I have a gut reaction to look to the other person in the group for approval when I have an argument with someone and I'm stressed. How can I change this?

alphakari · 2020-06-01T03:34:26+00:00

Too worried about being wrong, and not enough familiarity with being proven right when the majority is wrong.

If you argue about shit that can't be proven, then you're arguing about shit that isn't of consequence. Quit it faggot. Or at least realize the best strategy with that type of shit is gonna be to act like a filthy Machiavellian politician, which is gross to non-sociopaths, but I respect the skill.

If it's shit that matters, in the end if you're consistently right people will naturally lean towards looking to you for the right answer. You won't need to force their support. Carry yourself like you know that to be the case, and that even if you end up wrong you'll handle it right.

Foend · 2020-06-01T00:10:41+00:00

Why? In normal human behaviour that's how a leader of a group would signal they need assistance.

2020-05-31T23:47:43+00:00

Meditation & cold showers

It's works on your ability to stay focus and stay grounded.

Also internalize that you are enough.

PrettyBarbiePerson · 2020-06-01T00:21:50+00:00

Try not to raise your voice

acoltismypassport · 2020-06-01T02:02:11+00:00

Your first mistake is getting into an argument in the first place. 'Think as you like, but do as others do.'

I'm not saying never speak a contrary opinion, just... choose your battles. If I'm in the presence of SJWs, I won't actively bring up a topic which could create some serious disagreement.

Snowboard18 · 2020-06-01T00:13:49+00:00

You have to become more confident in yourself. You look for the approval of others because you lack confidence in yourself/what your saying.

Lift. Spin plates. Abundance mentality, those are a few to get you started, they changed my confidence a lot.

Btw don’t argue unless you need to, shit doesn’t really get you anywhere lol.

Title	I have a gut reaction to look to the other person in the group for approval when I have an argument with someone and I'm stressed. How can I change this?
Author	Weeeyerd
Upvotes	5
Comments	6
Date	May 31, 2020 11:44 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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