An older woman I've been chatting with tells me that I don't know how to develop friendships, tells me I have to bring something to the table, what does she mean?

KartagoPill · 2016-06-27T04:57:19+00:00

Dude, don't follow people's advice thinking that old women are "wise" and that they know it all.

Look for what YOU want.

If you want to fuck, if you don't want to waste time "knowing each other", go find girls that are willing to accommodate. AKA young plates.

Look, she's a post wall hag, she wants to corner some provider by feeding him the "you need to bring something to the table" bullshit. That's what she means.

yomo86 · 2016-06-27T04:46:15+00:00

Two things:

Not sharing your past or only fragments of it is actually the wisest choice you can make if you are not (yet) a machiavallian. Women are better at spinning the truth so if you are not just do not tell and let uncertinity rule.
Women desire access. If you have obiously nothing to access or the perception is you have nothing you are done. Imagine women friendship. What is the most smallest denominator? Synergies! A fat girl gives a pretty one validation and the pretty one provides access to Chads. As soon as one provided the benefit or if there is a better benefit from a third party a fight is usually the end of said relationship. This is why my sister-in-law has to search for a new circle of friends at least once a year.

mordanus · 2016-06-27T06:19:30+00:00

Stop letting women dictate who you become. They guide you with shit tests and then drop you once you let them control you. You gain nothing by letting women shame you into being what they want you to be. The fact that what she said bothered you enough to come here is proof you need to unplug a hell of a lot more.

talcobh · 2016-06-27T05:20:12+00:00

take other people's advice with a grain of salt, especially if they say it in a matter of fact way like they know it all, probably a good sign they are spewing BS. I agree with your perspective, I've found that sharing too much with people too quickly is a quick road to rejection and awkwardness, whereas if you are a little bit reserved with what you share about your life, you come across as more mysterious. I think people focus way too much on the conversation part of things, all u gotta do is not make any major fuck-ups and generally demonstrate you're a normal human being who can communicate well, and outside of that just take a woman to do interesting things/be entertained, its more about what you do than what you say because women like a man of action and a man of intrigue, not a man who babbles on about his own life/existential crises etc... they have GIRLFRIENDS for that. So don't worry about what she said, just know to take a girl to good places and know where to find good women, thats all.

[deleted] · 2016-06-27T07:43:35+00:00

She's actually right. To develop healthy friendships, you must bring something to the table. That's how it works.

Since you mentioned that she isn't worth investing, you aren't doing anything wrong.

HiGuysiamkewl · 2016-06-27T05:58:32+00:00

It just sounds like shes trying to guilt/manipulate you into telling her something that you're not comfortable sharing. Red flag #1

casemodsalt · 2016-06-27T05:02:12+00:00

Sounds like too much effort imo. Just make some shit up

KartagoPill · 2016-06-27T07:29:41+00:00

I stopped telling people about my life and their advice is completely useless. It's funny how I can laugh on their advice not knowing my FULL truth. We doesn't learn everything about each other ever.

StuttBuffer · 2016-06-27T11:05:15+00:00

You don't need to concern yourself with being more transparent, particularly if you just want to bang. She's probably giving you this line about not knowing you either because she isn't attracted enough to you, or because she perceives you as already invested enough in her that she can leverage sex to get more investment out of you.

Or, you might just be negotiating sex too explicitly. Could be she's actually ready for some dick right now and you just need to escalate. Continue to be mysterious or just move on.

redpillbanana · 2016-06-27T11:42:22+00:00

A great quote from another thread is very appropriate here:

she didn't give me advice that would help me, she gave advice that would help herself…

This is all you need to know about advice from women...and from most people.

FUCKING_HATE_REDDIT · 2016-06-27T12:50:00+00:00

You'll get a lot of bullshit advice here, for example telling you that the old woman giving you advice is totally trying to find someone to set her up for the rest of her life.

A friendship is mutual support. If someone is there for you in hard times, you should be to him/her, if someone listens to you talking about your life, you should too if they want to talk about it.

Developing friendships requires time and effort, but it's a very rewarding experience. It helps us to keep an external opinion to prevent us getting too extreme about anything, it fills our need for social interaction, helps stave off depression, and once you graduate and aren't surrounded with an open social environment, they help to keep links to the rest of the world, and not just end up another middle-age workaholic.

[deleted] · 2016-06-27T12:45:31+00:00

The sidebar... get on it

Fish don't know how they ended up in the boat, it just happened, so fishermen just need to be themselves, and not worry about lure, bait, times of day etc

JamesSkepp · 2016-06-27T13:22:51+00:00

what does she mean?

She means "You should post this to askTRP, where specific, personal questions belong".

redpillschool · 2016-06-27T13:50:12+00:00

/r/asktrp

Title	An older woman I've been chatting with tells me that I don't know how to develop friendships, tells me I have to bring something to the table, what does she mean?
Author	gareiu
Upvotes	2
Comments	15
Date	June 27, 2016 3:59 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/4q1g52/an_older_woman_ive_been_chatting_with_tells_me/
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