A few months ago, I was talking to a friend about social media and texting in relationships. When I’m dating someone, I am usually always in contact with them. I’m always texting, sending them memes and trying to get their attention. Upon hearing this, my friend said ‘don’t you ever give them the space to miss you?’ That stopped me dead in my tracks. I don’t. I think subconsciously I’m trying so hard not to be forgotten that I don’t give people the space to realize what they have.

Since that realization, I’ve done just that. I’ve gone about my life and not made such an effort to be in constant contact with people I’m dating. It made me realize that not only am I giving them the chance to miss me, it’s giving myself the chance to miss them. And I’m realizing sometimes, I confuse communication with connection. Some of the guys I’m dating I really don’t feel that much for if I don’t talk to them for a few days and I don’t really have the desire to reconnect.

I’m not sure who here needs this today but it really helped me and I thought I’d share.