Is it unreasonable to expect your future husband to have gone through therapy and done the inner work? Especially if I’ve been in therapy myself and am constantly trying to self improve?
I’m wary of sounding classist or elitist because I understand that not everyone can afford it/a lot of countries have significant barriers to accessing mental healthcare/etc.
General thoughts and comments appreciated! Love your work ladies.
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No, assuming he already has issues, it is not unreasonable. It means you instinctively know these untreated problems will cause huge difficulties down the line and even a divorce.
Many women are tempted to overlook a man's unwillingness to get help because they love him.
Don't do it.
Love can only carry you so far and eventually you will wake up one day and be totally over him and his shit. Only then you'll be much older and your options more limited compared to now.
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