"We've had a lot of ups and downs"

Me2Brah · 2020-01-01T14:27:05+00:00

9/10, the “ups and downs” of a relationship are caused by women’s BS emotional responses to either insignificant events (and her need for drama) or life changing events (and her need for constant validation that it’s all about her even when it’s not).

Sir_manalot · 2020-01-01T13:36:31+00:00

Relationships are a power struggle (because of women’s preferences) and this has always been known.

SOLOMONICS · 2020-01-01T15:13:00+00:00

It’s not the “new year, new me” bullshit anymore.... it’s posting a long winded, multi paragraphed verbal diarrhea for validation. And then next week, back to the same cryptic messages like “I’m done” and “I’m over it #UGH.”

Iqbal40862715 · 2020-01-01T13:40:18+00:00

Great call!

Conatus_Hawk · 2020-01-01T19:53:38+00:00

I find the Stockholm Syndrome comment eye-opening. Epiphany like.

CertainCrow1 · 2020-01-01T20:25:23+00:00

Can confirm...I'd post that crap as well just to try to appease her... I knew it would never be enough. This was after her bitching that I never praise her in Facebook. This despite me explaining i jus don't use it.. it isn't a slight against her.. I wouldn't even have it if no for pics of kids etc.. she even got to point where she wanted to make sure that everyone knew our daughter was 'gifted' because of all the extra time she spent with her... pretty sure it doesn't irk that way lol... how I never give her enough credit..like arr you serious? Can't you just let people pride your kid and take a backseat? I'd rather they get all the credit personally.. but He's a narc/borderlone type I believe. Her mother Def is a narc.

Heck.. it's finally about almost over but even 1.5 years ago while debaying moving into my own place would still post crap like that to try and appease.. so there probably a ton of guys who think she's a bitch but from social media everyone life looks rosy... you're right it'd basically Stockholm syndrome. . I started llaing confidence to make even really simple decision's and hard to concentrate at work. . Like life was overwhelming and for longest time still tried to appease her because I thought it was the right thing to do.. well that and I guess I was afraid she might take kids back to her home country and I'd be a Skype dad

starfie121 · 2020-01-01T18:59:54+00:00

I would also take a moment to reflect on those contacts of yours, because it seems like they may not be the best. I saw many friends (who are women), share and express their love for the man they are in a relationship with. So I would look at the quality of people who are around you as well, maybe?

NewFrontiers001 · 2020-01-01T23:31:05+00:00

Why are you using social media? I stopped using Facebook 10 months ago. It's easier for me to stay focused on my goals without the time-sucking distraction of social media.

Title	"We've had a lot of ups and downs"
Author	desertkingsidewinder
Upvotes	118
Comments	17
Date	January 1, 2020 1:10 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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