MGTOW - Meet Ups, Boarding Houses, & Roommates?

thrownaway_MGTOW · 2015-06-28T18:13:32+00:00

It seems like meet ups of MGTOW men are few and far between and when suggested it generally gets shrugged off as what is the point.

Because being MGTOW isn't really about MGTOW -- its about everything ELSE in life.

So instead of looking for an "MGTOW" meetup, look for and join "Meet ups" (or other groups, etc) that are ABOUT something else.

Some hobby (say woodworking) or some activity (biking, sailing, etc) -- or even profession/job/skill related -- chances are that if/when the group is large enough... say 20 people or more; then -- and especially if the interest/activity is a "male" type thing -- chances are that you WILL end up meeting a couple of other guys who are either MGTOW themselves (but may not wear it as a label, or even be aware of the acronym... they may just be "bachelors" or "guys not currently in a relationship" etc), or alternately who are "MGTOW friendly" (aka older guys who may be married, but are in somewhat dead or flat marriages/LTRs, or recently divorced guys who are not {at least yet} desperate to chase pussy/get screwed over again, etc.)

but I'm missing the male brotherhood I had with my old college roommates

Sadly this is just a natural consequence of adult male life. It happens to EVERYONE by the way.

You just don't really ever form those kinds of friendships again -- at least not in large numbers, nor with anywhere near as much time spent with each other -- and to some extent it's just because you're NOT "students" anymore, you're an adult now with adult jobs and adult responsibilities, and also ironically enough with your own "adult home" (so you're less of a "transient" who is out and about seeking somewhere to "chill", you can now "chill" at home) ... and that's generally true even without wife/family.

thrownaway_MGTOW · 2015-06-28T18:37:16+00:00

I'm not a history buff, but it seems like boarding houses have went the way of the dinosaur. I wonder if a few decades from now they will be as commonplace as they seem to have been in early 20th century literature. Thoughts?

Actually I think they were more of a "temporary" phenomenon of a VERY specific era, a result of a need that developed under a sort of unique set of conditions that really no longer exists (at least not in the developed "western" nations -- I think such things ARE in fact fairly common in newly developing/industrializing countries like China & other SE Asia nations, as well as several African countries/regions).

What conditions?

A rapidly growing YOUNG population -- lots of young guys (especially young guys) heading into some big city/urban area for jobs (typically factory jobs, etc) -- or conversely even today in some rural area that otherwise lacks housing (for example the fracking/oil drilling "boom" area in the western Dakotas in the US -- lots of "dorms" & boarding houses out there right now).
An absence of modern "transportation" -- i.e. few or no subways, no cars (or else cars were uber expensive and beyond reach), etc -- which means people basically needed to either WALK or else ride a bicycle or obtain "rides" etc; end result was that people wanted/needed to live NEAR whatever jobs (especially factories) existed.
Some major limitations -- even if it was just because of a "boomtown" phenom that was playing catchup -- in terms of the supply of high-density housing (especially full blown apartment buildings each w kitchen/bath). Whenever those were in short supply, and assuming authorities allowed alternatives to develop (which at the time with minimal regulations they did), then inevitably homes and other buildings (old office buildings, etc) were converted into dormitory-style boarding facilities (i.e. it's a helluva lot easier, and cheaper {more profitable} to take one of the bedrooms or offices and convert it into some big shared bath, and stick a kitchen or cafeteria somewhere else, and then to stuff bunk-style beds into various the other rooms -- than it is to make separate kitchen+bath apartments for everyone).
The absence of other remote housing -- and along with the lack of transport in #2 -- things like modern "suburbs", whether it be of individual small homes, or arrays of apartment buildings, etc... well they just hadn't (yet) had a chance to be developed & built (that takes time, and an affluent society, not one in the midst of a great depression, plus of course it requires laborers, who themselves have to be "housed" somewhere nearby).

The end result of that "collusion/collision" of those forces or phenomenon... meant that for probably a decade to two decades (and possibly more depending on when you define the "start" & end -- both of which were probably a bit "fuzzy" and ramp-up/taper-off on either end of the era) -- well for that brief period of time, the "boarding house" became a relatively common thing.

But, as the "boom" matured -- i.e. the initial exponential growth began to slow down into an "S-curve" and even started to "plateau" or "peak" & decrease -- then the affluence from the boom (along with the aging of the men workers & their desire to get OUT of the limited "rooming house" & have more space) meant that OTHER construction & housing option began to catch up with the demand... so people moved into apartments, or multi-unit homes, or private houses. And suddenly the boarding homes were no longer so profitable -- so the owners allowed them to decline (that's how you continue to extract a profit, or even just meet a budget in the face of declining demand, by putting LESS back into the place) -- in time they, and often the surrounding buildings aged/deteriorated and became ghetto or even hell-hole like problem areas, and got abandoned -- or else repurposed or even subsequently "gentrified" etc; either way they disappeared.

About the only LONG TERM housing that is of a similar nature -- i.e. boarding house/dorm style -- would be things like monasteries & convents (and of course college & university dorms, but those are exclusive to "enrolled" students).

2015-06-28T17:39:52+00:00

I'd live there!

paracog · 2015-06-28T06:51:17+00:00

I've given thoughts to the idea of boarding houses as well. Of course, in the past, getting fed cheaply required someone providing a lot of labor, a woman usually. Now of course it's inexpensive and convenient to get meals a variety of ways. As for the camaraderie, this does seem to be of a bygone age, as well as the result of generations of feminist well-poisoning of the culture of male spaces, equating them with abusive environments to women. Much of what is left is around corporate sports, which is very unsatisfying. I do believe there will be a resurgence of male groups as the mythology that defamed them becomes more widely viewed as misleading. Perhaps LAN gaming groups will end up in houses together, with places tech'ed up the ass and cheap to rent as a group. I'm an old fart and live peacefully with another old fart. He's more a mgtow by default, having been screwed over so many times he doesn't have the heart to try any more. I've been consciously single for going on 25 years, actively grateful most of the time for being this way after a full on nightmare of a marriage. I'm eligible for a VA home,and there is a beautiful one in my area, with all needs taken care of, but I'm not sure I can be around that much military vibe.

Title	MGTOW - Meet Ups, Boarding Houses, & Roommates?
Author	MGTOW_Dude
Upvotes	3
Comments	16
Date	June 28, 2015 4:46 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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