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LIES MEN TELLtake1990/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 07:04 PM
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#KickHimOut2020take1990/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 03:36 PM
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DISCUSSIONtake1990/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 02:08 PM
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DISCUSSIONtake1990/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 05:09 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYtake1990/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 10:35 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYtake1990/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 08:47 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYtake1990/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 07:12 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYtake1990/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:13 PM
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NAH, SIStake1990/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:54 AM
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LIES MEN TELLtake1990/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 02:47 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYtake1990/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 09:33 PM
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NAH, SIStake1990/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 12:57 PM
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RANTtake1990/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 06:52 PM
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NAH, SIStake1990/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:58 AM
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DISCUSSIONtake1990/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 02:59 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEtake1990/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 09:02 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEtake1990/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 09:16 AM
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DISCUSSIONtake1990/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 02:08 PM
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NAH, SIStake1990/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 08:19 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYtake1990/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 02:08 PM
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💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 10:58 PM
89

Definitely some sort of past trauma for that cat from men and dogs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 07:10 AM
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I needed to hear this today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 12:59 AM
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👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 09:32 PM
3

This!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 03:23 PM
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Horrifying 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 08:57 PM
2

Absolutely! Nothing is “free”, they’re literally profiteering off a pandemic but no one says anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 11:12 AM
9

Bob’s feeling insecure by these strong successful women and does not know how to process his emotions so resorts to pathetic sexist “jokes”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 12:42 PM
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In a relationship but still lonely, reality of many women during this pandemic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 11:06 AM
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Another one who refuses to respect a woman’s boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 11:04 AM
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Ugh 😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 11:01 AM
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I’m shocked too! Seemed like a busy road and no one stopped?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 07:09 PM
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She’s brave to share her story. I’m sure the post will wake a lot of women up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 06:28 PM
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Wow this is so accurate! My ex had money but it was definitely about control and keeping me in my place during the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 04:22 PM
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Bullet dodged!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 01:39 PM
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He’s a HVM no doubt. So affectionate and kind. 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 12:40 PM
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I used to feel guilty about blocking and would send polite explanations about why we are not compatible even after they’ve disrespected me. Not any more!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 07:55 AM
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Hopefully she dumped him after this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 06:49 PM
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I love his calm masculine energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 09:48 AM
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I don’t think so. He lives like a student with his friends, can’t do his own laundry or dishes, is not established in terms of her career and is nowhere ready for the responsibilities that come with marriage. He’s looking for mommy to take care of him and is a total LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 09:46 AM
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Cameron seems great. Successful, well mannered, emotionally stable and affectionate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 09:44 AM
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I’m hooked! I wasn’t a fan of the first couple of episodes, it didn’t make sense how they built connections so quickly but may be that’s just the editing. But watching pickmeishas fight over an average looking fuckboi who thinks he’s a catch, is always good trash TV. Just a reminder that if you have to chase a man and constantly second guess if he’s into you, then you’re acting like a pickmeisha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:25 AM
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Absolutely! And she chases and obsesses over the biggest LVM fuckboi. It’s interesting how high value women were repulsed by the fuckboi whereas the pickmes started fighting over him. This show is brilliant for analysis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:07 AM
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Men on OkCupid who are 38+ but who say they’re not ready to settle down baffle me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 06:57 PM
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👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 06:53 PM
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Yeah literally everyone knows about valentines day even if they’re single. It sounds like he’s avoiding putting in the effort to plan something special. Sorry OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 06:51 PM
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Even if you find a HVM, never ever be dependent on a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 06:49 PM
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Pickmeisha logic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 06:45 PM
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This summarises modern day dating. I had the exact same experience with my ex but then I found FDS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:11 AM
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This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 10:13 PM
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👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 11:10 PM
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Thought the same!!! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 11:04 PM
1

This. A card and a small cutesy gift is enough. Let him plan the day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 09:07 PM
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Absolutely. OP has been an adult for a few months whereas he’s been an adult for 5 years! There’s a HUGE emotional and life experience difference between 18 and 23. He sounds like a predator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 09:05 PM
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😱 These apps literally have zero liability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 08:59 PM
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This is 💯 true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:08 PM
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Anyone who would not want to date you because your real age is outside their desired age range is not worth your time anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:02 PM
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I’ve been seeing this guy, not exclusively dating. But that aside, he told me he doesn’t mind fucking few girls on his way to finding a relationship on OLD. I’m 28 and want to get married around early 30s. Girl, why the hell are you entertaining this sleazy LVM? He’s already got what he wanted from you. Cut your losses and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:53 PM
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I HATE the “Hey! How are you?” messages. It’s so low effort and they copy paste it to send it to every woman. If you respond with “Good thanks, you?” it’s just a dead conversation so it basically forces the woman to come up with a response that takes the conversation forward. I honestly cannot stand OLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:44 PM
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I wonder why they recommend poly subs to FDS subscribers 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:35 PM
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And many of them are so pornsick that even though they’re deeply racist, they still want the submissive petite asian wife because they see them as objects.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:33 PM
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You need to stop looking at these subs. I only follow female oriented subs on reddit and never check out the “popular” page. Same with my youtube, I avoid toxic misogynistic content. I don’t want to voluntarily bring negativity into my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:23 PM
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Yes because there’s no roaming or wifi in foreign countries in 2020. 🙄 Goodbye to flakey unavailable men!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:34 PM
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I agree getting ready for a coffee date is a total waste of time and effort. And by declining all coffee dates, you are weeding out low effort LVMs anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:31 PM
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r/Proposal is a hidden gem. The amount of pickmeishas planning proposals is too damn high.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:53 PM
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Come on we are neighbours!!!! 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:32 PM
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He’s totally pushing her boundaries and make her believe that something is wrong with her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:27 PM
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Absolutely. It’s like he’s bargaining for a free escort service and has no shame asking for sex from a total stranger on date 1! He seems like a total slimeball and OP should have quit the chat when he suggested a low effort coffee date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:25 PM
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Exactly! Can’t take selfies? No family or friends to take photos? No social life?! OP dodged a bullet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:00 PM
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Yes, we can appreciate that she looks great for her age without using terms like “wall”. Because if we only celebrate women who look like fitness models at age 50 then it suggests that if you do age gracefully, with completely normal body changes, then you have hit the “wall”. Let’s have realistic expectations for women please and not succumb to LVMs’ fantasy for women to look juvenile forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:54 PM
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Youtube for Shallon Lester, School of Affluence, Chloe_ and Sheraseven1 (although I disagree with her advice to only date old and unattractive men/ sugar daddies).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:40 PM
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Yep! Like it’s some limited time offer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 10:36 PM
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Good point 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 11:20 AM
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🤣 Damn I have dealt with so many ducks who seem like swans. So many LVMs pretend to be HVMs in the dating phase that’s why FDS protects women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 11:08 AM
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Haha accurate!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 11:04 AM
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One of her comments: We have talked about it alot, he actually us the one who brought up "thinking about a ring" drunkenly like 4 years ago. And y'know you just cant say that to a girl cause it gets stuck lol. I've pestered him about it since then. Mostly kidding, we've talked about it. Hes said things like he just doesnt know how to do it, hes anxious about the whole idea of having to propose (he has a bit of performance anxiety and just general anxiety in other parts of life too), and he has s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:55 AM
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Patriarchal puppy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:50 AM
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Do you have any meetup groups in your area? Always find them better than OLD to meet new people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 11:28 PM
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They want benefits on the side while being single and looking for their dream girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 11:20 PM
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In the past when I used OLD, if the guy seemed like a potential HVM but was too eager to swap numbers, I just replied “I’d rather chat on the app for now” or “I am not comfortable swapping numbers so soon”. But I replied only in rare cases where there is genuine potential, otherwise simply ignore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 11:16 PM
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Damn so true! Met a guy last year who said that he does not like planning dates in advance as he prefers to be ‘spontaneous’ as it’s more fun and exciting. When I said that I have a busy schedule so can’t do spontaneous dates, he basically ghosted me. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 11:02 PM
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They talk about women from these countries as if they’re buying a phone and looking for reviews. Truly sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 10:55 PM
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Same! I am no longer wasting my time using OLD apps and going on dates with LVMs, and am having more time to socialise and try fun activities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 10:43 PM
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She's not even a woman to him, just because he feels emasculated by her height. Basically this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 10:38 PM
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It’s just a cold, not coronavirus. What’s his deal?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 10:35 PM
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Glad this has been posted. Tired of people comparing FDS to MGTOW. One is literally about ‘going their own way’ (whatever that means, just bitter men who hate women) whereas the other is about strategies for improving your dating life and relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 02:26 PM
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💯 So many of then follow pornstars and weird kink pages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 08:25 AM
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Why do you want to date casually?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 09:16 PM
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I’d say it’s ideal. Ask me what I want and then plan it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 09:00 PM
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What everyone else said. Also, trust your gut feeling. If you feel uncomfortable, leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:57 PM
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He thinks he’s soo funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:55 PM
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Hobosexual🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:48 PM
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So. Damn. Accurate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:46 PM
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Same 🙈 LVMs LOVEEE long walks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:44 PM
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A vulnerable child with mental health issues, possibly looking for a father figure and source of love / care. 100% grooming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:40 PM
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Haha you’re right! I looked it up, he wasted 6 years of her life only to tell her when she was 35 that he does not want children 😨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 07:51 PM
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They 100% use it as a free prostitution service. And I know women who would happily sleep with a man on the first date, with zero investment, because they truly believe it’s sexual liberation. So unfortunately it does work for some men, even if it’s a small pool of women who are happy to have no strings attached / FWB arrangements.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 07:41 PM
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I’ve spoken to my guy friends about this. They’re usually on multiple apps, usually Tinder, Bumble and Hinge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 07:37 PM
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I wasted so much time of my life using OLD apps and going on dates with LVMs, only to be let down each time. Now I’d rather spend my evenings trying out hobby classes and events rather than forcing connections with strangers online.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 07:33 PM
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I had the exact same problem with Hinge. Men would match and expect me to message them first. OLD has truly made men delusional, they think they’re the prize and women need to compete for their attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 07:27 PM
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Best analogy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 10:02 PM
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💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 10:00 PM
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I am really curious to know what he looks like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 10:43 PM
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Unfortunately he still blames her for his anger issues!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 10:12 PM
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Looks like a Goddess!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:01 AM
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👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 11:00 AM
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👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 01:40 PM
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Total nightmare situation! 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 01:34 PM
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👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 09:32 PM
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I honestly can’t tell if he’s trolling or if he is serious with this question! Men on OLD are just something else, imagine asking that in person to a stranger.😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 07:08 PM
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Same here. I made a post about it a while back, so done with OLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 06:00 PM
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Link to article: https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20200121-why-promoted-women-are-more-likely-to-divorce
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 05:09 PM
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Yeah I just can’t 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 07:00 PM
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You could try meetup groups? There’s something for everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:45 PM
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Agreed. Watching sports and playing video games are NOT real hobbies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 07:35 AM
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OLD has truly made them lose touch with reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 07:31 AM
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I’ve had the same problem, I’ve met most of my female friends through work or friends of friends. Out of curiosity, what are your current hobbies?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 07:22 AM
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I agree with you that we shouldn’t just dismiss blatantly obvious facts for the fear of being perceived as judgmental/ not so politically correct. She is a good looking woman but her need to stand out and look different from other women is obvious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 01:58 PM
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You summed it up quite well. So many guys who are “adventurous” and “free spirits”, travelling all the time and being so active. You almost feel guilty saying you don’t have any trips planned and you’re spending the weekend watching rubbish reality shows instead of skiing / hiking in some exotic location. Hate OLD and never want to go back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 10:46 AM
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I truly want to be able to do this. Why play “nice”?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 10:40 AM
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This girl is totally lost. Many of her “popular” videos are about how she hates MGTOW and incels, mocking men. There’s also videos about how she’s a feminist, mocking the concept that women should submit to men, bashing housewives and religious women. Now she’s attacking FDS, defending the nature of men and shaming women for having dating standards. Going through her videos genuinely made me confused, like WTF do you actually support?! She just comes across as a virtue signalling hypocrite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 10:13 AM
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That’s what I’m thinking with all these “reaction” videos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 09:45 AM
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I wasted my time skipping through this video. She literally has ZERO points to actually debate the principles of FDS. All she does is make childish faces, rolling her eyes and mocking all the points she disagrees with, like a rebellious teenager (which she actually looks like). This woman is a classic Cool Girl™️, she totally overlooks all the posts and comments where women have spoken about men using / abusing them through the process of dating, instead she only focuses on points that will appe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 09:07 AM
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That second chart blew my mind! The next 20 years are going to be interesting to say the least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 08:51 AM
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Yes this made me physically anxious and uncomfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 11:15 PM
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The comments on the post make me SICK. We truly live in a pornsick society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 11:13 PM
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It’s disgusting that reddit hosts such subs, turning a blind eye to the content of the posts. I’m not saying that the men will change if reddit deletes these subs, they’ll go somewhere else, but atleast it will send out a message that this is NOT okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 11:08 PM
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What I’ve also noticed after joining this sub is that HVW support other women and bring out the best in them. Whereas pickmeishas see other women as competition, and if someone is out there improving their life they will try to bring them down to their level, discouraging them from raising their standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 10:54 PM
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💯 Reminder to not get blindsided by a man’s career / success
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 09:14 PM
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Absolutely! And he is supposed to be a doctor 😨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:43 PM
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Full article : https://metro.co.uk/2020/01/18/surgeon-accused-rape-deceiving-woman-sex-without-condom-12080435/amp/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:13 PM
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Yes someone please explain a bit about discord, genuinely interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:15 PM
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Omg yes! I’ve had pity swipes and even pity dates. My standards also kept dropping as time progressed, luckily I found FDS and now I cannot stand OLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 02:39 PM
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I hate that question too🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 12:12 PM
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Absolutely. Women needed to put up with all the BS from men for money, to have a roof over their head and to basically survive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 12:04 PM
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This is great. I’ve been bob the builder myself, motivating and pushing my ex to get a degree, apply for jobs, get a car etc. Only to be cheated on. His excuse was that I was nagging him too much and was too demanding! He literally would moan about the cost of the train ticket to come and see me. Our “dates” were mostly me cooking for him or going for walks. I was a total pickmeisha, probably would have married this man, I’m so glad he cheated on me! 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 10:38 AM
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Majority of my friends in “relationships” spend their time moaning about their boyfriends, I don’t even feel like meeting them at this point. It’s the same issues over and over again, but they won’t leave these LVMs for the fear of being single in their 30s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 10:31 AM
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Textbook narcissist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 10:18 AM
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That’s good. It’s day 1 and I’m missing them a bit, realising that OLD was my go to activity when bored. Will find other more fruitful ways of dealing with boredom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 10:17 AM
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I deleted all my OLD profiles yesterday (made a post), I will NOT miss such interactions. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:53 AM
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Nothing like being someone’s sex toy and therapist while they get over their ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:50 AM
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🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:48 AM
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I’m suspecting some ultra-garbage LVM is training these men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:45 AM
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I bet someone found this amazing male specimen on OLD, their natural habitat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:40 AM
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MY GOD he sounds super toxic and manipulative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:36 AM
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Exactly 🤮 Don’t “babe” me, ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:35 AM
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Accurate!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:28 AM
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She’s dealing with an entitled spoiled child not a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:07 AM
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Oh man. Waited 1.5 years for a guy to feel “ready” for a relationship. His excuse was work / finances. I was happy with crumbs, meeting once a month or so, being his best friend and mom over the phone everyday. It was total pick me behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:04 AM
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On a side note, why was the creep looking at her phone anyway?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:01 AM
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This is too cute! Proof that HVMs exist and that you bump into one when you least expect it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 07:45 AM
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Haha so true! It did feel like a homework assignment every day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 07:40 AM
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Yes it’s the same cycle repeating itself over and over again, so exhausting. Glad you’re feeling better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 11:08 PM
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While Kate looks better each year!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 11:06 PM
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😂It’s funny because he has such a girly name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 11:04 PM
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Seems like it’s a saved response that he sends everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 11:01 PM
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I’m guessing he has a very low IQ from his responses. He sounds pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:59 PM
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My ex was ALL ABOUT hiking and walks in the park dates. He actually shamed me for wanting to go out for dinner dates, saying they are unhealthy! And he wasn’t even fit. Now I can clearly see that he was a stingy broke LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:53 PM
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She was brilliant in the movie! HVW energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:48 PM
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Great response to a low effort message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:46 PM
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Love cute gestures like this one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:42 PM
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That’s the goal 👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:29 PM
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My sex drive doesn't control me. This 👏🏽 And honestly, I don’t need men for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 07:07 PM
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I sometimes even suggest video call. Too much effort to get ready for a date, commute and then commit certain time to a man only to be disappointed within first few minutes. I’ve been able to weed out a ton of men just through phone / video calls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 05:49 PM
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Sounds like you found a good therapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 05:43 PM
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This is so true. Last time a guy told me his best friend is a woman, it turned out to be an ex and guess what? They’re married now. So yeah, he’s definitely in the friendzone and waiting for his chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 11:38 PM
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Just another fool who feels worried that women are after his little pocket money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 11:33 PM
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I’m glad FDS exists to protect women from such psychopaths.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 11:25 PM
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Haha he went from “wanna stop by” to “take you out for drinks or dinner” 👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 11:08 PM
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It has 67k members... like wtf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 11:02 PM
7

“Girls want to fuck one guy a lot and guys want to fuck a lot of different girls once. Just biology dude you forgive yourself by accepting what you are as a male. It is what it is. Cheating is just some bullshit term used to marginalize one person and allow another to be a victim. It doesn’t allow people to accept the true nature of men and women. Women cheat when they find a better option, men cheat because they need to fuck. Anyway your girl seems like a soldier, so I’d just make it official w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 10:59 PM
8

I thought it was a troll but then I went through her posts, it’s actually quite sad. She’s obviously someone with very low self esteem. Her relationship sounds toxic. Hope u/spiritualgangster29 finds this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 10:51 PM
35

Absolutely Edit: Just checked the screenshot. It was indeed a man, a 38 year old bitter single man. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 10:47 PM
6

He’s not by her side on one of the worst days of her life. It’s clear he has zero care or sympathy for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 10:42 PM
10

Yeah childhood with multiple parental figures in and out over the years sounds very healthy. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 09:22 PM
10

I guess they need all the support after being bullied and ostracised in school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 09:16 PM
18

Yes! It’s a Shera approved instagram page with her quotes: https://instagram.com/quotes_by_shera_7 (sorry I’m terrible at posting links)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 07:11 PM
33

Haha exactly! He used her every way possible and then dumped her the moment he found an upgrade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 06:48 PM
34

And that cringy pic 🤮 Glad OP did not cover it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 06:42 PM
20

When I met my ex he was struggling and unhappy with his job, while I was successful and earning wayyy more than him. YET he acted like he knew it all, constantly belittling and mocking me. Basically he felt powerful after making me feel small / stupid. I’ve realised that LVMs are so insecure about themselves that they mask it with arrogance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 06:40 PM
8

Can’t wait to treat her like an object, neglecting her needs and then label her demanding / high maintenance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 04:06 PM
2

Yeah me too but after I cut it into smaller portions I rip the florets with my hands so they retain their shape. I cant rip apart a whole cauliflower or broccoli though 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 04:05 PM
27

They’re all so pretend happy and “cool”. Do whatever you want with your sex life but I can’t stand it when there’s kids involved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 03:54 PM
1

But why did they delete it?🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 02:59 PM
5

Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 10:28 PM
1

What’s sad is that they genuinely believe that these pics will attract female attention and admiration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 10:20 PM
5

I stared at this pic for wayyy too long trying to figure that out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 10:12 PM
12

😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 10:08 PM
2

I sleep with pillows all around me. 4 pillows in total. 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 10:06 PM
49

People are defending him saying they’re incompatible because his needs are not being met. And then they wonder why women are flocking to FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 10:01 PM
11

Same here! I kept thinking who’s Ian?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 09:56 PM
24

The sad reality is that this is how majority of them think. BTW link to original article: https://www.scoopwhoop.com/Sexist-Quotes-By-Great-Men/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 09:45 PM
8

Same ugh! Like it’s not even sexy, just violent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 09:04 PM
27

Just post his face and expose him. They’ll only care when there’s real consequences to their actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 09:03 PM
11

Sums up my “break up” with my ex, which lasted 6 months. Don’t ask.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 08:32 PM
2

It actually did sound like he was married to her. They even watch netflix together after he comes home from work. She keeps his dinner ready so all he does is just relax after work. Naaah!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 06:24 PM
1

Very true. Not worth it. Mission aborted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 06:19 PM
1

Thanks. Not seeing him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 06:19 PM
1

Wow! Looks like a great sub, will check out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 06:53 AM
49

Yea, it’s super low effort and shows that he does not value or respect her. Like not even an offer to take her out for drinks at a bar?! He’s basically suggesting she comes over to get drunk and have sex. OP I would take a wild guess that it’s a fuckboi.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 11:08 PM
4

Eye opening advice! Thanks. Will explore his situation a bit more when I chat to him but I’m realising that he does not have a healthy dynamic going on with this mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 10:56 PM
28

Absolutely. I wouldn’t even respond to his texts that are not clear questions. He’s sending one line texts, not even questions to engage you, and you are still responding. Don’t entertain LVMs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 10:44 PM
14

Yeah didn’t think of who’s going to pay for her bills once he moves out. Sounds like it’s a lot more complicated if he’s tolerating this arrangement at 32.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 10:36 PM
8

Yes from the comments it sounds like I will have to dig deeper before deciding to go on a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 10:29 PM
17

Very good points. I guess the mother does not want to be on her own so is mollycoddling her sons so they’re dependent on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 10:26 PM
48

He just sounds too casual and low effort. Even in this screenshot there’s plenty of opportunities to ask you out but he’s just stalling, expecting you to put effort and chase.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 10:16 PM
17

Same. Absolutely no time to text men all day long. I have a window 7-9pm where I can text, that too to make plans not to have small talk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 10:09 PM
71

He is so vague it’s getting on my nerves. He shouts ‘salsa dancing’ randomly and says its a joke. Then says he’s going for drinks this weekend, like a hint that he’s free but wants you to ask him out. He does not sound like a HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 10:05 PM
24

First dates should be short. Ideally one hour, two hours max. Also, I have my guard up on the first date, you want to keep some mystery. You might be coming across as too eager / available. I’m not saying it’s your fault, in an ideal world your genuine intentions to find a relationship would be matched. But considering the amount of LVMs on OLD, it’s just not worth investing so much time, emotion and energy on the first date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 10:01 PM
10

That’s my worry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 09:15 PM
10

Yes, sounds like he initially stayed to help out but now has grown comfortable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 09:15 PM
22

This is so true. I told my ex about issues with my family and he started using the information against me in arguments that I am messed up because of my family etc. Your mom is 100% right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 08:01 PM
23

My God that face though😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 07:54 PM
11

“I’m single because I’m not settling for LVMs like you”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 07:50 PM
6

Haha! He seems INTENSE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 07:38 PM
20

Always.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 09:38 AM
12

Off topic but I’m tempted to try this 23andme. Has anyone tried it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 09:36 AM
5

A Woman’s Worth by Marianne Williamson
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 09:33 AM
42

“When you had loads of breakouts” LMAO who even says this to anyone?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 09:25 AM
11

Is he your boyfriend? What’s the context to this conversation?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 09:21 AM
17

Unfortunately there is extremely disturbing content already available on the popular porn websites, all in the name of “BDSM” and other “kinks”. Men have gone from looking at playboy magazines to needing to watch scenes depicting rape and violence towards women to feel excited.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 11:10 PM
65

Pickmeisha of the year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 10:53 PM
5

Well each to their own. (I don’t get the dislikes?!) Not everyone wants a typically ‘hot’ man. I am drawn to intelligence and success in a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 08:53 PM
27

I seriously thought this was a troll post. Not to be rude but you don’t owe a man sex for driving to you or even for paying for dates. He wanted easy sex, he got it, he’s gone. He might come back again for some more. Block and read the FDS wiki.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 08:35 PM
3

I’d take an average looking successful guy over a ‘hot’ successful guy any day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 08:28 PM
3

You tell a man what you like and he’ll pretend to be that for a few weeks or months. But he’s not changing overnight because of your standards / expectations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:59 PM
4

Men don’t care about your emotions, but they care about their money so this is actually great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:49 PM
17

Thanks to FDS this doesn’t surprise me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:46 PM
33

What a pathetic sub!! Seems like they are lurker LVMs who are obsessed with FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:44 PM
16

Hahaha what a delusional idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:39 PM
23

He sounds more self-aware than most men in their 30s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:35 PM
35

Yes but they won’t publish these studies because it won’t even get past all the balding male doctors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:27 PM
7

I deleted facebook because it was full of scummy people like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:21 PM
10

This is so true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:19 PM
22

Omg this reminds me of my ex. He had a Dan Bilzerian style dark thick beard, but when he shaved he looked like a baby because of his round face and receding chin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:18 PM
32

Being a single mom and also working full time sounds insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:14 PM
14

Wow that’s great! Do you mind me asking how old you are?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:10 PM
47

Absolutely. Why would a man who is kind, respectful and loving towards his woman, fantasise about humiliating and physically assaulting her? Men who have these “kinks” are no doubt deeply misogynistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 11:15 PM
48

Yep since when did consent to sex become consent to disrespect and physically assault a person?! Glad you set your boundaries and dumped him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 11:02 PM
57

100%. This stuff should be taught at school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 09:05 PM
33

Agreed. They’re always the victims. I can’t be walking on eggshells around these people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 08:57 PM
22

Chances are she’s going to end up negotiating getting a key, paying his share of rent and sleeping on the floor rather than dumping him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 08:55 PM
8

Agreed 👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 01:00 PM
37

Not my screenshot but completely agree that men can’t handle rejection and that it’s much better to block than explaining why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 11:31 AM
18

I work in the mental health field and wouldn’t agree with this. You’d really shrink your dating pool if you only date men who have had therapy and not everyone who has had therapy is emotionally healthy, eg some people with personality disorders might still have relationship issues. If a man has been raised in a healthy happy home and is able to have stable relationships, he wouldn’t really consider having therapy and it would be unfair to expect him to have it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 10:42 AM
14

I think it depends. Are you dating a guy and trying to fix him through therapy? Because that’s a NO, move on and continue working on yourself to the point that you find an emotionally healthy man. If you’re engaged / married, things are stable but both of you want to improve your relationship further then yes, you can suggest that. But it should never be a demand or an ultimatum, therapy only works when the person is willing to truly open up and engage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 10:24 AM
6

She sounds naive and idealistic. She’ll eventually wake up after wasting her youth on this LVM predator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 10:21 AM
1

He definitely planned a great date and you did the right thing by setting your boundaries, not being the ‘cool girl’. Good luck. Keep us posted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 10:15 AM
3

These coworkers could provide evidence to the police that they saw these pictures? This man should be charged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 10:12 AM
27

So true. Their compartmentalisation game is strong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 10:09 AM
21

What a true gentleman 😍 /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 10:07 AM
67

So he basically groomed a child and expected her to be his loyal sex toy. This is disgusting and scary, hope she is safe and away from this pedophile. Everyone should watch ‘Why Dad Killed Mum’ it’s about a man who groomed a teen, then coerced her to marry him and eventually killed her and her family when she tried to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 09:55 AM
40

Wow not only does he want a free prostitution service but also expects instant replies to his texts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 09:46 AM
18

Disgusting. OLD has truly exposed the nature of LVMs. Atleast they’re not pretending anymore to be gentlemen like they did few decades ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 09:44 AM
25

I love to be respected while doing it. This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 09:41 AM
29

I’ve started to believe that women can be pornsick too. I have a pickmeisha friend who would dump guys because they’re “too vanilla and not kinky enough”. I think when you’ve been with LVMs for way too long, your perception of reality changes and pornsick becomes normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 09:38 AM
12

Ex-cop. Dates teenagers. That’s enough to know that he has some power / control issues and is likely abusive in relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 09:32 AM
31

Either guys just want to fuck with no strings, or they want to "hang out" or "Netflix & chill" until you wake up from a weed-infused Cheeto dust fever dream coma, with both of you having sat on the couch "hanging out" until you're in a de facto relationship with some lazy LV loser, both of you getting fatter and dumber by the day. This is so true! It’s like they have this lazy stagnant energy around them that will bring you down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 09:29 AM
14

Jerred looking for a SERIOUS business partner on an OLD app. Points for being creative though. 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 10:37 PM
12

Love this! We need an app for this. I honestly sometimes can’t keep track of dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 10:35 PM
40

LOVED the response. They all want a nice little girl they can control. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 10:33 PM
33

Accurate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 10:32 PM
14

Need a duck in my life right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:47 PM
22

Same here! We need to have local FDS groups 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:43 PM
2

That’s true. Definitely hard work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:42 PM
8

That’s a good friend! 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:40 PM
1

Haha the first part, how?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:38 PM
3

Yep unmatched immediately. But seen lots of guys who match and then invite you to start the chat on this app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 02:55 PM
13

Absolutely! The guy in the screenshot matched with me, the bare minimum would have to been to say “Hey! Thanks for the like. How are you?” Or something. But naaah these men think they’re the prize and we’re supposed to chase them. Hinge is the only app I have but I’m very close to deleting it and going off OLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 02:34 PM
14

He does seem more “normal” compared to the rest of them, who to me seem pretty guarded and almost robot like. Power to him for choosing to live his life the way he wants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 02:19 PM
32

Man’s straight up illiterate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 02:15 PM
3

This 👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 02:03 PM
-4

“Not looking for now” = happy to keep using OLD, match with pickmeishas who are okay with competing with this woman for his attention. LVM wants to have options in the background, has one foot out already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 10:06 AM
2

There’s an OkCupid study that irrespective of their age, men go for women in their early 20s whereas women prefer to date men around their own age. I wouldn’t even entertain these older men, they’re probably liking / messaging all 18-23 year olds, trying out their luck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 09:00 AM
5

He sounds 100% like a LVM. I cannot date a man I cannot respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:50 AM
4

Ughh he sounds like such a lazy bum. Low effort even with his texting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:46 AM
7

I completely agree. Men are ‘on the prowl’ in these places looking sex, NOT looking for relationships. Why get all dressed up and drunk to get a man’s attention? This is pick me behaviour and unfortunately the only way out is to stop hanging out with this group of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:43 AM
6

Good job. I used to select restaurants for first dates to ‘help’ with planning but nahh, let them think and come up with a plan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:36 AM
7

Had a guy volunteer information on the first date that he was arrested for drug possession abroad!! Went on to laugh it off that it was just some ‘fun’ with friends and how it was an adventure being arrested abroad. I was horrified that he had no remorse about the incident and was bragging about it. Had to literally make an excuse and RUN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:31 AM
13

Same. Ex strung me along for 2 years, he was ready for a relationship at the start, saying he wants to build a future with me etc and then suddenly changed his mind and said wants to focus on his career, not ready for a relationship but still wants to be ‘friends’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:25 AM
6

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with you, that’s just the state of OLD. HVMs on OLD are few and far between. So unfortunately you have to have your guard up and have good weeding out techniques so you don’t end up wasting your time / energy / emotions on LVMs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:21 AM
22

It’s just the tip of the iceberg. If he’s happily volunteering this information by the second text, there’s a lot more he’s hiding. It’s probably a prompt for you to ask what happened so he can minimise his criminal behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:14 AM
40

Women with 6 or more premarital sexual partners are almost 3 times less likely to be in a stable marriage. Interesting article but found some of the points quite sexist, like the point above. There was no such statistic for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:02 AM
5

I found out through Shallon Lester: https://youtu.be/-HSLZaL-JlQ
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 07:42 AM
38

Okay gummy teeth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 11:36 PM
5

🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 11:34 PM
2

Love The School Of Life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 11:26 PM
30

I love over the top romantic stuff like this 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 11:16 PM
7

That’s fragile male ego for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 11:12 PM
27

Not just hanging around but “lots of touching and kissing”. This mans a pedophile and should be reported.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 11:08 PM
5

Haha this sounds like me! My ex got me a CARD for Christmas, no gift. And I used the same excuse that may be gifts wasn’t his love language and I gifted him the 5 love languages book🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 11:01 PM
15

This is actually quite depressing :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 10:54 PM
5

Just discovered it thanks to your post. Definitely following.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 10:30 PM
99

That’s exactly what I thought. Seems like the music industry is full of pedo LVMs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 09:39 PM
28

I’ve been using OLD since 2014 and it’s getting worse every year, as of now I’d say over 99% of the guys are using it as a free prostitution service.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 09:26 PM
6

Argh what’s with all the hatfishing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 03:52 PM
57

I met a guy on a date with NO hair or eyebrows, he told me on the date that he had alopecia, never mentioned it while texting. But literally ALL his photos on the dating app had full head of hair and thick eyebrows. He looked NOTHING like his photos, much older looking too. He said its a chronic condition and he gradually lost all hair over a decade, so his photos online were atleast 10 years old! I left with mixed feelings, I felt so sorry for him but I also felt totally catfished.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 09:22 AM
3

Great. Thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 08:16 AM
13

Best date I can remember: HVM planned a lovely surprise date where I basically just had to get ready and he picked me up in his car, it was like date 3 or 4. He took me out to watch a musical (one I had mentioned during a random conversation that I wanted to watch) at the theatre followed by dinner at a nice restaurant (my fav cuisine). It was sweet because it showed that he actually listened to me and wanted to impress. Worst: LVM asks me to come to a location which is 5 mins away from his plac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 11:01 PM
14

This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 10:32 PM
3

Silly question but what are trusted users?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 10:28 PM
12

👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 10:22 PM
23

Absolutely! ‘Free prostitution’ really sums it up well. They feel so entitled to it and are genuinely offended if you say no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 08:43 PM
8

Yep! Just noticed your comment. Good job finding it😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 06:25 PM
3

Link to the reddit post if anyone is interested : https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/em47o4/my_boyfriend_m34_made_some_depressing_comments/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 06:11 PM
7

Agreed 👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 06:06 PM
17

Absolutely incredible stats!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 06:05 PM
3

Has anyone seen the video where he freaks out over a butterfly? That man oozes LVM energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 09:42 AM
16

This. On reflection, my LVM ex asked me to move in for free by the third month. He paid his own mortgage, and said he won’t need me to pay any rent or bills, as if it was some amazing generous offer from him. Me with my 2017 pickmeisha mentality thought that meant he loved me / was serious about building a future together. Luckily I didn’t move in because it would have meant 1.5 hr commute to work. Long story short, one year later he tells me he isn’t ready for marriage for the next 4-5 years, h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 08:21 AM
17

When he’s using you for sex while still pretending to be single to other ladies? No idea😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 08:01 AM
22

They want mommy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 07:44 AM
10

🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 07:43 AM
17

Love your post. I have had so many “grin and bear” dates in my 20s. I would know within the first 5 minutes that the guy is creepy / rude / not worth my time, but I would be polite and “nice” throughout the date. I would be extremely uncomfortable and on the edge, but wouldn’t say anything for the fear of causing an argument or upsetting the man. We have been conditioned by society to be agreeable and non-threatening to men. I’m glad FDS exists and we are able to talk about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 07:31 AM
18

Love Rihanna. She has so much HVW energy in her videos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 11:35 PM
12

This. Life is too precious to be wasted chasing men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 11:32 PM
27

My ex was balding by mid 20s, bearded and super hairy. Had a caveman like appearance. He was seriously pornsick and eventually unfaithful. I think you’re onto something here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 11:23 PM
49

Disgusting. These men want you to be their disposable sex toy. They don’t even see you as a human being with feelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 11:17 PM
21

Racism and misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 11:11 PM
4

Glad you exposed his face! What a creep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 11:09 PM
7

“Something casual with potential for more” Fuckboi here couldn’t be more predictable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 11:03 PM
2

Haha love this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 11:01 PM
3

“Dated for 12 years” 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 10:57 PM
5

I agree. I HATE texting for ages investing my time and energy, only to be disappointed on the date. I’d say he needs to ask you out within the first week of texting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 10:46 PM
5

I have no words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 10:42 PM
16

So it was all men. 20 million of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 10:36 PM
12

I agree, from my experience POF has been the worst app. Basically anyone can create a profile, their verification system is non existent so it’s full of scammers and fakes. Also, anyone can message anyone, they don’t have a match to message system, so it’s full of creepy men messaging 100s of women everyday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 10:32 PM
7

Yes! A safe space where women can anonymously post screenshots from dating apps exposing these fools.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 10:26 PM
11

He sounds so basic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 10:20 PM
27

OLD LVM once asked me if he can come over to watch a movie and get takeaway (4th date), I said no, he ghosted me. Bullet dodged. I think all guys test if they can get sex by date 3-4, but LVMs would typically be pushy or would disappear. Just observe how he responds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 10:15 PM
5

Some delusional LVM has too much time on his hand to make shitty cartoons / memes / whatever this crap is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 09:57 PM
4

He literally discarded me a month after he cheated, because I was “over reacting” and also blamed me for the cheating saying I was ungrateful during our relationship and he didn’t feel appreciated. It was horrible and I was struggling for months, truly believing everything was my fault. I guess time helps. This was exactly 2 years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 09:49 PM
20

Cringe at “lol” at the end. I’ve noticed that LVMs are so insecure that they constantly need to insult / mock you to feel better about themselves. And they’ll always defend it by saying they were just “joking”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 08:50 PM
6

I had terrible acne right after I found out my ex was cheating on me. I am talking cluster of big embarrassing inflamed spots on my cheeks. I didn’t see a connection back then. I tried all sorts of creams, expensive makeup for acne prone skin and what not, while still trying to fix our relationship. Then HE eventually dumped me because “I was too emotional” and constantly making him feel guilty about the cheating by bringing it up. And few months after the breakup, skin totally cleared up and lu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 08:39 PM
19

Always easier to blame women for all their problems. Seems like some of these men have no capacity for self-reflection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 10:40 PM
2

Eh bullet dodged! You said the right thing, most people would answer along those lines. He sounds scary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 07:59 AM
3

Also r/raisedbynarcissists is great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 07:54 AM
3

Man convince him to audition for r/90dayfiance. I’d love to watch this trainwreck. He sounds as gullible as Caesar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 07:47 AM
13

If you’re both “broke as hell” why propose? Why get married? What’s the rush? If he can’t provide you the ring you want, what makes you think he’ll provide in a marriage? You really need to reflect on this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 11:09 PM
15

Only a LVM would be upset by his girlfriend reading FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 10:58 PM
2

I’m the same. I enjoy cooking, hate doing the dishes / cleaning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 10:52 PM
9

I just want to say this is a great topic. Also, if a man enjoys disrespecting and humiliating a woman in the bedroom, what makes you think it’s any different in other aspects of life? It’s all deeply psychological.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 10:45 PM
27

Sounds creepily like my ex, same age too. He wasted two years of my life, only to tell me that we’re not compatible as he’s not ready for marriage / kids for atleast next 5 years as wants to focus on his career. And he was with his ex for 8 years and they broke up for similar reasons. The only positive is that I found FDS after the break up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 10:24 PM
7

Wow. Would have thought tinder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 10:17 PM
11

Where did you meet this pornsick individual? 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 10:09 PM
13

The mansplaining is on point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 10:07 PM
22

Classic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 09:59 PM
12

Haha what manipulation? So calling out someone’s BS and having standards is now manipulation. 👋🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 09:54 PM
10

Absolutely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 09:50 PM
1

Absolutely 🙌🏽 Women need to stop making excuses for LVMs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 09:46 PM
101

Gorgeous man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 02:30 PM
6

More like Ronda Pickmeisha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 02:28 PM
44

Loved your analysis. I completely agree, it wasn’t just a difficult marriage with some incompatibilities, it was one person being a selfish asshole the whole time while the other person keeps compromising. But may be it was just an accurate portrayal of modern day marriages with LVMs. I think their sense of entitlement was captured well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 07:40 AM
14

Sounds like he sends this to everyone since its one paragraph. Its too soon to judge. I’d just say thanks and not really answer that question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 07:53 PM
6

😂Sounds like a prophecy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 05:38 PM
7

I’ve always found fat / ugly guys to be bitter and vengeful towards women. It’s all those years of rejection and romantic failure. They seem to be the typical “nice guys” and pornsick. Ugh, no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 05:33 PM
10

And why is she looking to have a conversation and try to fix him? RUN. 😰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 05:21 PM
14

Wars are started by men for other men's benefit. This basically. And they call us emotional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 05:15 PM
30

Haha 👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 03:58 PM
18

Absolutely. And he couldn’t even afford a basic cheap ring and had to ask her for money? Yeah, he knows she’s a pick me and will pay for everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 03:58 PM
10

Gold 👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 01:43 PM
16

So he met her when she was a young naive 21 year old, while he was a 32 year old dad of two toddlers. And he stayed with her for 7 years leading a double life, lying to her every single day. Well I’d rather be a 28 year old single mum than be with a psychopath!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 01:34 PM
13

He just sounds so.. lukewarm.. Good riddance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 01:27 PM
19

So this is where all the pedos hang out. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 01:26 PM
9

I really hope the top commenter on the thread is being sarcastic. Being a doormat woman apparently makes you likeable on the internet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 01:17 PM
16

I CANNOT stand men who are happy to sleep with a woman, but then call her “trash”, “slut” etc once they’re done using her. No YOU are the trash person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 01:15 PM
45

He broke up with you. He does not value you. He’s single but is still getting free girlfriend benefits of emotional support and companionship from you. You’re making the break up easy for him and helping him phase you out to move on to the next one. When a guy breaks up with you, LEAVE, cut off all contact and don’t look back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 01:11 PM
25

You’re 19. This is the time to grow and realise your full potential. By wasting your time with LVMs you are not only wasting your youth but also forming unhealthy relationship patterns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 01:05 PM
7

Article link : https://www.cosmopolitanme.com/content/27035-7-women-reveal-what-its-like-to-make-more-money-than-their-dudes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 12:57 PM
2

Just discovered this post and can I just say it’s GOLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 07:18 AM
31

Yes, I would get easily infatuated too, having sleepless nights obsessing over some random stranger. 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 10:12 PM
17

Wow. Hope he’s trolling, if not it’s just depressing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 10:07 PM
37

Haha! Yes been there, was talking to a guy who said he worked long hours (was a doctor) and could “hang out” at mine late after work for the second date, as too tired to go out for a proper date. Blocked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 10:05 PM
38

Unfortunately that seems like the only way to make it stop, as the dating app creators don’t seem to care. Name and shame them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 10:00 PM
6

👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 09:57 PM
5

This 👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 07:13 PM
11

Yes huge red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 07:08 PM
9

Really curious about “I’m a Queen” profile bit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 11:00 PM
4

This. OLD seems to be geared towards men, just “report” or “block” is not enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 08:46 AM
4

Agreed. Not my screenshot, but was so disturbed by it that I had to share to this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 08:43 AM
29

I was videocalling a guy to plan a date, he started “negging”, commenting that my hair looks like it needs brushing. He then asked me what I had for dinner and commented that I need to start cooking more. It was OBVIOUS that he was anxious but trying to randomly neg. Blocked and deleted. I have no idea who this “technique” works on?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 04:02 PM
13

Sounds like you were the pick me and always “helping” him. He’s not a baby and you’re not his mommy. He wants to continue having the mommy benefits. Cut him off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:52 PM
24

Yes. Been there, done that. He was always putting down and criticising the men I was dating. He was also making me feel guilty about trying to move on, claiming that he was “focusing on self growth and not dating”. They’re not your friends, they’re just keeping the back door open.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:47 PM
51

I wouldn’t want to be completely financially dependent on ANYONE. I would never be comfortable with that power dynamic. Also, I need to have a meaningful life outside my home. Part time work would make more sense if he’s earning enough to support the family. But I’ll never quit my career for a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:39 PM
23

Seems like OLD allows men to be their true sexual predator selves with no consequences. If a guy said that to a random woman on the street, he’d be reported. But it’s all cool online.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:07 PM
1

Do you mind me asking what type of therapy you’re having? I am looking to into therapy as I tend to attract avoidant men too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 09:12 AM
5

I tried Hinge recently and even though the guys seemed okay, it was quite slow. I didn’t get as many likes as I did on other apps (tinder, bumble). Even if it’s a match, guys would expect me to send the first text. There were some decent men on there but it was too much effort. I met my ex on tinder and everyone’s right, it’s LVM central but there are a lot more HVM on it just because of pure numbers. The concept of bumble doesn’t appeal to me, I’m not chasing men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 09:06 AM
16

Do not be the nagging mommy. It’s a huge turn off. Just text “Get well soon. Take care.” and leave him alone to rest. He’ll text you when he feels better with a plan for the second date, if he’s truly HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 08:25 AM
10

She said stuff like “its my fault” “i am crazy”, like WTF! But its a major self worth and self love issue here, no one can “save” her while she still “loves” him and puts him on a pedestal, she needs to wake up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 06:06 AM
9

That’s why I need to stop being the “nice girl”. This woman is walking on eggshells every single day of her life because she doesn’t want to be perceived as needy or nagging. While he doesn’t give a fuck. And he’s also made her feel guilty when he should be the one saying sorry and proving that he cares!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 06:03 AM
18

I personally think of it is as a spectrum. On one end there is the “perfect” HVM (which you might be right is a unicorn) and the other end the most garbage abusive LVM possible. Most men fall somewhere towards LVM or centre and the goal is to find someone who has a lot of HVM qualities, but he won’t be perfect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 05:52 AM
5

If you’re in a relationship, discussion about texting/ communication is needed. Don’t be the cool girl if he’s not meeting your standards / emotional needs. Edit : I agree with other posters that something doesn’t seem right. You need to re-evaluate this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 04:55 AM
19

It’s trashy, I wouldn’t want my boyfriend to be visiting a strip club. It is disrespectful that he didn’t discuss this BEFORE he visited the strip club. He’s basically acting like he’s still single with his LVM friends and you are an afterthought.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 04:47 AM
3

That makes sense. I hate going to places on my own so going with a few randoms from meetup just for company would make sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 04:39 AM
3

Where do you find social events? Have you tried eventbrite or meetup?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 04:37 AM
44

I’m glad someone said it! I used to like him but I’ve slowly realised that he is misogynistic and narcissistic. He is 30 but acts like he’s 16 for views, it’s not funny anymore. Also he seems obsessed with Japan and it’s culture. And she’s a grown ass woman trying to act / sound like a child. It’s all very odd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 04:33 AM
14

Yes. He’s assuming that she will “use him”. She’s probably sacrificing her career looking after HIS child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 04:24 AM
8

Sit back and let him chase / approach you for the second date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 04:17 AM
10

This is the new form of cheating guys. Don’t let anyone tell you that your guy watching porn is “healthy” for your relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 04:12 AM
10

He probably has grandchildren that age 🤢 I can understand if it was 35-50 or something (still VERY young for him) but he is basically a sicko looking for a “barely legal teen”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 04:04 AM
12

She is textbook pickmeisha. They’re always so delusional and smug.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:55 AM
6

😂👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:53 AM
3

Men must be scared! Finally a space where women can be honest and open.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:50 AM
3

Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:41 AM
4

Yes, I think that would be the next logical thing to do. One of them is a judgemental “feminist” who firmly believes that men shouldn’t be paying for our dates and that there should be no gender roles in dating, and basically hints at me being a bad feminist. The other one is a classic pickmeisha, who has no dating standards and would sleep with anyone who buys her a drink. She will entertain fuckbois and often brags about her sex life. The other two women are great. They are in long term relati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:36 AM
2

Because they’re part of my bigger friend group. And whenever we (5 of us) plan to meet, the two of them are always invited. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:24 AM
40

My worst coffee date was from my pick me days when I travelled one hour wasting my time and money to have a Starbucks coffee 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:22 AM
12

Exactly 👏🏽 I can have a great time at a coffee shop on my own. They think we should be grateful for a coffee LMAO!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:20 AM
5

Who is it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:16 AM
3

This is a great observation. Cats can be selfish, demanding and unpredictable with their affection. A lot like toddlers. Okay I’m going to be asking men if they like cats from now on😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:15 AM
3

Haha 👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:08 AM
17

I needed to hear this. I am friends with a LVM ex and have two extremely judgemental pickmeisha friends. I can get rid of the ex but distancing myself from the toxic female friendships is going to be tough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 03:04 AM
1

Agreed 🙌🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 02:58 AM
1

Very true. Just curious where do you find men to date now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 01:40 AM
2

👏🏽😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 01:39 AM
5

Thats true. I’ve met some 39-41 year old men who were just in a strange panic to “have a family”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 05:27 PM
1

What was it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 05:24 PM
1

Yes it was an odd question to ask, almost like it was a test. 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 05:10 PM
2

I’ve read your posts on this thread and would genuinely recommend therapy. There’s major self-worth issues, and it sounds like you’re putting him on a pedestal for basic decent human behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:41 PM
17

Yep thats been my experience too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:25 PM
32

“Let me know if you want to hang” 🤢 How old is he?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:22 PM
9

They’re trying to promote it as a mainstream dating site. I’ve been lurking at r/sugarlifestyleforum and it’s definitely not an option if looking for quality men to date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:16 PM
32

I know what you mean, I’ve been single for the last 2 years, been going on 2-3 dates a month and am getting dating fatigue. More recently I’ve had dates where the guys were straight up lying / manipulating to be able to have sex ASAP. It’s quite disheartening to keep wasting your time and energy on these men, when you could be doing something better. I’ve decided to take a break from dating and focus on myself. This sub has been great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:11 PM
4

“He just got a bit of a late start” she says. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 03:56 PM
39

Just a reminder for myself to never go back to LVMs again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 03:45 PM
15

You’re right. She’s the temporary girlfriend while he’s unemployed and he will upgrade when the time is right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 03:07 PM
12

Exactly! Why are women advised to act “cool” and not bring up marriage or children, when in reality it is the most logical thing to ask at the start of a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 03:05 PM
8

Poor Maria. This is a “friend” who publicly shamed her for her sexual history, there was nothing funny about it and I’m sure he got a kick out of mocking her for it. And then there’s this awful boyfriend who can’t even handle a random event from her past. Hopefully she has new friends and has moved on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 03:02 PM
5

I absolutely loved this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 02:53 PM
6

Try sheraseven1 on youtube. Her videos on “dusties” are great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 02:51 PM
8

Not to be harsh, but if he really wanted to be more than friends surely he would have made a move at some point? And if you have no real romantic interest in him, why pursue him as you might end up ruining the friendship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 02:45 PM
15

Yes go ahead and enjoy NYE if you have made plans. But do not commit to a man for his “potential”. May be one day he’ll be a successful lawyer and have his shit together, but that’s not the case now. You don’t want to be the stepping stone woman who was with him when he was struggling / broke and then he upgrades to his dream girl when he’s successful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 12:31 PM
7

This
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 05:36 AM
7

Link : https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/egoo8a/did_i_talk_about_kids_too_soon/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 05:00 AM
3

Looks 100% like a fuckboi
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:49 AM
18

Especially OkCupid. For some reason everyone’s either into BDSM or poly on there. 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:47 AM
14

Wow. Wow. Wow. Hopefully she’s a teenager and will learn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:45 AM
11

Eh why is she going on and on about her physical fitness statistics when clearly she should be planning her exit?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:42 AM
10

This is so pathetic that it’s funny😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:39 AM
43

“Something fun with potential” he sounds like the textbook fuckboi. They’re all so pathetically predictable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:37 AM
21

Creepy! I’ve stopped having friendly conversations with uber drivers. So many men think being friendly = flirting = invitation to make a move.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:25 AM
17

This man is a living proof that money can’t buy class. You can be “rich and powerful” on paper and still be a garbage LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:21 AM
24

Yes men think it’s completely fine to lie about the age as long as they “feel” that age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:17 AM
6

Wow seems like he’s in it for the long run wanting his partner to be in “good physical condition”, what happens when she gets older or develops a medical condition? 🙄👋🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:16 AM
3

“Comfort blanket” relationships are the worst as it’s difficult to leave with each passing year. You have to act now or atleast actively start planning to change your circumstances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 04:11 AM
2

This is brilliant! I’d recommend reading ‘Codependent No More’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 03:37 AM
7

Absolutely 👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 03:34 AM
6

This. I knew a man like this. He enjoyed disrespecting and mocking me infront of his friends / family as a “joke”. He would then blame me for being “too emotional” and “over reacting”. This is NOT normal and really hoping she’s reading this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 03:32 AM
2

MeetUp groups.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 03:26 AM
9

So 👏🏽true 👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 03:20 AM
2

Absolutely. So many LVM on there looking for free sex toy and cook / nanny / servant. They are so baffled when they realise that these women have needs too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 02:37 AM
2

👏🏽 Unfortunately many of my friends are also pick mes who use ‘feminism’ as an excuse for their behaviour eg. Approaching guys first, splitting bill on first date, being cool about lack of commitment etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 06:17 PM
3

In person FDS groups sound great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 06:04 PM
2

Same. I would even sign up for a FDS seminar 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 05:57 PM
2

It’s good that you’ve recognised how toxic she is for your wellbeing. That’s the first step. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 05:54 PM
4

This.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 04:25 PM
3

He might pay for stuff but he does not respect you or your boundaries. Plus he’s a liar and potentially a cheater. My conclusion: 100% LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 04:24 PM
1

Stop chasing him and give him space. You’ve become too available too soon, and he’s probably lost interest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 04:18 PM
3

Once a cheater always a cheater. And photos on social media always lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 04:13 PM
8

Wow that’s just awful. She’s not your friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 04:07 PM
3

I was talking to my group of friends about the type of guy I am attracted to, and I mentioned that I am drawn to successful men. One of them quickly commented “stop being a gold digger”. This woman is literally in a situationship with an alcoholic LVM. It’s going to be painful but I’m with you on this new year’s resolution.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 04:04 PM
3

So true. I need to stop smiling through awkward bad dates. And learn to just get up and leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 04:00 PM
8

We all learn from our mistakes. Seems like she’ll be on FDS in no time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 03:58 PM
2

Surely he should be on the sex offenders register?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 03:57 PM
6

I enjoy cooking for myself but I never bring it up on dates because there’s too many idiots who can’t cook and are looking for mommy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 03:54 PM
5

Bullet dodged. A freshly divorced, emotionally unavailable man, who’s constantly sending mixed signals isn’t a HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 03:51 PM
2

And don’t even get me started on Robert 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 03:48 PM
2

It’s funny how so many of us have gone through this in 2019. He kept saying he “loves me” but that he feels “unsure” and “confused” about the future. He was so vague saying we are “incompatible” but was happy to text me all day, meet me every other weekend and act like my boyfriend, without the title. Not in 2020, so glad I discovered this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 03:46 PM
5

Hopefully he’ll grow up soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 03:29 PM
33

Dated a guy who was a doctor and who also was totally disgusted by the word “period”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 03:23 PM
20

Wow! I didn’t notice that it was from her facebook. How incredibly creepy😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 03:19 PM
5

Yep I feel the same. I guess the only way to avoid this is to date multiple guys and to not commit till month 2 or 3.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 03:17 PM
13

Sounds like he’s finding an excuse to cheat and blame her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 03:01 PM
10

Sounds like he’s obsessed with you, in a scary way. 😮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 02:54 PM
28

What a gentleman! 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 02:48 PM
12

😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 02:47 PM
12

👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 01:49 AM
1

In his head that’s the end goal. He really isn’t your friend if he’s pushing his agenda and disrespecting your boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 01:42 AM
3

Why propose at places of public transport? Atleast make it romantic/ special.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:30 PM
9

I can see why it’s beneficial for some women but it’s definitely a compromise in terms of dating standards, and may be some are lucky that they’ve met an attractive HVM who’s also willing to pay them. But that’s not the majority.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:15 PM
4

This. If it’s someone I met online, I would tell them that I prefer discussing these things over the phone than over text. I also generally hate texting random guys all day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:56 PM
3

I wouldn’t bother confirming and would assume the plan is cancelled. This has happened to me before that the guy has messaged last minute if I’m still free, and I just said no I have a busy schedule and don’t do last minute dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:53 PM
1

One month. Focusing on me this holiday season, will start dating again in 2020.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:51 PM
1

I am a lot like you and have my own list of restaurants to try. But this isn’t about having the best meal, you can do that with your friends, this is about observing how he plans the date and how much effort he’s willing to put.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:48 PM
8

That’s why they all disappear by date 3-4. They’re mad their “game” didn’t work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:44 PM
5

The value is in your self-esteem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:41 PM
4

FWB is a term probably invented by men. You are not his friend, you’re just a replaceable stranger that he sleeps with. You are having sex with and entertaining low effort men. 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:38 PM
6

These men should be exposed for the world to see. But I get that we can’t for safety reasons. 😤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:33 PM
8

May be that’s a way of saying he’s not vegan? Sounds like he’s trying to be funny. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:32 PM
10

Sounds like a catch 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:29 PM
5

I tried inner circle dating, paid app but lot of flakey narcissists. Hinge had the most ‘normal’ men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:28 PM
11

Any guy who talks about getting married after three dates is a walking red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:27 PM
5

Emotional roller coaster of fear and laughter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:21 PM
17

My opinion might be controversial but the whole sugar daddy industry seems like a scam for women. Young naive women selling themselves to ugly sleazy older men, many of them cheating on their wives, just for some cash and no respect. Not for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:10 PM
4

I agree. Its not worth the effort to explain anything to LVM. It hurts their ego the most when you block or delete them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:06 PM
3

I think we’ve established on the sub that “have fun” is total fuckboy lingo 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:05 PM
40

He’s literally looking for women to fuck locally, while she’s pregnant. Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 01:58 PM
30

Probably sees women as objects and genuinely doesn’t care about their health or wellbeing. As long as he is symptom free and can go around having sex, it’s all good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 01:44 PM
167

LVM always tend to get offended by women’s standards. 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 01:40 PM
7

My ex would expect me to be happy all the time and if I ever complained about anything, he would tell me to stop ‘nagging’ and ‘moaning’. He embodied toxic positivity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 05:53 AM
5

Yes this seems like an excellent weeding out technique. Thanks OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 05:50 AM
5

I recently went out on a date with a man I met IRL. On the date he tells me he’s still married but “recently separated”. It’s just part and parcel of modern day dating, block and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 04:33 AM
6

I’ve realised that all my close female friends are major pick mes, they’re all in relationships with LVM and they’re always bending over backwards to keep these men. I have stopped taking any relationship advice from them. They’re nice people and fun to hang out with, but they’re all brainwashed unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 04:15 AM
68

Men who suggest “I come over, you cook, netflix and chill” dates are THE WORST. I have entertained these men for way too long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 04:10 AM
20

“Partners” is worse. 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 04:06 AM
25

Because its mostly men who think they know it all giving advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 04:06 AM
10

This is so true! 💯 LVM seem paranoid about ‘gold diggers’ and always feel that women are out to use them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 04:04 AM
31

There’s a man I met who literally said “I’m gona let you pay for your share as I’m a feminist”, as if he’s doing me a favour! I left so confused but never saw him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 04:02 AM
23

I agree. I met the most manipulative fuckboy IRL and he ghosted me out of nowhere after 3 dates because I didn’t cave in to the pressure of going home with him. He was a very charming covert narcissist. It’s the same men IRL and OLD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:58 AM
14

I am able to recognise fuckboys through their texting style. Feels like a super power😂 I’d usually waste around 3-4 dates over a month before realising that I’m dealing with a fuckboy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:51 AM
31

“Amazing experiences” = giving blowjobs in the parking lot on the first date where he takes you to McDs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:49 AM
10

He seems to be from the “no doesn’t always mean no” community.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:45 AM
11

It’s getting worse everyday. Men have learnt that there are no consequences to bad behaviour on OLD apps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:42 AM
13

Yes! I’ve learnt that HVM don’t post online or even text about their sexual fetishes. This is a garbage dump level LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:39 AM
16

What’s with guys obsessing over Japan and Japanese women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:36 AM
13

I’ve seen some profiles stating “no time wasters or fakes”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:34 AM
22

My ex would say stuff like “you feminists ruined it for yourselves, you had it good back when women were housewives”. He also believed that women brought down salaries and that men can no longer afford to be providers because of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:22 AM
4

So true! He asked me “so what are you looking for” and “what’s your type”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 03:11 AM
5

You’re literally putting a stranger on a pedestal. He has done NOTHING to deserve your attention and time. He will never appreciate or respect you, he has told you straight up that he does not value you. He might text you a bit when bored, but you’re the last priority. You know the answer - block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 06:18 PM
17

I’ve noticed this a lot on OkCupid and it eventually led me to delete my account. Cesspool of fake woke poly men with no real jobs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 06:09 PM
66

The standards are set LOW and John knows it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 06:03 PM
16

I completely agree. Its like any other addiction, things like exercise, meditation and yoga help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 06:01 PM
121

Unfortunately reddit is full of misogynistic men and I avoid expressing my opinions on dating outside of this sub. The fact that the cancer MGTOW sub has over 140k members tells you a lot about the men on reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 05:58 PM
6

Yes its okcupid AKA LVM central.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 05:48 PM
12

Yes I don’t see a reason why he’s putting that info out there, seems like its an excuse for future bad behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 05:47 PM
13

My thoughts too. We’ve all been there done that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 05:43 PM
5

They all show glimpses of charming sweet behaviour, thats what keeps us hooked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 05:40 PM
29

He’s 31 and in a band. He’s probably a master fuckboi. Block!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 05:37 PM
6

Did some research, he has his own blog - yogioabs.com. And I kid you not, this is his description: My name is YogiOabs. I teach women how to escape feminist ideology and embrace their femininity. I am a proud misogynist, sexist and anti-feminist. However, I truly believe traditional gender roles can “empower” women, as well as men. Host of the Make Society Great Again podcast, YouTuber, and founder of Anti-Feminist Apparel, which you can find right here on this website. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 05:02 PM
3

Well he’s stupid enough to post his face with the caption. Hope this goes viral.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 04:57 PM
2

I’ve heard from friends who’ve visited India that there’s a big tinder and bumble scene, especially in the cities. There’s also a boom in bars and clubs in India, not sure if I’d want to go though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 04:57 PM
28

Absolute fuckboy lingo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 04:04 PM
13

Haha so true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 04:03 PM
47

🙌🏽 Blocked!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 04:01 PM
11

Yes! This is also true for online dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 05:10 AM
30

Men are forever looking for that incredibly hot woman, that cooks, cleans, is loyal but allows them to do whatever they want and is ‘low maintenance’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 05:09 AM
21

Agreed! This is a generation of pick mes who claim to be ‘feminists’ and they will shame you if you talk about your own needs as a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 05:06 AM
19

Having any expectations from a man = high maintenance. But if he expects sex after the first date that’s totally cool. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 05:04 AM
7

This is really good advice. I had a ton of fckbois approaching me when I put “new in town” on my profile. Also texted them that I have no friends or family nearby. 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 05:07 PM
3

👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 05:04 PM
9

Yes! They want a sex toy and emotional care taker for free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 04:54 PM
13

This is wrong on so many levels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 04:51 PM
18

So true. On a side note, need to stay away from pick me friends’ dating advice, I wish I had a FDS friend in real life 😤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 04:46 PM
39

Yes, never put anyone on a pedestal after 2 months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 04:39 PM
9

Yes same. Living to impress others and always seeking validation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 04:31 PM
172

So true. It doesn’t matter how ugly they are, they all want a ‘10/10’🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 04:30 PM
17

This is so true! The 50/50 ones are the ones who start sending out sexual texts even before the first date. Also “You can show me your cooking skills, I can come over ;)”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 03:54 PM
3

This is brilliant! Any tips for online dating? I work crazy hours so my social life is dead and can only meet guys off apps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 03:50 PM
6

Holiday season is the worst 😖I try to stay away from social media.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 03:45 PM
21

Spent 1.5 years with someone who wasn’t ‘ready’ for a relationship 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 03:44 PM
20

Atleast they know it’s transactional and don’t pretend it’s deep loving connection with multiple partners BS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 03:41 PM
36

I doubt it. They have the usual excuse that they’re more “logical than emotional”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 03:40 PM
11

👏🏽 Couldn’t have said it better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 03:37 PM
10

Sounds like my story. After being together 1.5 years, talking about buying a house together and building a future, tells me he isn’t ready for anything serious and wants to focus on his career. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 10:43 AM
10

This. My ex was a feminist when it suited him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 10:36 AM
2

I have cut off contact with him from today. Ignoring his messages. Will check out the post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 01:35 PM
2

Haha this is true😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 01:34 PM
5

Needed to hear this. I do feel like I’m unavailable emotionally to date someone new. Always keep comparing them to him. Still have feelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 11:59 AM
10

Absolutely he’s constantly giving me mixed signals and that’s what’s keeping me hooked. Thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 11:58 AM
7

So true. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 11:57 AM
1

Wow! 😦
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 09:39 PM
2

Wanted to hear this. Ex was always unsure if he wanted to be with me, saying he’s ‘not ready’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 09:23 PM
1

Did Michaela Pink delete her channel?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 10:30 PM
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