I would like to list my thoughts on this "being yourself" subject. I'm not an experienced poster, so yeah.
Be yourself, is (rightfully) percieved as to be the way you are, as in the way you are right now. However the person that recieves this advice is very often not his real self, he is a creature with a conditioned mindset. Conditioned by... why, external forces of course.
Sitting around and watching TV 5 hours a day, is his conditioned current self. But given that he is a genetically average man, that is not his true nature, because it is in man's nature to perform. To perform is both a burden and intrinsic nature. One would argue his current self still follows his stimuli addiction, something inward; therefore his natural self. But such excessive behaviour would never take place if he wasn't convinced that this is an acceptable behaviour. Or maybe he is addicted to TV, because he is chosing to numb his mind down in order not to feel the misery that is called his life. I would argue such an addiction is not a natural aptitude. His natural self would not completely cut the TV off, but simply watch a TV show or a movie once in a while. Entertainment from stimuli is natural, being addicted to them your whole life is something different.
I would attribute the uninfluenced natural man these traits: in his own frame, approaches a girl when he sees something he likes, athletic, muscular (but not over the top muscular necessarily), reasonably social, dominant in relationships, curious about the world, observant etc.
A lack of danger and lack of need to chase game, as well as lack of need to fight makes the modern man sloppy. That's why we lift, to create the environment artificially, to balance it out.
The belief that men and women are the same poisons the modern man, so he treats the other sex the way he wants to be treated; he acts in accordance with egalitarian beliefs. His egalitarianism allows him to take the advice of the opposite sex, in matters of courtship, which makes him fail harder.
The belief that he would creep out women if he shows his attraction in a way a healthy male does, cripples him with fear. He can't look at women comfortably. He can't maintain eye contact, as his "natural" reaction is to avert his eyes to not make women uncomfortable. The act of approaching a woman almost terrifies him, because he thinks it would terrify the women and be labeled as a creep. This does not cause a cognitive dissonance with egalitarianist belief, as men and women are the same; but men are bigger and scarier so it makes sense a woman would be afraid of him. After all, men have been able to oppress woman just because they were stronger brutes. It was not through merit of intellect, but by physical fascism that men took control. So his sense of justice at least tries his damnest best not to threaten a woman, *ever.
His frame is a jelly, as he never embraced his masculinity. The concept of being a man is... like.... so 19th century. Thus the modern man has never been truly comfortable in his own skin, as he betrayed his being through rejection. This is an abandonment of his self that causes inner identity crisis. Nothing in nature rejects itself, but the modern man. A fish does not claim it is not fish. A river, likewise. Even a virus can be considered more virtuous in this regard as it does not reject it's being by trying to act like bacteria.
These problems make him a low excuse of a man. Further, the world reinforces this through mirroring. Jocks mock him, bully him, girls don't seem to be interested in him. So he further degenerates and degenerates until he hits rock bottom. Maybe he discovers here, TRP. Now he learns everything. A true world unveils before his eyes. After grasping some concepts, he feels empowered. Alas, his torment is not over.
Now he begins to imitate the masculine ideal, chad thundercock, the ultimate alpha. If he becomes alpha enough with sixpacks and the body of Thor; girls will swoon over him, men will respect him, the world will bend over to get fucked by him. In his quest to become this demi-god, he secretly laughs at plugged in beta men at every opportunity. Maybe he becomes a pickup artist, or a gym-rat, or both. Depending on his discipline, he might actually be succesful in attaining his goals. Maybe he can pull girls out of bars, or achieves such a physique that girls check out his abs with saliva in mouth. Men want to be him and woman want to be with him. Or maybe he just gets these at a more minimal level, depending on his commitment. The problem is, he is not a happy man. He lives life through an emotional roller coaster, with ups and downs. He still feels toxic shame inside, still cries like a child and if something goes wrong or takes him by surprise his magnificent looking frame crumbles in an instant. He behaves as idgaf, but he gives a lot of fucks.
That is because he never tried to be himself in the first place. To express his desires, to expand his will, to actualise his nature. He is still in a cage. The way to unlock his cage is to accept his nature, the nature of a man. Obviously he is in a high security prison, so he can't get out through his mere merit of nature. So he needs a plan, knowledge, discipline, courage and toughness to make out of the prison. That's where TRP knowledge comes in. It guides you in this wretched prison that is your conditional self. It advises you to lift, approach, get your shit together. It provides invaluable knowledge regarding women, attraction, dynamics and human nature. It is not a substitute to your identity. But remember it is a tool, it is a weapon. It is not to make you someone you are not. This is to make you, the real you. As it is in man's nature to improve himself! By trying to stop imitating the alpha and being yourself, to be the man inside that wants to improve; you will become alpha... who just doesn't give a fuck. I am not preaching some new age hollywood bullshit make-believe by the way. That real you I'm talking about is an animal. It is a beast, not some woey goey emotional stuff. This is not about being in touch with your feewings. This is more like "Hmm nice ass. I'll tap it.".
Prison Break time bitchez!
[–]BreathOfDick10 points11 points12 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]DaSquariusGreen2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Fezsblind3 points4 points5 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]1favours_of_the_moon2 points3 points4 points (3 children) | Copy Link
[–]mummersfarce_is_done[S] 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]Ohboohoolittlegirl1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Nagicman10 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link