Can people change?

Jessor69 · 2020-05-13T20:41:45+00:00

Lol don't do it bro. Nothing good comes from communicating and 'therapy'.

People only change for themselves. You can never convince others to change.

You did good man, only been a year. get back out there and spin some, women are meant to be a pleasant add to your life not a burden.

Getting over a breakup

HurricaneHugues · 2020-05-13T20:45:18+00:00

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MatheusKeller · 2020-05-13T20:45:21+00:00

Yes people can absolutely change, if not, why even bother with TRP. With that said it’s still unlikely that she will change. What I would do is keep her as a plate and if she actually changed gradually give her more attention (plate ->fwb -> ltr).

HurricaneHugues · 2020-05-13T21:27:30+00:00

Maybe? But why should you wait for it to happen when you can find someone else that already fits the criteria you're looking for? Why waste time?

"Broke up with her yesterday and completely shattered her world. Since then she recommended space and seeing a therapist, thing is, I just don’t know if people like this can change? "

Dude, you already broke up with her. Who cares what she says? That's stuff she should've done, I don't know, BEFORE the relationship was over. That's like you quitting your job and your boss calling you the next week to tell you that there is a meeting tomorrow to discuss company issues. Who tf cares dude, you already left. That's not your problem.

Delete her from your life.

TheGirlGetter9000 · 2020-05-13T22:02:10+00:00

So, did you break up with her or not?

If yes, proceed to ignore things she says like this. Yes, girls will say quite a bit to get you to stay.

Domebeers · 2020-05-13T22:47:15+00:00

imagine coming to a redpill site and posting "she's very much in love with me but..."

Imagine coming to a redpill site and writing "I broke up with her" and then following it up with "we've been talking about therapy (since the break up)"

lulz

ViolentInteger · 2020-05-13T23:20:31+00:00

We fight and argue routinely

Never argue with a woman.

usually finds a way to get arguments from anything

"I know I can get his attention and control him with arguments, since he's easily taken the bait in the past, so I'm going to do it again now!"

I assume she wasn’t always like this.

Well, either your vetting abilities are dog-shit, or your poor leadership lead her down this path.

Since then she recommended space

"because I immediately smothered her for validation since I'm a good little beta-boy..."

I just don’t know if people like this can change?

You shouldn't be giving a shit. Your LTR is done. Someone in the intermediate or advanced levels of RP theory could still flip this into a temporary FWB situation, but that's clearly not you.

amwfhunter · 2020-05-14T03:37:17+00:00

Demote her to plate status. And yes people can change. Esp women and their feelings.

SoggyBeefNoodle · 2020-05-14T07:01:51+00:00

Broke up with her yesterday and completely shattered her world.

Good

Title	Can people change?
Author	drapermeetsdapper
Upvotes	1
Comments	10
Date	May 13, 2020 8:29 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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"Broke up with her yesterday and completely shattered her world. Since then she recommended space and seeing a therapist, thing is, I just don’t know if people like this can change? "