How to deal with growing sexual needs and lack of companionship

2016-07-23T16:02:56+00:00

Jerk off and make friends. It's not complicated. Men without strong bonds with other men are susceptible to emotionally predatory women. Companionship and belonging is an important part of self actualization, which is a key component of this philosophy. We wouldn't be here if we didn't value social interaction on some level.

2016-07-23T16:44:23+00:00

Having sex with drunk girls is very bad advice, don't do it.

aanarchist · 2016-07-23T11:49:54+00:00

find a not so attractive girl and beta bux her for all kinds of emotional validation.

paperlion60 · 2016-07-23T13:48:16+00:00

look guy, loneliness is something you develop in your mind, it isn't something that comes to you. You choose to be lonely, rather than accepting solitude. I have neveer really felt lonely except for when with a group of people. When I'm alone, I feel at ease.

oldredder · 2016-07-23T13:56:46+00:00

porn doesn't do that for most men but if that's a personal situation for you, ok then.

There is no connection to have. Most women are too stupid, shallow or predatory to make a real connection.

Having a girlfriend is just a way to fuck up every part of your life that's not you getting companionship, then realizing you didn't need her after all but the damage is done.

nigelh · 2016-07-23T17:36:58+00:00

You are actually kidding yourself about 'sexual needs'. You are placing yourself in situations you respond to sexually (tv/film/etc) or just bored. Do something interesting with interesting people. Get some OW in your MGTOW.

assumenothing8787 · 2016-07-23T11:59:56+00:00

I don't like this fuck and move on thing.

Who said you have to like it? If you don't, they will fuck you over and then move on. So it ends worse.

SpaceObama · 2016-07-23T15:02:15+00:00

You say porn is a downward spiral, yet you list two options which are also downward spirals that have the added risk of STDs and rape charges.

Pick your poison carefully. But realize that happiness comes from inside you, not from outside. If you desire love, it is that desire that is the true cause of your suffering. Not a lack of love.

Zombocom1911 · 2016-07-23T15:11:45+00:00

Very good question. It is the most brutal fact of life that its so hard to obtain sex with women we find truly attractive. Anyone can fuck fat old pigs, but who wants that? So yeah, it can be beyond frustrating to be a man with his basic needs not being met. If you really don't have options to have sex with the level of women that you find attractive, then your only option is prostitutes, and consider going to a country where its legal, because the cost and choices available will be so much better. I agree that porn is not the answer.

2016-07-23T15:37:03+00:00

Many of you mgtows might scorn the idea of a "spiritual path" but really that's the only answer. That and intellectual .. self realizing pursuits.

When I am faced with the same struggle you talk about right here I usually will bring my self to a famous taoist like Lao tzu or a philosopher like nietzsche. People who felt a need to go far off somewhere to practice their own path. Because it's very hard to do so when you are around the influence of everyone else and especially now with the legit programming from the media and television.

So even if youre an "atheist" doesn't mstter. Check out these stories of wandering zen monks or taoist sages who would walk the Chinese mountains and find such enormous bliss in... drinking a cup of tea in a small shack.. spending an hour appreciating a twisted naturally formed rock. Watching the clouds flow in and out of the mountains. Seeing the uniquenessand power of every bending and curving pine tree.

These men truly truly went their own way. And I'm sure they had sexual urges growing up. Probably not as intense as we do today because of all the hypersexual programming since birth.

But they still went off. And found enormous peace with out and so called companion. They made a stream their companion. A bull or a dog. And they meditated and practiced cultivating techniques to enhance their senses and get to experience nature even deeper then any of us could. Probably as much as we would if we ate 5 grams of mushrooms.

I've asked my self your question so many times. And in the past couple years the answer was never in depending on some one else. Take the step and take responsibility for your own content. It's only then can you start to learn what makes you feel at ease. Then pursue it with all your heart and mind.

2016-07-23T15:44:53+00:00

Also. Loneliness is most felt in a group of people that one feels they can not relate to. And when I've been alone and felt lonely.. it wasn't because I was physically alone. It was because I carried the entire society with me in my head even when I'm alone.

Alone and lonely are vastly different

2016-07-23T15:49:58+00:00

Look, you need to wake up and look at this from a more rational and scientific perspective.

That 'connection' you feel is brain chemistry. There is nothing special about it.

Human brains have evolved to encourage breeding and social bonding. The mind signals the release of oxytocin, from the pituitary gland, which creates those good feels when you make a 'connection' with a woman, a friend, a parent, or even a pet dog.

Oxytocin is sometimes called the trust hormone or love hormone.

That's it. That's your (anyone's) 'connection'.

chronoic · 2016-07-25T04:48:25+00:00

My friend, it seems MGTOW isn't for you. My advise is look up Slavery, that seems like something you may enjoy more.

Im_Justin_Cider · 2016-07-23T13:40:34+00:00

Speak to your mother and find out why she didn't love you as much / in the way you needed.

2016-07-24T02:10:40+00:00

True Friends With Benefits.

abandonedthrowaway32 · 2016-07-27T06:30:17+00:00

Honestly I think option 2 is better for you. Quality time with no strings attached.

Option 1 will bring you false rape accusations and child support charges.

CinematicRacer14 · 2016-07-23T13:23:10+00:00

Sexual transmutation. Transmute all of that sexual energy and put it into your career.

Benny757 · 2016-07-23T13:39:58+00:00

Connection is a delusion.

Ornim · 2016-07-23T13:50:30+00:00

Having a girlfriend sure seems to have its goods parts and I don't know how I can replace them.

lulwut?

2016-07-23T15:32:32+00:00

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Title	How to deal with growing sexual needs and lack of companionship
Author	manthrowaway3
Upvotes	0
Comments	29
Date	July 23, 2016 11:48 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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