Going to share a cautionary tale with you all as a hard warning you can use to share to your blue pilled or quasi redpilled friends. I'm entering the field of Life Coaching and Hypnotherapy, while not my original dream profession it is something I have become passionate about as it is tools that can seriously help people in life. For example my friend has been volunteering to help me with class work and he has really turned his life around and is generally happy in life. A life coach with a MGTOW philosophy can't be entirely too common so it's valuable perspective over the it's all your fault for having penis crowd.

Today's horror story comes from this week's work. This week we are learning love languages and relationship coaching (consoling deals with the past, coaching deals with what's working and help you strengthen it, though I do plan to get certified as a therapist as well). At first impression an eye rolling "owe great" subject till I got into the meat and bones of it and found it is actually some pretty solid stuff as it delves into finding out how you perceive love and working with couples to help them better understand each other's method of perceiving love and giving love. Probably not the most MGTOW thing you've heard, but it won't be my major either.

Moving on so the assignment we had this week to was to either self evaluate to familiarize with the tool or do a coaching session with the tool. A female classmate did a coaching session, and keep in mind the point is never to break up relationships, but to strengthen them, but she goes and ruins another relationship. Instead of using this tool to help her friend better communicate with her husband and catching her friend using irrational language (always, never, over generalizations) she instead abuses it to validate her friends bias and drive her toward leaving her husband when a 3 year old child is involved in this situation.

Worse is that she seems to think she did a good thing. Keep in mind I'm pretty much excelling at this course, but when I have had to review others work, I've found them screwing up on some of the basics, not listening between the lines, not hearing the hesitation and doubt in their clients, and so on. Even watching professional coaches and evaluating the session while other classmates scored them really high, my review was scaving because it failed to meet most of the criteria and the coach spent too much time validating and rapport building rather than asking challenging questions.

After all I've seen, I'd be hesitant to ever see a female coach for a relationship issue. They're not entirely all bad, but I believe amongst my classmates only 1 or 2 out of 12 were worth their snuff, at least on individual assignments. I would say use this as the only example of what to expect, but take caution going forward. A great coach can help you reach incredible heights, a bad one will sink you into the abyss.