My sweet, kind lovely coworker has a secret boyfriend. She has been hitting on me for a months

Cybermgtow · 2017-01-03T16:43:36+00:00

She was doing her secret boyfriend on new years! ;)

Also don't quit your job over this girl! You really thought about quitting just because of her?

Cybermgtow · 2017-01-03T16:31:55+00:00

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SamCasey98 · 2017-01-03T17:33:16+00:00

As soon as a women figures out association with you increases her value, she is involved you. She will assert you have some kind of social commitment to her despite what her connection is to any other male. If she starts an association with you and she knows you are not the best she can do, you are at best her Plan B. You might remain the top Plan B for a long time but as soon as the upgrade she believes she deserves turns up, you are on the way out.

UtopianKing · 2017-01-03T22:29:43+00:00

Women are never single, they say they are, but aren't. (Another way of viewing it is that they are always single, because they do not commit to a relationship, the current guy is just being used) But if it happens that someone is actually single they club/"party" the shit out of their life, or they are somehow damaged and live with their cats.

UtopianKing · 2017-01-03T23:35:58+00:00

I was in a serious relationship with a girl a long time ago, I stole her from another man(I used to think that I was so alpha for doing that). I have always been way too paranoid and I hated the idea being out-maneuvered, though I have been gradually lowering that over the years to a level that I can actually enjoy life.

Anyways, I got myself a second cellphone and one day when we were at the mall I send her a message where I said that "I saw you at the mall just a minute ago, who's the guy you were with? -Your secret admirer;)" I've had pre-written the message and pressed send from my pocket. She got the message right when I was standing in front of her, so she wouldn't suspect me. She told the admirer that I was her boyfriend and asked the admirer who it was, and I(as the admirer) asked her to have coffee sometime to find out.

To my surprise she told me about the messages after thinking about it for 2 hours. I told I was pleased that she was honest with me.

Anyways.. some time passes by(a month, a two or so), then one night just before I was leaving to work, we got into a fight, it was a little fight over something mundane like whose job was it to clean the kitty litter box when I was late for work. There was no shouting, nothing like that. Then when I was driving to work, my other phone beeped, she'd texted:

"You still up for that coffee?"

"What about your boyfriend?" I asked.

"Everything's changed" She replied.

"Can you tell me, with whom I am having a coffee, who are you?" She continued.

"Sure. This number belongs to..." I answered, then I sent the rest with my own phone "..me."

Nothing, total silence.. I was furious but felt a slight satisfaction at the same time.

After my shift I packed my stuff and never saw her again. After quite some time she began bombarding me with messages for about a year. I never gave in. I've heard rumors that she's married to some poor guy now, living in a small town and the ex bf (one before me) beta orbited her for a while and got fed up with her shit too eventually.

I do realize that I might have caused her behaviour by planting the seed of a mysterious admirer, planned my own demise so to say.. but I suspected that it was just a matter of time: she and her sister got invited to pool parties by her male co-workers, men asked her for "a walk" and all that.. she had began to nag more and more.. lying about minor mundane stuff. And remembering how she used to cheat her previous boyfriend with me in their bed, while he was watching TV in the next room. We went for "walks" during the night, in truth we were fucking in the shared laundry room or under the night sky. If she did that to her bf then, I wonder what she did behind MY back.

Her mother used to be(still is, I guess) an alcoholic and disappeared for days at times. There were 4 siblings and they all looked different from each other, and even the "father" told me once that he suspected that none of them were his.

It all makes sense to me now that I review these things:D why I am telling all this? A cautionary tale, perhaps? Because someone may find something from this or even realize that he's living it right now.

Kingw3 · 2017-01-04T02:22:35+00:00

A similar situation happen to me where a girl was flirting with me for a while at the college gym. I never pursued because of my MGTOW mindset. One day I was looking at pictures on Instagram that were taken on campus and I happened to find a picture of her and her secret boyfriend. I laughed and said "I'm not surprised AWALT" to myself.

max_potential_ · 2017-01-04T04:44:05+00:00

I had met a girl in a club the other night and she seemed pretty cool. We danced a bit and she asked me for my Facebook. After adding her and chatting a bit, I was surprised she was responding to me so well, because most women I meet are very bitchy.

Punchline: I see a FB post of her daughter. She's a single mom. NO THANKS.

csehszlovakze · 2017-01-03T21:25:07+00:00

lovely, kind, helpful, sweet coworker, who has been hitting on me for a month

if it sounds too good to be true then it almost always is :)

throwaway_cage · 2017-01-03T18:30:09+00:00

I have a gf right now and no delusions about what eventually becomes of it. I like her but I know she'll be itching to slam her clam elsewhere if she isn't already. I'll be glad to have my freedom back when that happens

DWShimoda · 2017-01-03T21:11:30+00:00

Edit: Every time anyone asked the bitch what she was doing for new year, she would say nothing. Yeah fucking right.

Oh hell... you misunderstood, when they asked what she was doing, she said kn0thing -- which means Alexis Ohanian is already cheating on Serena Williams -- with your coworker (or at least she's been fanatasizing about him).

;-)

2017-01-11T05:03:27+00:00

I'm experiencing something very similar. I've worked with this young, intelligent, beautiful woman for almost 5 months. Within the first month she was sending me SFW selfies. Then we were texting back and forth. Then we started hanging out. That was when she (finally) friended me on Facebook and I learned that she was engaged. AWALT.

Title	My sweet, kind lovely coworker has a secret boyfriend. She has been hitting on me for a months
Author	Cybermgtow
Upvotes	22
Comments	25
Date	January 3, 2017 4:27 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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