I am me, and this is my life, and I am going to do everything to maximize my enjoyment, despite the cost to others. If could go out and have fun at the expense of someone’s money over mine, guess what? I’d do that because my money is my money, and its worth more to me because its mine.

How do you get to the point where other people do shit for you and treat you like a king? You have to respect yourself. Respect is not so much earned as required. You get it from requiring it from others. If they don't give it, you leave. They eventually fall in line. When enough people fall in line, your words become more powerful and you can just plainly command people. If you don’t get respect, you still win if you leave because it probably wasn’t going to go well for you anyway. Archwinger said it best in one of his posts: “When a woman is being shitty, just leave. No pussy is worth putting up with bullshit. You are better off with no female prospects whatsoever than with a shitty girlfriend. Having a shitty girlfriend is like having cancer. Most days, you feel okay and live your life, but in the back of your mind you know that something is slowly eating you alive. You invest a lot of your energy and resources to keep the shitty parts of your life at bay and enjoy the good ones, but as time goes on, it takes more and more out of you. You slowly get used to more and more shit until your life is actually kind of unpleasant. Having that shitty girlfriend tumor invading your organs becomes part of your identity. Your life.” If you keep a girl like that you are just setting yourself up to have an absentee girlfriend — she’ll endlessly disrespect you, bitch at you, and probably flake. The minimum she has to do to get something out of you is proportional to how much she respects you as a person.

How do you come off as a high value person who get people to do what they want for him? Just live your life and have fun. If you think it’d be funny to go up to a girl and say, “hey aren’t you the girl from tinder” or something stupid, do it for your amusement — It's your life and you have to do what YOU WANT. If she’s interested, she’ll let you know and won’t keep you in the dark, guaranteed. You are more likely to score with a girl when you’re doing things for your amusement than when you try to please her.

Something I struggles with valuing myself. I confuse DHV with impressing people (and you really should bother doing either of those things because they actually hurt your chances). As it turns out, mentioning wine, your talents, your time, your connections, or any other value that you can provide with whatever goodwill is associated with your name, actually ruins your chances with women. Don't even mention things that are "free" to provide like niceness or compliments or validation either. Make it about yourself. If you give a women alcohol, she’ll take it. If you give her your dick, she’ll take that instead. What do you want her to take?

This is an exercise one of my mentors gave me:

There is one question that you need to be able to ask and answer so automatically that you don't even think about them. "What can I get for absolutely free?"

That means no mentioning wine, no mentioning your talents, no mentioning your time, or any other value that you can provide other than whatever goodwill is associated with your name. Don't even mention things that are "free" to provide like niceness or compliments or validation. I mean absolutely free.

Examples of not free:

  • "I have some wine, want to drink it in my hot tub?"

  • "You look really nice today, what's your name?"

  • "Can you please come here?"

Examples of free:

  • "Want to hang out tonight?"

  • "What's your name?"

  • "Can you come here?”

Then he told me: I see a lot of inherent value in who I am. If someone compliments me and I accept then I see it as me who's doing something nice for them, rather than the other way around, because I deemed them valuable enough that for only a small price of a compliment, they may be acknowledged by me. When I next people, I don't think of it as an action against them. It's not something I'm 'doing to them'. I have a lot of value, even just associated with my mere existence, and they aren't entitled to it. I'm not wronging someone by not offering myself to them. I have a good product and they need to earn it.

ESH’s toolkit consists of attitude and boldness.

I really like how NightwingTRP describes attitude in this post. He states: “Attitude is all about the inner monologue going through your mind. In my opinion, this is the most important part of any interaction. I say this because I strongly believe your attitude and ego are the foundations which underlie your frame and your ability to respond to tests. I have also now had two women later tell me how they "internally felt" my attitude within 15 seconds of meeting me. (One of them even got it literally word-for-word)” and “Typically speaking, along with developing the right attitude to symbolise your superior SMV, you'll also develop a bit of an attitude like women don't matter. Actually, they don't. They're just another part of the world. Most things don't really matter in the grand scheme. All you really need is food, water and warmth and you'll survive. Everything else is gravy. You can survive, you can achieve your life mission... you can do most things without women.”

These are the things he reminds himself:

  • I am entitled to touch her body

  • I am the God of my own little world

  • She’s worth just as little as the next slut I am here to have fun. Whatever happens, happens.

  • All women are sluts. You will now go prove this.

  • I am going to walkaway if I choose.

  • She is here on my whim.

Acting bold just always works. I don’t know why, but every time I don’t think and just act, it always goes well for me. If I want to approach a girl, and don’t have an opener, I just walk up to her, and say the stupidest thing I can think of, and it works! Boldness is the answer for everything.