joining this subreddit has been such a fresh breath of air. it made me realize how much bullshit i tolerated not only from the men i've dated, but the people who i thought were my friends. i was extremely depressed because nothing felt right and i always thought, "is this my life? is this how it's going to be for the rest of my life?" the people i surrounded myself with negatively affected me, but i kept them around because i thought they loved me, but love doesn't tolerate disrespect and have its highs and lows.

you let people treat you the way you treat yourself. hold yourself to a high esteem, because you deserve it. love yourself 100% so that the people who come into your life have to go above and beyond to make you feel special.

i joined the fds discord after a couple of months of being in this subreddit and i've never been in such a positive, welcoming community before. there are so many different women from all parts of the globe coming together sharing similar experiences, and it's so crazy how we bring each other up. i've made friends who so dear to me, and we talk to each other about things outside of dating. overall, it's a space where we can be vulnerable with each other without any judgement.

if you're reading this, please join the discord! we would love to have you and share your insights with each us <3