What I mean by outsourced pp is you are the one he is getting his sexual needs satisfied with while he courts/dates the woman he REALLY wants. Please don't be that girl aka PickMeisha.

The inverse is true as well, never feel guilty delaying sex with a man for any reason. If he wants it that bad he will find it. But keeping this in mind, don't make the thought of him having sex with someone else make you feel pressure to have sex with him out of jealousy. Men don't view sex the same way women do. Especially if you are dating multiple people at once until commitment (which you most definitely should!!!) then just assume they are sleeping with someone else and don't feel guilty.

*You* are the one he truly wants to be with, and because you're not giving it up easily he values it more too. If they're abstinent its only because they choose not to (any HVM has sex available to him, he doesn't need you to give it). I really wouldn't believe them if they say that anyway - it's probably a manipulation tactic to get in your pants. Don't do it sis!