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I now have some shows to check out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:40 AM
4

Gah I couldn't even finish that movie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 10:03 AM
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Don't forget being gaslighted, used, and lied to!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:39 PM
2

You could try libgen (library genesis). Also, some libraries have PDFs/ebooks you can borrow without having to visit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:17 PM
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Please use the report button for things like that! If you want to explain why you think the poster is male, just use the "other" option.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 12:37 PM
2

Deeper than him seeing you as an object?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 05:17 PM
4

People get confused and think that sex workers must be making so much money because it can be a lot per hour, but they don't know how draining it is. After a weekend at the club, you just don't want to go back, and if you go back anyway, your energy is gone and it's hard to approach people. At least that's how it was for me. So I would go to work one night, then spend the next day exhausted, then spend the rest of the week dreading going to work again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 04:46 PM
2

What's more, any opposition to patriarchy is typically spearheaded by men. That's incorrect...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 04:21 PM
10

Hey, congrats on your house being in a magazine!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 02:04 PM
2

I don't think I said you urged dismissal... not everything I said was in direct response to your comment; sorry if that was confusing. I added extra stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 01:29 PM
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We should all be wary of any man "championing" for women, for many reasons, including the one you presented. I agree with what you're saying, is what I'm saying--we shouldn't uncritically admire him or any other man, but we also shouldn't uncritically dismiss a valuable idea just because of whose mouth we heard it come from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 01:20 PM
25

When it's impossible to go out, go within.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 01:15 PM
15

We're not commodities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 01:10 PM
5

You can listen to someone and even admire them without agreeing with everything they say. I sometimes listen to Jordan Petersen and I don't even like him. I just like exposing myself to ideas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 12:37 PM
4

Another reminder that it's not about what job you're doing in the home or relationship; it's about who is deciding what job you do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 03:34 AM
3

It's because he actually listens and goes out of his way for her. Girls aren't used to that, so, you know, they're willing to take the good along with the bad...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:16 PM
2

He is also a musician with a band called MOTHXR.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:12 PM
1

I'm triggered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 10:00 AM
4

This acts as a unifying theory of everything we talk about on this sub. Really well done, and worth the read! Thank you for contributing it here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 12:33 PM
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Yeah, I'm done giving head. HVM don't care; they will still give cunnilingis and never mention it. They understand that even though women and men deserve equal respect, that doesn't mean we're exactly the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 11:29 AM
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He did write some unfavorable quips about women, mostly offhanded. But he was kind of an all around asshole in his writing. I actually think he is pretty funny overall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 08:14 AM
3

Dead to Me (Netflix).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:08 AM
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That's why gay men look better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 10:26 PM
9

In some ways, perhaps. I think people's critical thinking just shuts down when it comes to defending their orgasms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 09:46 PM
1

I have! I caught myself an abuser that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 05:14 AM
2

"The MSRP for this vehicle is $19000, but I like you, so I'll give it to you for $17500." (They never expected to get more than $15000.) A classic sales trick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 10:16 AM
20

Translation: "If we aren't earning more, we lose all the power in the relationship."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 09:36 AM
14

Good job! He didn't respect you, so you don't have to respect him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 08:07 PM
1

Just imagine the difference if you were chock full of androgens! You can really tell when a guy just doesn't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 10:03 PM
6

It's because they don't workout.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 04:02 PM
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Foreplay is all the time. Good job!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 10:10 PM
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> I probably fall somewhere between a 5 and 7 Stop right there. You're not a number. > there's always going to be someone prettier, more successful, etc. than me. There's never going to be someone more *you* than you. > I don't necessarily want to look better for men bc I don't really care about men, but it's just one of those things where I wish I could experience what it's like to be truly beautiful. It sounds like you really do care what men think of your looks. You need to root that out and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 07:54 PM
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So true. Motherhood is an incredibly important role and should not be downplayed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 05:31 AM
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Because not everyone finds fulfillment in the rat race. The kids aren't just his, they are hers too. These women love their children and want to be there for them and show them love, and there's nothing wrong with that. What's wrong is the men who fuck them over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 05:30 AM
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Men that ask for prenups have bad attitudes. It may be obvious, or the prenup request may be the first sign.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:19 AM
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This is why men can't be in charge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:15 AM
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You gain confidence in your body by working out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:13 AM
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It's okay. We're all human and nobody knows everything. It's a normal response to back down when someone is abusing you. Socrates said that being great at arguing does not make you right. I think that's what we have to learn from these guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 04:09 AM
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It always comes across as so dehumanizing when a man asks a woman what race/ethnicity/heritage she is... like, "Hmm where are these nuts from? Venezuela? I should shop at Trader Joe's more often, they have great merchandise. So weird, I usually don't like nuts." It's nuts. Like they're constantly trying to figure out where the "good ones" are grown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 03:57 AM
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LVM always go the wrong way, don't they...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 03:47 AM
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The truth is, most men think like that to some extent. The funniest thing about that godforsaken male supremacist cesspit is that if you look at how they see the world, it is completely backwards. The traits they associate with manhood are truly feminine traits, and the characteristics they attribute to women (like a big ego...) are notably male. If you get down to what they're really saying, they want to be more like women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 03:43 AM
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Go for whoever you're attracted to. I don't mean pursue them--they should still be doing that, even if they are softer looking and more reasonably behaved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 03:08 AM
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False premise #1: Men love harder than women. We all know that's just not true. False premise #2: If he truly loves you, you're on a pedestal. A pedestal is where you put objects, not people you love. LVM put women on pedestals because they cannot tell the difference between a person and an object. Come on, no one wants to hear about past partners. Just leave it in the past, don't talk about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 03:02 AM
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They drag you down instead of meeting you on your level because it would hurt their pride if they admitted to themselves that they need to work or exert energy to get to where a woman is in any way--even energetically. This is where you see otherwise seeming HVM reveal themselves because this area is too subtle for them to pay attention to. They don't realize they're doing it, so how can they possibly hide it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 02:54 AM
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I noticed that all the top stories featured men dating girls/young women HALF THEIR AGE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 02:02 AM
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No, that's got nothing to do with a guy's value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 09:57 AM
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I am so sorry for what you had to do, and I am so glad that you broke up with him. Men show their true colors when they are most needed. The good news is that now you know that you don't need him because he abandoned you emotionally when you were dealing with a hardship on behalf of both you and him. It's always disappointing when a LVM reveals himself after a long time of pretending. It's a lot to take in. Next step: take care of yourself, and grieve the loss of your pregnancy if necessary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 06:17 AM
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Absolutely spot on. I would feel insecure and be endlessly unhappy if I felt like my partner were better than me. The things you mentioned make us feel secure and good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 05:05 AM
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U/theogjammies removed it :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 05:02 AM
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You should definitely love yourself, but I don't want to encourage you to break up with someone who (from the post) seems really nice. It is possible to learn self-love if you're in a healthy relationship, and the two of you are so young that you can grow together, although it's okay if you feel you need some space to yourself for a while, or even if you grow apart from each other over time. Just don't trick yourself that his love for you is your love for yourself--that's a pesky trap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 01:30 AM
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One hundred years ago, we got suffrage in the United States. This year, our options are two perpetrators of sexual assault. A century after getting the vote, the Democratic Party treats our needs like political currency that can be spent on whichever candidate *they* want to promote, regardless of the truth of his character. And the Republican Party has its own issues in dealing with women's issues. I am incredibly insulted and disappointed by how the primaries turned out; we clearly hold no qua…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 01:05 AM
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I used to think that all men are like this, but now that we know about him whipping his dick out, I think he is worse than most. In a strange way, that gives me hope. He is apparently really rude to upcoming comics as well. He seems like an awful guy and I feel bad for his daughters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 12:38 AM
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He thinks that what women are offering men is not that valuable. He thinks that women want to feel like they are worse than their partner. He thinks that women want to chase. He thinks that women are like men. This is red pill. I'm only two minutes in and considering removing the post just because I don't want to give him a potential +60,000 views and have more LVM out there thinking that women are as ugly on the inside as this guy definitely is, and subsequently treating their dates and partner…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 11:47 PM
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When he watches porn, he is acting on his belief that he is entitled to view other women taking part (or, tragically, not taking part) in sexual acts. When he watches porn, he is saying that you having sex with him is equal to him having sex with you AND acting on peripheral sexual entitlements. ...when he watches porn, he is acting on the belief that he is better than you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 10:12 PM
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"Women exist to please me so if they're not doing that then they must be sleeping!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 09:55 PM
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The ring is an important symbol of how the man sees/values his partner and relationship. I agree that if it's discussed beforehand and she *insists* on a cheapo ring, then it's okay, but clearly this was not the case. If you know someone well enough to marry them, you should know whether they would be disappointed by a cheap ring, and if you're not sure, err on the side of caution. Honestly I would have been disappointed by this too, even though I'm against the natural diamond trade myself. We c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 08:59 AM
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My opinion is that usually stoners are LVM. Smoking every now and then to help sleep during stressful times I understand, so this guy might be okay (not a sure thing!) But yeah I've never met a grown HV man who smokes weed on a regular basis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 11:47 AM
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It could be that he only had enough money in his budget to pay for you. If that's the case, I would take it as a very good sign. No one thing means a man is HV, but a willingness to endure hunger and stretch his budget for you while hiding the sacrifice is a good thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 09:20 PM
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Always remember that to a LVM, relationships are about power. Never give a man any power and you will avoid them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 10:49 PM
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Nah he's a passive weirdo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 09:03 AM
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Just stop being a single mom!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 09:01 AM
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I danced for a long time and I can tell you unequivocally that NO MAN OF QUALITY VISITS STRIP CLUBS EVER. Even if he was "dragged there," even if he was "lonely," or whatever excuse he comes up with. Men go to clubs to use women. Just try to imagine yourself going to a club with men in their underwear and paying one of them to dance on your lap. How does it feel? Weird, right? Because you're dehumanizing a man the way they do women. Do not ever have sex with a man that does this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 08:56 AM
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you're the rudest person I've ever met If that's true, then I am in awe of what it must be like to be a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 12:55 AM
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A non-rapist, yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 01:47 PM
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We are not striving for men. You have this very, very backwards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:37 AM
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Completely wrong. Men learn from FDSers and stagnate with pickmes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:32 AM
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Yep, exactly. Anytime you find yourself willing to compromise yourself like that, that's low self esteem exerting itself against you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 12:14 AM
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Most definitely. They don't always use compliments, though. They'll use whatever method they think will work on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 12:12 AM
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That's just one of many possible variations of the Slimy M.O. Gorgeous women have low self esteem too, and these men will press any button that they think will do something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 01:21 PM
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Well shit that would make you a good reporter... I can't tell you what you should do with your life but I will tell you that I hope you continue to write. It's hard to decide what to do, but don't just stand there behind the till letting life pass you by. Go try something, anything, and if you end up not liking it, that's fine. If you fail at it, that's fine too--it's just another story for you. If it doesn't work, try something else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 01:18 PM
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Girl that photoshop has me dying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 12:53 PM
4

What's the thing you're best at?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 12:47 PM
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It looks like she put two of her nails on today and the middle ones were put on two months ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 05:07 AM
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This is so sad. She's basically saying that since you can't stop it anyway, just surrender to its inevitability and learn to love it, against your own intuition, judgment and dignity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 04:50 AM
8

Well, we're far from ruling the world, but women definitely rule! Now that we have access to resources and leadership positions, just give it a few generations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 04:48 AM
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This is really sad. She's just not like the other girls, is she?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 04:34 AM
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An anti-abortion position is a sufficient but not necessary condition for a LVM. So just because a guy is cool with abortion doesn't mean he's HV, but if he is anti-abortion, he is definitely LV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 12:06 PM
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Right now you have been exerting all the effort in the relationship, which is not fair. You deserve someone who will reach out to you and seek to show you a good time. You deserve to be loved near your home, doing your favorite activities, with a man who wants nothing more than to see you smile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 11:52 AM
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Do you initiate?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 10:50 AM
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It also screams "I want my mommy" if a guy makes this kind of request.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 02:15 AM
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It's even harder for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 02:10 AM
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Lmao the black widow spider is sooo relevant to dating in today's society...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 01:50 AM
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making men chase after you Nope, not possible. He will only chase if he wants to. Relationships are about compromise and understanding This is female DATING strategy. Read the name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 01:40 AM
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Nope it doesn't make me angry because I don't feel entitled to another person despite not being what they're looking for. I can see why you're angry, though: because now that women have more socioeconomic status than ever in all of history, it is rapidly becoming apparent why men have felt the need to oppress us for so long. Men need women. You feel empty without us, and that void morphs into a feeling of entitlement to female bodies and psychological orientation. You get resentful when we say N…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 01:29 AM
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And then their "strategies" are just them power-tripping now that they're finally attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 12:43 AM
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Classic denial of female sexuality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 12:40 AM
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Classic denial of female sexuality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 12:40 AM
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not to judge people because their sex, but individually, looking if they really are good people or not. Sorry, we already tried that! Doesn't work for straight women because most men are profoundly horrible. The snippet I'm replying to is a case of projection. It works for him, so he thinks it will be the same for us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 12:35 AM
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No man is worthy of it. The point is that it's not worth having because in the case that you have it, your partner is diminished as a person. No HVM wants that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 11:54 PM
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Getting a woman to be submissive to you when you don't deserve submission is not a good priority. Check yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 11:51 PM
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Porn is a reaction to the women's liberation movement. Its purpose is to demean women and inculcate men with anti-woman attitudes to compensate for our legal and economic progress in the social/sexual realm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 11:10 PM
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"Oh shit I didn't realize her owner was here sorry man didn't mean to damage your belongings please don't hurt me!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 10:59 PM
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It's even more difficult for men to get commitment from women, because guess what the foundational condition is for a committed relationship? Sexual attraction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 02:21 PM
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Not true at all. Every guy I've dated has asked me for commitment and brought up the topic of marriage. Pickmeishas marry who they can. Women who know better don't do that bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 02:15 PM
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"I'll intimidate you into liking me."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 01:46 PM
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If his fantasy is your nightmare, RUN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 12:59 AM
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And you never have to do it again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 12:55 AM
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Just because he wants it doesn't mean you have to want it. I'm glad he's gone now and I'm glad you're here with us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 12:43 AM
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No, that's super bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 12:42 AM
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WE are the gatekeepers os sex, NOT THEM. Always remember that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 12:41 AM
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+1000 LVM points for scowling down at the camera.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 12:38 AM
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Just being with you should be enough of a gift for him. If you want to show him some love, get him a card.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 12:32 AM
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An LVM could always just pretend to like it to trick you into bed. We shouldn't be showing this to guys and revealing that we abide by these strategies. Also, RP and their ilk have a death count. It is very dangerous to reveal yourself as a member of this sub. Don't tell guys that you even know this place exists. "Reddit? What's that?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 12:27 AM
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"HER fault! HER fault! HER fault!" (Handmaid's Tale reference)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 12:17 AM
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I have had similar experiences with random men and I'm not even fat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 12:00 AM
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What? You're joking, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 11:53 PM
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You know society is in disarray when a LVM thinks he can just walk up to a random woman and start giving her commands... Girl if he touched me like that I might have put him on that kebab stick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 11:52 PM
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Why would we date someone we're not attracted to? There's literally no point, unless you view our time, commitment, emotions, and bodies as a charity. Which they're NOT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 11:45 PM
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It's something I would want just because I need my own space. It would also make it easier to leave if your man is acting wrong. Sleeping together every night creates a bond that's very painful to break.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 11:34 PM
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I don't think you should. If you have free time during the week, use it to bond with your friends or date other guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 11:22 PM
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Different poster here... I don't know about content that will make you love yourself more, because when I developed confidence it was more about allowing myself to respond to my environment from a place of authenticity. Everyone's journey is different, though. If you know the root cause of your low self worth, read books about that. If you don't know what the cause is, figure it out. I will say that the things I did and the things I created helped me more than the things I consumed. Weirdly, tak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 11:11 PM
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All this strategy is to find a guy that you can be yourself around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 10:15 AM
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I don't have any on hand, but I recommend you post this to /r/GenderCritical if you haven't already. They've got loads of documentation about all sorts of stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 05:19 AM
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I want to get myself a cheesecake man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 10:33 PM
3

Yes, please report anything that goes against FDS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 11:03 PM
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Full text: I’d hated Alex* for 10 years of my life. He’d made my school years hell. He’d yanked my ponytail, written hurtful names on my locker and once, during an art lesson, hurled a block of clay at my head. It left my hair with this weird grey tint for days, and thus earned me the nickname ‘Granny.’ His mates found it hilarious. I put his nastiness down to us being different. He was gorgeous – all the girls fancied him, with his huge blue eyes and cool-back-then blond curtains. He was also t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 03:30 AM
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You probably underestimate what you've got going intellectually. Actually, from what you wrote, it sounds like you overthink and psych yourself out. That's really common for smart people. Is it possible that the people you've been trying to converse with are the boring ones? The ability to charm people requires some intelligence, and it doesn't sound like they've charmed you at all. Just some food for thought. Also, the idea that pretty people are usually dumb is false. Studies have shown thay i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 11:26 PM
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If he respects you and you two are happy together, then no, you're not a pickmeisha for dating him. As long as he's not dumb enough to make it weird, I don't see an issue with it as an outsider.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 07:56 AM
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I know it's daunting but you can do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 10:54 PM
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When a guy tells you something you don't want to hear, believe him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 12:45 PM
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No, you're too nice. You shouldn't be suggesting things. Hopefully the dress up thing was a reference to an earlier joke?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 12:41 PM
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Good luck! Keep us updated on how you're doing with all of this :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 12:00 PM
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There is a discord.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 11:59 AM
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He's dressed like it's his first day of kindergarten.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 03:13 PM
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It sounds like he's super intimidated by you because he's LVM and you're most likely way out of his league. That's why he didn't make a move for three hours. With regard to the text messages, he's just making stuff up as a play to 1. make you jealous, and 2. maybe hook up with your friend as a contingency (and I'm sure he is patting himself on the back in a haze of weed smoke for his brilliant strategy). He is lazy and afraid of women and a waste of DNA. *I don't know if it counts as negging, bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 03:04 PM
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scrub
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 02:46 PM
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When you get enough confidence you will see how unarrogant it is to be openly pleased with how you appear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 03:36 AM
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I know ALL about money! Now if only i had some...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 12:09 AM
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Once you stop expecting that men are just like us, all their motivations and machinations become painfully obvious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:25 AM
1

This is exactly it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:23 AM
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You're still not human to them if they want to fuck you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:51 AM
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You fucking GOT me with your response. Actual laughter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 02:05 AM
10

Copy+paste cover letter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:59 AM
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And it's also just... Not right. A good hunter would feel bad about shooting that turkey.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:42 AM
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What a pathetic dream.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:31 AM
5

We live in reality and we know that men will shame us for trying to impress them because they know deep down that they ain't shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 11:54 PM
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And that's how men see the women they hook up with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 11:52 PM
5

Hmm I wonder why they would be worried...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 10:31 PM
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It's dehumanizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 07:42 AM
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"Is there a compromise?" What would be the point?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 05:14 AM
12

Parrots mate 4lyfe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 03:12 AM
2

Lol at this comment: https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/eqvlck/comment/ff13e3z "And also... And also..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 03:44 AM
2

Also, check out/r/femalelevelupstrategy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:47 AM
2

Personal trainer?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:46 AM
1

You could try different hobbies and see if any of them suit you. Or go for starting a business if you have any ideas there. Bonus points if you don't have to go back to school: the burdensome structure of it and the money may not be worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:44 AM
8

Not that it's attractive in those characters even...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 02:58 AM
5

And this is the kind of thought processes we're talking about when we say boys are stupid. They are really so dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 11:44 AM
17

Don't respond at all to things like this. They get off on any kind of attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 06:22 AM
38

This was supposed to make him more attractive?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 06:18 AM
17

Because porn will never reject them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 03:16 AM
21

Projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 10:08 PM
67

When a man says "I want to feel wanted," what he really means is "I want to feel powerful."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 11:22 AM
52

The inconsistent verb tenses in his post reveals that he doesn't view things rationally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 11:18 AM
69

Sounds like he's actually mad because he told her not to go out and she did anyway. He probably feels she got what she deserved for being her own person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 11:00 AM
10

He should just know. Bring money in case he doesn't offer, but don't offer to pay or even reach for your purse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 01:51 AM
4

It depends on what kind of flag it is. If it's got anything to do with respect or core beliefs, run. If it's that he wears socks with sandals, then yeah maybe you can talk him out of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 12:16 AM
6

Congrats on leaving fundie Christianity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 03:16 AM
8

Hmm well I wouldn't call Paglia a feminist, but I do agree that proximity with negative people will affect your wellbeing. And when you're having sex with someone you're VERY close.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 02:04 AM
8

He's a loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 01:55 AM
3

I've seen some users on here taking that approach; I'd like to see how it turns out. My gut says that he's doing the minimum effort possible and that won't change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 03:15 AM
4

I see a lot of philosophical and argumentative confusion in that thread. Bless their hearts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 02:42 AM
15

They know it hurts us and that's why they like it. Porn is a power trip for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 02:26 AM
17

How would you like to be tortured and humiliated... And for 4 million people to watch it with contempt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 02:25 AM
20

Already trying to set the terms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 01:52 AM
7

So on point. Love your username.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 01:44 AM
9

Yes, exactly! Work is not a virtue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 01:43 AM
447

I personally think the 40 hour work week is barbaric.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 02:33 PM
42

When a LVM calls you a bitch, it's code for "you've won and I have nothing left to say."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 11:34 AM
56

I think they're more susceptible to pickme behavior and attitudes for two reasons. More obviously, they tend to have low self esteem because they have been tricked into thinking that their worth is dependent on their looks. Less obviously, they genuinely don't know how worthless male attention is because they don't receive a lot of it. Hot women are sick of the depravity and entitlement. Less attractive women don't know they're not missing out on anything--again because they have been tricked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 11:32 AM
5

It might be a self esteem issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 09:54 AM
97

Because they have neither.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 05:18 AM
18

I agree with dating someone who makes you feel safe and meets your standards for overall character, but don't count on later becoming attracted to a guy who you don't initially feel that way about. Ugly men are not necessarily nicer, and are often even meaner because of their insecurities. It doesn't matter what hobbies a guy is into, either. Nerdy guys, shy guys, hippie guys--they're all still guys. Vet based on character, not stereotype. You deserve a man you're attracted to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 03:55 AM
19

Vigorous exercise. You will look better, feel better, and release pheremones.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 08:52 AM
23

as the man of the house Sounds pretty sexist; I think I know why she's cheating on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 08:50 AM
12

Your man should never be in charge of your relationship, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 01:23 AM
1

"Muse"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 02:51 PM
10

Report him to the police.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 12:05 PM
8

No worries, I can see why you thought I was saying that. Yeah he's pretty bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 06:01 PM
10

If it's in your favor, yes. If it isn't, then no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 05:42 PM
19

I didn't mean to imply that you thought he was funny, and I completely agree with your point. Just because a man checks status boxes doesn't make him a good partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 05:39 PM
15

I read the whole thing waiting for the punchline.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 04:12 PM
102

Kevin Hart isn't funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 03:59 PM
2

Oh, I see. Thanks for clarifying!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 03:03 AM
12

I object to equating this behavior with femininity. When have we seen women act this way? Sis, if this is how the majority of men act, guess what? It's masculine behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 12:25 AM
131

Anything that goes unfed will die.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 11:49 AM
5

I feel ya. They're really not worth the effort!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 11:23 AM
27

As a commitment-phobe, I can assure you that you are absolutely correct. Men assume that if you're sleeping with him, you must be in love with him, and that's why sex is such an ego boost for them. Whenever men have realized that I don't give a shit about them even after I had sex with them, they have always begged for a relationship. Trust me, they are dying for your commitment. It's just that they often assume that they already have it. You have to make him earn it, and make him know that he m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 09:48 AM
14

We should all do the thing he said he doesn't like so we can avoid guys with the same attitude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 09:34 AM
23

How sad is it that most guys had to be told this stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 09:26 AM
4

How come?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 08:42 PM
3

Being passive is not the same as being submissive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 08:32 PM
12

Meh it's still disrespectul. An emoji doesn't excuse anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 03:38 AM
17

You should tell him it's because he's ugly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 03:33 AM
22

Absolutely nothing wrong with a submissive man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 03:18 AM
24

No, they mostly assume I'm submissive because I'm small and have a baby face (lol the idiocy). Then usually they get very frustrated when this little babydoll does whatever the fuck she wants, believing that it's a problem with them rather than considering that their initial assumption is wrong. So then they usually try to be more dominant, and I lose all interest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 03:15 AM
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If he phrased it as a question or request it would be okay, but he's trying to set the terms and that's wrong. If you do what he wants, he'll be deciding everything from now on. If he cared about impressing you, it could never be like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 03:04 AM
4

And many of them believe that not watching porn/masturbating will give them power over women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 11:53 PM
4

I have a brother and he's awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 03:32 PM
23

Never. He should be the one to ask for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 09:58 AM
14

I just ghost. Any response at all will boost his ego by making him think he's important enough to correct or insult. If he's arrogant or disrespectful, he doesn't take me seriously anyway so there's no point even without the ego boost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 03:21 AM
8

You are so right. Definite props to OP!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 02:11 PM
52

They know that if she goes home with him, there's no chance she'll sleep with any of them in the future (and this moment was their opportunity to get that chance later on). They also know that it will impress you to help in a dire situation, as well as give them a chance to act and feel dominant. Men are tribal, so don't assume that these guys would act the same way if one of their friends was doing what 6.5 was doing. You did the right thing and it all worked out, but don't chock it up to those…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 05:39 AM
21

Meditate every single day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 12:16 AM
4

He sent you those texts so he can use them as evidence in court.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 11:41 PM
7

The woman should be in charge of the relationship. Personally, I wouldn't feel safe any other way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 11:41 AM
10

I think we should redefine femininity. What makes a good mother? Being weak willed and dainty? Absolutely not! Women need to be strong and protective. Motherhood is a leadership role, so women are natural leaders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 04:01 AM
19

Yep. It's classic projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 01:03 AM
13

"I don't hate you, I just love myself."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 01:03 AM
13

Lol. FDS queen attitude is the ONLY path to happiness as a woman in this world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 01:02 AM
6

Idiotic. Men rape for social reasons, not genetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 12:23 AM
3

You pointed out something really important--watch out for is the conflation of sex and power.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 11:58 PM
3

When women are pickmeishas (or at least when I was one), it's because they're following the golden rule. Women want pickmeisha boyfriends, and men naturally want to please us (e.g. they are turned on by female pleasure). So yeah, I think secure men act like pick-mes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 11:20 PM
9

Ari Aster is my spirit animal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 10:38 AM
6

Samesies on not being attracted to wealth. From a purely practical standpoint, it's something to consider if you come from a poor family and don't have much opportunity, but it's not something that *gets women going*, so there is no basis for considering it a genetic trait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 07:06 AM
8

You need to stop beating yourself up because you ended that relationship for a reason. You're probably remembering just the good parts because you're not meeting guys that are good enough for you--but that doesn't mean your ex is good enough for you. Remember why you ended things with him. I'm sure it wasn't all roses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:49 AM
26

He looks like a marionette.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:42 AM
8

Ghost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:22 AM
32

I know, this seems so obvious to me... But these LVM want patriarchy to be the "natural order."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:50 AM
5

It's natural for men to seek our approval. I think of a pickme as a woman who is playing the male role because she is with a low value guy who wants to be sought after out of insecurity. So yeah, I think men should be pickmes. It looks good on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 11:54 PM
6

I think we define ourselves, knowingly or unknowingly. I don't really like the term LVW because it implies that it's based on something else. I will say, though, that when you believe in yourself and love yourself, it shines and lifts you up in every facet of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 12:41 PM
4

I did a long stint of celibacy once. I felt motivated, invigorated, and lucid. It's quite the experience that can give you a fresh perspective in very surprising ways. I don't think you should tell anyone about it except close friends. I also think you should take more time to heal before dating again. Be celibate for awhile and then when you're ready to start considering sex again, begin looking for a partner (and take your time). Just my two cents. But if you're going to date now, definitely d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 12:19 PM
3

Why do you have antibiotics laying around?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 11:37 AM
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He didnt have to go with them. A HVM would speak up against objectifying activities, not roll with the tide of patriarchy. As a former stripper, I can tell you that the answer to your question is a resounding YES.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 05:12 AM
7

Submissive means obedient, and no woman should have that trait or obey her man. No you cannot be a submissive feminist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 01:27 AM
7

It means they're egotistical and low value. Stay away. Never submit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 01:21 AM
10

Oof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 11:08 AM
7

I wonder if that ties into what the OP was saying... Like wanting "new pussy" is a rationalization for wanting easy sex. It's the perfect cover for their ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 02:19 AM
7

I'm scared.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 11:17 AM
61

She made herself player 2?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 10:51 AM
3

I'm very sorry to hear about your cat. They're such precious animals and good friends. I just realized I misunderstood you when you said you were picky--I thought you were talking about men. I think if you really don't think you will enjoy the date at all because he's going to take you to a restaurant that you already know you don't like, it's okay to speak up and suggest a place you want to go to. However, I urge you to let him show you what his idea of a first date is. Let him take the lead so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:58 AM
2

I understand you're picky. Maybe he is a HVM, but you don't know that at this point. What did you say when you cancelled the dates? What do you mean by "constantly initiating contact"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:19 AM
10

First off, you don't know that he's HV if you haven't even been on one date with him. It typically takes over 90 days to tell. If you have places you want to go, you can tell him so for later dates if he doesn't screw up on the first one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 02:07 AM
11

Maybe it's time to reevaluate what "feminine behavior" means.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 11:13 PM
4

They give you validation so you'll look to them for your self worth. Then, they can calibrate it however they please. This strategy of theirs can never succeed if you care more about your own loving opinion of yourself than anyone else's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 12:57 PM
19

"No." is a full sentence. You don't owe anyone any explanations. If they demand one, say, "You were told no."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 08:57 AM
47

You can make it better for yourself. Split the duties, assign them to your husband, or just tell your kids to leave your favorite cookies for Santa. We have more power than our mothers had, and we don't have to do what they did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 08:51 AM
9

I agree. It starts with loving yourself, but I think everyone here should have a daily mindfulness meditation practice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 08:46 AM
31

Don't feel bad at all for telling us about how shitty he is. He honestly sounds like one of those narcissistic MRA losers. You should definitely dump him but you already know that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 08:38 AM
5

"Creating Capabilities" is the work I was drawing from in particular.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 08:25 AM
23

Spot on. Also look into Martha Nussbaum. She explains the financial reliance very well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 03:35 AM
6

Does it have a fragrance?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 03:25 AM
5

Ahhh that's even worse!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 03:16 AM
5

Just an example of how men use feminism as an excuse to be less valuable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 02:34 AM
14

The GenderCritical subreddit is pretty free of misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 02:31 AM
5

It's already bad enough that you had to ask.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 02:21 AM
6

Hehe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 02:05 AM
0

Doesn't matter what you meant. It matters how she might read it. Any further comments below this one will be removed for derailing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 01:54 AM
24

If a man has all the money in the world and buys this ring for his girlfriend, he is just plain insulting her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 10:19 AM
7

I look out for the women in this sub, so if part of a comment has the potential to do harm, I correct it. I didn't remove your comment because overall it is beneficial, but I also didn't want her to feel insecure due to the mention of her boyfriend possibly going out with other women. We want the same thing, so there's no need to get defensive. Thanks for your contributions, and have a nice day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 10:02 AM
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There are lots of nice girls who would appreciate his gestures. You're making him sound like a catch with "nice girls" lined up waiting to date him. OP is right to acknowledge that these "gestures" are the bare minimum, and there is not much to be appreciated here, and nothing to be jealous about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 02:59 AM
21

Is this some sneaky way to sell more beauty products? Make women insecure so they will keep buying things to reassure themselves they will be fine? Yep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 02:50 AM
24

Male fantasy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 10:03 AM
40

nobody really does this stuff extreme like that. Oh but they do, and there is video evidence of it! (Just adding to what you were saying. I agree completely.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 04:19 AM
11

You've figured it out. Men need us. We do not need them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 02:31 AM
4

He also spent a tremendous amount of time kissing me or trying to kiss me and he didn't care if his friends were around. I was often pulling away embarrassed and telling him "dude your friends are around" but he really didn't care. He doesn't respect you. NEXT. He's also just super cringey and obviously reading from a script that he thinks will impress you because, believe me, this guy does NOT think you're smart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 02:18 AM
30

You're probably offended because you picked up on his intentions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 01:48 AM
19

Fun fact: It's more common for men to sabotage birth control methods than for women to do the same. They use it as a way to force women to rely on them when they are pregnant and vulnerable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 07:34 AM
15

No, not always, and a HVM won't sleep around the way a LVM will. They act more like women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 03:58 AM
44

It's actually not that easy for any man to find sex. Someone here did a breakdown a while ago on just how hard it actually is for a guy to get laid, even an attractive one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 01:32 AM
9

Men know what abuse does. That's why they do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 12:22 AM
19

Someday she'll realize that she doesn't have to do all that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 06:06 AM
3

No, this is wrong. He should know you well enough to choose a gift. He should not have to ask in the first place. This attitude of "I need to tell my guy how to treat me" needs to stop. Have some goddamn respect for yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 04:36 AM
4

Some of them are great, but yes many are quite pompous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 11:44 AM
22

From my understanding, he believes that women are inferior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 11:42 AM
6

There are some exceptions to the philosophy rule but it's something I've noticed too. Most of them just want to win every conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 08:58 AM
6

Option C: Done with him all together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 03:06 AM
8

I haven't paid much attention to Beyonce's career, but from where I'm standing, she's always been kinda Pickmeish by pandering to the male gaze. Most of her success is based on sex appeal and girls wanting to copy her so they can be seen as sexy too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 03:04 AM
10

I also hear "...and I think you're stupid enough to hate your own kind and side with me."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 06:29 AM
18

In other words, being controlled is actually not what women want, and it ruins relationships. I bet this girl likes how quiet and demure he is, and instead of accepting his nature, he thinks he needs to be someone she hates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 02:16 AM
10

You can still make good friends and get support from women in your life (if you haven't already). Not all of us come from supportive families, but it's still possible to develop self esteem and take no shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 02:15 AM
67

There's absolutely nothing wrong with being "over it." You don't need to have a partner--that's the beauty of feminism. I think I have reached the same point where I have realized that I will probably not meet a man who deserves my love. I still want to love someone, so there will be a baby in my (distant) future, either from a sperm bank or adoption. Also, I like the way you worded your post. If there exists a "wall" for women, this is it. It's not men rejecting us, it's us feeling like they're…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 02:06 AM
5

Yikes, I would feel insulted by that ring, too. Yes you should run for the hills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 11:16 PM
10

It's okay to keep waiting as long as you don't see it as a final commitment to someone. It's not really a burden. Nothing changes about you when you have PIV the first time, but you shouldn't have sex with anyone you feel doesn't deserve to have that experience with you. I do advise you not to tell your dates that you're a virgin, since that would attract creeps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 09:52 PM
17

Hahaha it sounds like he is dating one of us! Evidence that low value men will bounce from relationships they cannot control. Filter these losers out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 09:46 PM
15

And by the way, everyone, that vagina spray stuff is bad for you. It messes up your pH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 09:22 PM
8

How does it feel that you wrote like 12 paragraphs and no one read it because you didn't check the rules before blathering about what I assume is a run of the mill male opinion on how women should look.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 09:20 PM
12

clap
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 09:18 PM
4

clap
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 09:18 PM
18

DON'T FORGET TO PANDER AS HARD AS POSSIBLE!!!!!!!! IT'S A COMPETITION!!!!!!11111 /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 09:16 PM
33

Well said! Don't let fictional stories and characters guide your assessment of reality. Look around you and you'll notice that men are men, no matter what skin they're in. There's a lot of guys out there who sell themselves as being nice, when in actuality they are just weak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 09:07 PM
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even if you're a traditionally feminine and submissive woman, chances are they will STILL look down on you. Of course they will. That's what being submissive encourages. Everything you said is probably true of about 99.9999999999% of men on this planet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 08:55 PM
13

Yes, we need to prioritize our own pleasure by making them please us. I posted something about this a little bit ago: Here it is. The female orgasm may aid in conception, but it's dangerous to make the leap that it's necessary (remember "you can't get pregnant by rape"?) That makes me think, though. The idea that your pleasure is necessary to create life would naturally be a source of entitlement on a very deep level. It must contribute to how men see the world. Wow. Imagining that a female orga…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 08:51 PM
3

A recent date of mine was very dismissive of the waiter, and I was internally flabberghasted. I thought even really mean people knew not to do that on a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 10:22 AM
8

You guys. He likes AMINE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 09:49 AM
9

Welcome to FDS. Have a look around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 09:48 AM
3

Also if a guy is leering at you and there are people around, call him out loudly in front of everyone. I did it the other day and the guy apologized meekly before hanging his head in shame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 09:40 AM
12

It's a high risk, high reward endeavor for them. If a woman actually has sex with him after he's acted disgusting, then his ego boost is exponentially greater than it would have been if he had acted normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 09:29 AM
2

Time to tattle!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 09:27 AM
16

If he were really high value, he wouldn't have used you for a splooge, which is what he did. Even if we're giving him the benefit of the doubt, he sucks at communicating/is playing hard to get/is just an all around idiot, none of which you want anything to do with. But we're not giving him the benefit of the doubt. Here at FDS we understand that he does not have honorable intentions and is trying to play little mind games with you so that you'll wonder things like "I am not sure what it is... Sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 09:15 AM
21

Mainly Aristotle. Plato was a sexist, but he believed that women should have a say in society. Aristotle was way worse, and more influential in terms of sexism in the West.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 08:49 AM
13

It usually is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 08:39 AM
3

He will apologize. Just politely accept his apology and leave it at that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 04:38 AM
2

Taking him back would mean taking ALL of him back, including all the stuff that pisses you off. Men don't change. Just go your separate ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 04:36 AM
4

You should consider reporting him. Suggesting sexual activities is way out of line no matter the context, and there is scientific evidence that BDSM is harmful to participants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 04:22 AM
26

This is true queen shit. He doesn't piss you off, you're just amused at his antics. No confrontation necessary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 04:16 AM
25

Dump him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 04:07 AM
11

That's when you say, "Do you need me to pay for myself?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 02:52 AM
1

Red pill is a male supremacist subreddit, and all the other pills are reactions to that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 12:30 PM
29

Spoiled...? No, hun, it's not a negative trait to accept nice things. We don't reach for our wallets; we expect them to pay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 12:12 PM
45

the majority of women receive an orgasm through foreplay That's why unreciprocated cunnilingis is not only fine, but more congruent with human nature. Men should perform oral on women. Women should not perform oral on men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 12:10 PM
2

It all makes sense when you realize they want ownership of us. I call it the Unifying Theory of Male Behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 12:29 PM
2

Unless it's female anger, the slightest bit of which makes us psycho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 12:27 PM
21

(let's call him Todd) Then he never mentions him again in the whole post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 11:57 AM
57

No, this isn't quite right. Men should pay for dates because it is a privilege for them to be on a date with a woman. We have inherent value and they do not. Doesn't matter how much money you did or didn't spend on your looks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 11:49 AM
1

Honestly the hottest job in my opinion is nurse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 11:45 AM
3

I was miraculously sheltered from this opinion growing up, and as a result I am not interested in men with high status. It just isn't how a gauge men's dateability. So my advice is to stop propogating the idea that high status is a valuable trait in a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 11:40 AM
3

I have a theory that men purposely withhold orgasms to make women more needy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 11:21 AM
5

Nurse is one of the hottest jobs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 10:39 AM
9

Yeah because men consider it a privilege to disrespect people. They're super into pecking orders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 10:37 AM
5

Lol nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 10:35 AM
2

+1 Shame works on men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 10:34 AM
13

He did flat our do something wrong. Next time, tell security that someone is stalking you. It is their job to keep patrons safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 10:28 AM
43

This is why I find it so funny that they all think they're groundbreaking and revolutionary over at trp. They're truly the old guard and absolutely nothing new or original ever gets posted by them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 10:24 AM
13

RPW lurkers, give our strategy a try! It works and we have a lot of fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 10:12 AM
20

+1 for flossing daily. For fucks sake. Flossing is not "extra" it is standard hygiene and if you don't do it your breath will smell like a wet dog. You have to change your towel every few days. You have to change your bedsheets weekly. You have to have sheets on your bed. You have to own handsoap and use it each time you go to the bathroom. You should wear sunscreen every day so you don't age prematurely. You should moisturize your skin so you're not all cracked and jacked looking, especially yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 09:56 AM
11

It's better to be single than to invest your energy into fixing a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 03:21 AM
5

it's a radical act of resistance to love yourself For those in the back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 11:07 AM
65

You cannot fix him. You cannot save him. You cannot change him. You cannot fix him. You cannot save him. You cannot change him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 07:19 AM
5

That sucks. I have depression too, and it's really draining. Maybe you need a break from school to focus on yourself. You have a lot going on, and it's hard to keep up even without depression. I took some time away from my courses before graduating, and it helped me a lot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 04:00 AM
5

If you meant that you avoid abuse by avoiding abusers, then we are in agreement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 03:54 AM
14

It's not about what you allow or don't allow. None of that matters with an abuser. Either you're being abused or you're not with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 11:13 PM
4

I think it's different from dare though because dare insists that their lives will be ruined after one joint, and talking to him about porn would just give him some perspective about how it affects women. You're not lying to him and you're not forbidding it, so it won't have the same effect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 10:24 PM
7

Today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 10:20 PM
28

That's a very dangerous attitude to have. Anyone can be a victim of abuse, no matter how good their life is. Men abuse strong, intelligent women every day and get away with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 10:18 PM
34

Glad you found out his attitude now and didn't waste tour time in person with him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 10:09 PM
9

And he doesn't have to say these things explicitly. The smarter ones will find other ways to convey the same messages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 12:28 PM
3

It sounds like she is going through a rough patch. I wouldn't end a long term friendship over 5 weeks of annoyance. Don't dump a girl friend when she needs you most. Have some solidarity. Being a good friend is part of being high value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 10:11 AM
2

Hahaha I think I got one from him too! I always just decline the chat but I'm thinking of posting to fdssuperfans one day when I have the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 03:07 AM
7

What matters is how you feel about your friend. Do you want to keep her around? Would it be worth it to keep her as a "low dosage" friend? Sleep on it. Friendships with women are invaluable and they shouldn't be thrown away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 03:04 AM
38

"I can see why you're single," like that's even an insult lmao I would take that as a compliment coming from this piece of shit! He argues like a LVM. Fucking pwned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 02:59 AM
3

Whoa shit that could never be me. Lol my strength is all mental.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 10:37 PM
2

I think that's the case especially if it's a younger sister, but that phenomenon may not occur with every guy that has an older sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 10:05 PM
18

Best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 08:13 AM
36

I agree with slow escalation. If he tries anything, openly show how appalled you are. "Oh my god what are you doing??" That kind of thing. Then kick him out/leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 08:11 AM
14

Thank you. This was actually a huge reason for the break up, so she kind of sabotaged her client's long term relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 07:53 AM
8

You already came on too strong by sleeping with him after a week. You should read all the sidebar material.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 04:57 AM
21

Ew! Tell his wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 04:52 AM
9

I don't know... Can I? How would I do that, and on what grounds? I assumed she was doing something deemed appropriate, even though we disagree with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 04:44 AM
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Oh my god one of my ex's therapist actually told him to watch porn. She thought he should simulate intimacy because I wasn't putting out (because he was a jerk). Dumped him! Welcome to the future, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 03:48 AM
34

A no-bullshit, succinct explanation of the stark reality of patriarchy. Brava, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 12:59 AM
12

Yep. You can't think rationally if you don't understand your own emotions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 12:02 AM
21

Men: What's the point of ugly women even existing? Women: I'm not interested in dating someone I'm not attracted to. Men: You're humiliating me!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 10:10 PM
4

Message paid for by Zales and... Dairy Queen?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 09:54 PM
2

I'm of the opinion that no BJs ought to be standard. If a guy thinks not getting head is a dealbreaker, that's an incompatibility for sure, but basically it's because he's LV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 09:17 PM
5

I have read the Art of Seduction and I loved it for the historical anecdotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 09:56 AM
5

Awesome to see something like this in the Houston Chronicle! Dines and Jensen are great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 09:52 AM
11

Absolutely! Whatever you want from him, he should give to you. It does NOT work the other way. Yes, it's a double standard because we are different and it makes sense this way. I'm so sorry that men have done those things to you. You clearly know that you are better off without people like that in your life! Power to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 06:51 AM
20

He's good looking but that bio is TRAGIC.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 06:43 AM
2

It's definitely a man, but you're right it is disgusting. It is just wrong and unnatural for a woman to be so subservient.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 05:24 AM
2

That's a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 05:21 AM
8

"Gabi on the Roof in July," an indie film about a young woman learning the true nature of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 01:53 AM
17

Why is he sneering down at the camera? Does he think that's attractive?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 01:44 AM
17

I know, these responses are surprisingly civil (even though some are patronizing/wrong). I guess the guys that send messages to the mods don't have the guts to put it out here for everyone to see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 10:57 PM
10

I reread the post to see where she asked for advice or how to deal emotionally and..........??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 09:19 AM
14

I have still never watched one of that guy's videos but I've read the most awful things about him. Apparently he is under investigation right now so I think his life is being ruined as we speak.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 07:08 AM
2

Oh I see. Thanks for clarifying!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 06:59 AM
6

I'm glad to hear that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 06:58 AM
27

Is she okay??? When is this footage from?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 04:05 AM
78

Subtle red flag: I yawned and he didn't even seem tempted to yawn after. I ignored it, but I still remember.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 04:00 AM
11

I literally came here to see if anyone else thought the same thing. Total male perspective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 11:53 PM
8

Congrats on being in recovery! You're absolutely right. Alcohol adds nothing good to your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 11:47 PM
2

Cuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 11:35 PM
14

Attractive women hate patriarchy too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 11:34 PM
4

Yrah, bad personality for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 07:09 PM
4

Being concerned with resources and behavior is a practical accommodation to our social landscape and strength sifferences between the sexes, though. We all, as humans, instinctively want attractive partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 07:09 PM
2

Fucking hilarious that he's not even trying to say what we want to hear. What an idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 06:33 PM
0

I find it weird how everyone shits on incels for being incorrect about everything. Even though their attitude sucks, their fundamental premise--that looks matter--is very, very true. I swear when I found that sub I thought "These guys have figured it out. They have uncovered the mystery of what women want. And it's the same thing everyone wants." Of course looks aren't all that matter, and the more mature a person is, the more things they look for in a partner, but it never stops mattering, and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 06:29 PM
1

Eh, he's alright.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 06:09 PM
25

So this is what we're missing out on when we're strict.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 06:02 PM
7

Great personality, bud.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 07:46 AM
3

I have read that the science behind this is actually kind of questionable. It also does not correspond with my personal experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 03:05 AM
3

It can feel like you're letting a good one go when everyone else thinks he's great, but they don't know him the way you know him--i.e., he is not a good one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 07:36 AM
5

Green flags do not negate red flags. Red flags DO negate green flags. The greenery is a facade to keep you enticed despite his vice grip on your whereabouts. Run away, fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 07:33 AM
8

You did the right thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 07:06 AM
16

Oh my god.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 07:03 AM
1

Lol the ego on that guy. That's how some people handle rejection, sadly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 05:09 AM
5

Nice catch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 04:45 AM
13

"I hate people that like good food and exercise."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 04:44 AM
10

Yeah or maybe those bios signal to pickmes that he'll be an easy one to snag: just don't do the things he said he didn't like in his profile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 04:43 AM
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How dare the women on tinder like things that are enjoyable to most people! Lol the vodka soda one is fucking cringe! Judging someone by the drink they order is as basic as it gets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 04:41 AM
9

Yes, I always have. Step up or step to the side! Oh and it never created any issues. With HVM there's the bonus that it solves them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 04:37 AM
15

Really funny how he is basically saying that men are base animals that can't control themselves. Maybe they should be kept on leashes, then?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 04:34 AM
11

"Give me what I want or I'll kill you." Classic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 04:33 AM
18

I've honestly had better dates with the guys who ask right away. As long as he initiates it and comes up with the plan, I don't see an issue with it. I think your response about Thursday was fine. I'm glad you got right to the point because he sounds like a time waster. Make sure that if you "meet up" with this guy it's a real date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 07:28 AM
20

This is what male doms are thinking when you sleep with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 02:17 AM
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Men see paying for dinner as a symbol of respect for women, so if he doesn't offer, you can quickly rule him out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 02:14 AM
8

Really wish therapists and teachers were more feminist minded. They are currently more concerned with guiding women into their prescribed place than they are with leading girls and women into fulfillment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 09:17 PM
28

You did the right thing by ripping the band aid off now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 09:14 PM
30

Lol. Don't think he understands how unremarkable he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 09:25 AM
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Yes exactly if you don't let him pay because you're not going to sleep with him, then you're legitimizing the idea that he gets to sleep with you if he pays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 05:36 AM
56

Man discovers that women are attracted to attractive men. No introspection ensues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 05:34 AM
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The creeps in the comments are too stupid to get what rape culture is because they watch too much porn. They've got mush for brains.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 03:48 AM
8

Their logic is 100% rationalization of how they feel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 12:51 AM
5

We're overemotional but we also can't feel things as deeply... It's almost as if men's beliefs about us are based more on convenience to their current argument than on truth. So rational. Much smart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 12:48 AM
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Society is biased against women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 12:29 AM
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Lol. They think we don't know what they're up to. If only they knew that being straighforward is a much better tactic. When a guy negs me my vagina just dries up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 12:26 AM
15

Or "she did this thing I didn't like and you shouldn't do it."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 02:17 PM
15

There's a free version of hinge. Probably all the same guys as Tinder, but they're better at setting up dates through Hinge because they think it has different women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 11:13 AM
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It tells me their opinion is worthless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 09:44 AM
20

Lol I think I have seen this before and it is satire thankfully.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 07:41 AM
23

We don't want to believe that female sexuality is powerful because that makes it too easy for many women to think that it is our fault when a man does something wrong. That's not female sexuality at work, though. That's male sexuality, the male mind. It's funny how our sexuality has been subsumed by, and consequentially confounded with, such a monstrosity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 07:38 AM
6

Help me out here because I've not yet finished my coffee: How does male attractiveness peak at 40 if women start preferring younger men at age 32?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 12:34 AM
13

I'm very attractive, and I don't get asked out very often because men will assume that I'm taken or that they don't have a chance. I've had success by being the first one to say something, but not by asking guys out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 12:12 AM
17

All the funniest people I know are women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 12:04 AM
10

Sex positivity doesn't teach women to focus on their own pleasure, to figure out what they enjoy, to set their boundaries The really pernicious thing is that sex positivity seems to do this on an explicit level, but the implicit message is that women's pleasure and boundaries ought to be dictated by men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 11:34 PM
42

This is an excellent analysis! Boomer men definitely took more than they gave. Millennial men are trying to do the same thing but have to come up with new ways to trick us into it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 12:03 AM
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No it's not effiminate but it is delusional. I'm not turned off by that attitude because it's womanly (I like feminine men though); I am turned off because it demonstrates a vast disconnect with reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 11:49 PM
9

Your story reminds me of two (2!!!) of my exes. All I asked was to not be treated like shit, and when I told them they hurt my feelings they would go "So? Why is that bad?" Later I moved on to dating a guy who would respond with self pity. I thought he was sooo nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 10:30 AM
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I don't know enough about Freud's Oedipus theory to say how common it is... I believe he thought that all men had it to some degree, but I don't know if that's true. Bertrand Russell also had something to say about it. I'll have to dig out that book and post about it later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 10:17 AM
21

...What?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 11:48 PM
3

My guess is she put a lot of money (like at least 150k) into a mutual fund or ETF. I'm curious, though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 10:48 PM
9

Well, no. Women naturally want good looking men. Wanting a wealthy man is a practical accommodation to the current state of affairs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 10:44 PM
14

It all pretty much adds up to "have dignity," which I agree with. The only thing I have some disagreement with is that a girlfriend makes her boyfriend controlling... He at least worded that part wrong. Abusers were abusive before you met them. You can't change them; you can only avoid them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 10:29 PM
5

She is so far gone I am having trouble even believing this post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 09:59 PM
6

Be less available. Leave social media so you can't see what he's up to (you shouldn't care), and more importantly, so he can't see what you're up to. Find a new interest to spend your time on. Revolving your life around a man, even if it's to "control" him (even more so actually) is not a good way to live your life. You will never be fulfilled this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 09:45 PM
3

Samesies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 09:34 PM
25

That sub has a lot of larpers though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 09:34 PM
8

"Maintains perfect frame" is this a larp?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 09:33 PM
20

L
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 09:41 AM
49

"Also accepting blowjobs"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 09:40 AM
36

How conscious are men? Not very. What they see in the world is a projection of their preconceptions. That's why you should never waste your time on a guy who doesn't like himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 04:53 AM
4

Follow your gut sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 04:50 AM
2

Does it feel better than a regular orgasm? I've never squirted before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 12:48 AM
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"I must be one of those girls who can't cum". This is why the myth that some women don't orgasm with sex is so harmful! If you are with a good partner, you will have an orgasm! I want to shout it from the mountaintops lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 12:43 AM
2

From the sound of it, he seems to treat you well, so I'm not going to advise that you ditch him, but do keep an eye out for red flags and "low value" behavior of course! Some men are able to treat a woman well even if she didn't wait 90 days--and FDS is not one size fits all. Remember that your ex husband was mean to you because he is damaged and cruel, and the way he treated you is not a reflection on your own qualities. A way to extirpate low self esteem and negative thoughts is with mindfulne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 12:35 AM
3

Yes, and he tries to turn the crowd against the woman by seeming like a peaceful hippie! I love that book. I highly recommend it to any woman browsing these comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 12:28 AM
12

Yeah gamer guys can be annoying af.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 09:52 PM
9

It sounds like you have this view that he is so great and you're not on his level. Stop that! You deserve way more confidence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 09:36 PM
8

He's thirsty af.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 09:24 PM
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Ewwwwww. At least they're saying NTA but god their advice is so bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 09:22 PM
2

Don't go into a relationship with trust issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 09:13 PM
2

He is not perfect! I promise. I guarantee it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 09:12 PM
10

This is all so accurate! A lot of it comes down to social awareness... How he is in "regular" interactions is how he will be with you in bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 08:58 PM
9

Don't respond! Any response will just encourage him. Definitely screenshot/document this and all other interactions with him so you can present his stalking to police/court if need be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 08:49 PM
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Thank you haha I went the fuck off on him when he said that and think I used that exact sarcastic phrase. Basically told him he was shit in bed. I'm not holding back or playing nice after an insult like that. So it should not be a mystery to him anymore!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 08:43 PM
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Yeah, how could I possibly ever enjoy sex with him after that?? He's awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 06:26 AM
3

I know i shouldn’t There's your answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 06:25 AM
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That place is awful. I had a bf once who refused to listen to what I liked and was useless at foreplay. Instead of talking to me about what I wanted, he went to them for help. Then he told me I fucked like a dead fish. I'm sure you can fill in the blanks as to what was said about me in that subreddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 02:48 AM
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I noticed that you blocked me so I decided "fuck her boundaries" and messaged you anyway! So why don't you like me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 02:42 AM
30

I still noticed some things I didn’t like about him. If even .000000001% of you doesn't want to be with him, do not be with him. All the things you don't like will only get worse, and that's only the beginning. I'm glad you had a good time, but use your head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 02:39 AM
17

It might help if you provide some non-identifying details about the relationship. I bet if you think back on it with 20/20 retrospect, you'll recognize some things you think might have been red flags. What sucks is that some guys know all the flags we're looking for, so they know how to avoid tipping off even experienced women who have done a lot of reading about narcissism, abuse, cheating, etc. So sometimes you just get a weird feeling and you're not sure why in the moment, but later on you go…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 12:30 AM
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Definitely agree about that. Don't blind yourself just because he's super into you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 12:24 AM
6

I had a guy lie to my face about his height... He was genuinely lying to himself, too, though. Delusional narcissist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 12:22 AM
10

This guy's definitely a rapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 12:14 AM
5

It's weird. I unmatch anyone who asks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 11:44 PM
2

Actually I know a couple where the guy did that (flew to see her). They are happily married now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 11:41 PM
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I'm so sorry that happened to you! Even if you're vigilant, it's still possible to get tricked. Stick around this sub to learn about some more subtle red flags. Welcome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 11:34 PM
1

Dior
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 01:26 PM
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If you’re a woman below average height, then you shouldn’t look down upon men who are also below average. We can have whatever preferences we want to have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 08:48 AM
10

Didn't you hear? Having height preferences is the same as fat shaming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 08:47 AM
21

Ew his beard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 07:59 AM
47

Women's low self esteem is their last hope of controlling us in a dying patriarchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 04:28 AM
2

Yeah just leave any way you think is appropriate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 04:23 AM
2

Okay good! Just want you to be safe above all else. If your gut says it's okay then it's probably okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 03:32 AM
9

Don't let him pick you up on the first date!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 01:28 AM
15

If he doesn't have a plan, then don't go on the date. This is his big chance to show you that it wouldn't be a mistake to sleep with him, to show you a good time and make you feel safe. If he's not showing you that, then he has nothing to show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 01:27 AM
19

Oof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 01:15 AM
6

He should tell you ahead of time what the plan is. In case this somehow happens anyway, extract yourself from the situation as quickly as possible without compromising safety. How to do this will depend on what the situation is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 01:12 AM
2

Go out and do stuff you like, wear all your favorite stuff. Treat yourself well, and never accept less from a man. I met my last man on one of my self-dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 11:19 PM
5

Personally, I don't pander to what I think men want to see. I wear stuff I like, and that way, I'm happy with myself and if a guy likes it then that's great and he can try to be a part of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 10:51 PM
8

How were you able to determine his honest beliefs?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 10:17 PM
9

I've had two good lays. One of them I turned into a long term boyfriend, the other I kept as a short term fling. I've learned to tell if a guy is good in bed by the way he carries himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 10:15 PM
13

FUNNY. This guy is hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 10:40 AM
39

Lol what's the point of having him around then? Men make it easy when they disqualify themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 04:04 AM
30

Then ghost 'em.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 02:23 AM
17

I'm happy for you that your anger is in place and ready to bite! Guys like this do not see us as people. It's a very angering attitude, and for good reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 02:20 AM
27

Lol just tell him you're a virgin lmfao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 01:57 AM
-1

That girl is not using FDS so I don't see how it applies. It's called Female Dating Strategy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 01:56 AM
13

How rude of you to just feel a certain way... Some men really are so pathetic that they actually are offended by our feelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 01:49 AM
6

Haha I love it when they go there because I will tell them exactly that. It is so much fun to deflate the ego of a sinister piece of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 01:46 AM
8

I've heard guys object to this stuff. It doesn't mean they're great--they could just be telling you what you want to hear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 12:32 AM
3

It's not shaming, it's helping by being honest with myself and others. I'm not going to pretend to support someone else dominating you. It is not good for you. That's not shame, it's care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 12:15 AM
4

Frankly, I'm not sure I see the point of having a man if you don't enjoy having sex with him. If you want a partner, you should examine your reasons why. On another note, I used to not enjoy sex until I had it with a guy who actually knew what he was doing and cared about my pleasure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 12:05 AM
4

Why do people always get so defensive when you point out unhealthy behavior? Again, go ahead and lie to me if you're so inclined, but stop lying to yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 11:57 PM
5

Some of those are not red flags but the actual thing the flags are supposed to warn you about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 11:55 PM
42

So true. Don't tell him what you want to hear!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 11:51 PM
40

Because it's online, they think it will be as simple as a video game. It never occurs to them that there are real people on the other side.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 09:17 PM
1

Wanting to be dominated is a sign of self loathing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 09:02 PM
132

And he's the one being rude! You said no. He ought to respect that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 10:39 AM
9

Good guys don't want virgins. The worst guys only want virgins. It's better to go out and see what you like than to save it for someone who probably won't appreciate it, but don't feel pressured to have sex with someone you're not really feeling it with. If you happen to end up not having sex until you get married, that's okay. I just wouldn't go around telling people about your lack of experience, because that will be a magnet for predators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 05:40 AM
6

I completely ignore the bill. It's not my concern.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 02:49 AM
14

You're just a queen who hasn't found her throne yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 02:15 AM
22

And good job keeping your kids safe from that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 01:52 AM
2

What it's like to communicate with a LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 01:28 AM
5

Yeah, but it is up to you for it to remain platonic. He is most likely attracted to you and would be thrilled to sleep with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 01:10 AM
3

You can lie to me if you want, but don't lie to yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 01:03 AM
4

He walked over beside me and put his arms around my shoulder and asked me some random question. This is a red flag. He touched you without even knowing you. Not cool, not consensual. And he probably does this to women all the time, hoping one of them will like it, develop a crush, and drive themselves crazy trying to get more crumbs of attention from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 06:12 AM
22

They just want us to be sad. We're easier to control that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 06:02 AM
8

Sure, you have a right to those turn ons, but you should take a deep look at their origin. Wanting to be hurt is a symptom of self loathing, no matter the context. Rewarding your surrender to that symptom, especially with something as powerful as an orgasm, reinforces the self loathing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 05:47 AM
50

"I surprise her, compliment her, blah blah blah..." Yeah, and he probably also says stuff like "but I gave you a conpliment today!!! Y no sex now?????"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 05:31 AM
16

I sent her a pm to remind her that she can do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 05:28 AM
12

Just don't do it. Find something else to focus on. There is no guy on the planet who is worth texting first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 05:11 AM
1

I'm glad to hear that you recognize this issue and are seeking to solve it. Good luck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 01:58 AM
1

What a clown!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 01:32 AM
6

he says that this is such a stupid small issue but that he doesn‘t understand where I‘m coming from so he‘s gonna keep doing it Ignoring the fact that he follows egirls, he does not respect you. Let's take him at his word: He thinks an issue you brought up is small. He doesn't understand where you're coming from after you've explained it (didn't listen). He's gonna keep doing it (doesn't care aboit your feelings). Let's not take him at his word: He knows damn well that what he is doing hurts you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 01:25 AM
17

This is old school. I call this the Pride and Prejudice method.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 12:21 AM
3

Classic projection from low quality men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 12:00 AM
9

I've been there! For me, I think I attracted them because i wasn't interested in chads. This made them think I had low enough self esteem to date them (really I preferred the smart type, but men are not socially aware enough to see things that way).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 08:24 PM
2

I love Noname! So glad she's getting more well known.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 08:13 PM
3

Muse : OCAD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 08:09 PM
10

Yes! But if you're experiencing abuse, don't think it's not happening just because he is moral in other areas. Abusers can separate the morality of hurting their partners from other areas of morality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 08:01 PM
16

Thank you for posting this! More women need to know. Also, when women kill their male partners it is often because he has been abusing her. For a related example, read about Lorena Bobbit or watch the documentary about her de-penising her husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 07:59 PM
1

Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 07:35 PM
15

What is with the guy's head in that picture? Is that photoshopped?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 04:48 AM
17

Liberal radfem????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 03:03 AM
4

Thanks for sharing! What a bunch of creeps, all of them. Some people will only respond to tangible consequences, it's crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 12:37 AM
4

Thanks for reminding me to clean up my matches! 150-->5
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 12:33 AM
15

This couldn't be more true! Always remember that we are in a position to bestow it on them or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 11:54 PM
17

Their degeneracy is bounded only by consequences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 10:50 PM
1

From a biological reproductive standpoint, it is the male orgasm that matters, but from a recreational standpoint, I care about my own pleasure! Maybe we should have different terms for good sex (when the woman orgasms) and bad sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 10:28 PM
15

Men act like there's something wrong with us when we're single... They need to look inward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 10:25 PM
4

Same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 10:23 PM
5

Yes, any avenue to control you is viable to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 10:07 PM
9

Lol! I'm glad you've seen the light.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 09:57 PM
1

Can we get an update on this??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 06:45 PM
7

Such a gross question. Sadly predictable that they would care/know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 06:27 PM
23

Are women actually sending "I miss you" texts???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 06:18 PM
9

That makes sense. I was thinking he meant that she claimed she'd slept with 5 men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 03:17 PM
12

Yep, trust your intuition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 03:06 PM
18

The author harkens to Freud way too much for me to take this article very seriously. I do want to know if y'all agree that sex and power are inherently linked?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 02:55 PM
11

I get that, but what does "she claims 5" mean? Exploration is the cure for what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 02:41 PM
27

What's the context of this? I don't understand what he's saying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 12:31 PM
162

Meanwhile, Pikachu girl is thinking of ways to avoid the pervy couple for the remainder of the convention. All jokes aside, both of these responses are wrong. The correct course of action is to dump him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 12:26 PM
6

I was raised in such a way that I believed it was wrong to take care of myself like this. Unsurprisingly, I attracted scummy men. Unlearning those teachings and growing my sense of entitlement has changed my world. Take bubble baths, burn scented candles, get the expensive shampoo. Wear clothes that you love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 12:07 PM
2

I’m so confused That's how he wants you to feel. You're not seeing the situation clearly. Back away from him until you're not confused anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 11:59 AM
2

What is even the point of dating this guy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 11:25 AM
6

Ladies don't EVER sign a prenup like that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 09:59 AM
3

Male projection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 09:48 AM
4

I think educational attainment has more to do with environmental than genetics, so I would take the sperm from only the younger donors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 09:40 AM
5

If you feel like taking the trouble, make a profile on the same app named "cheater" with his pics, and make it visible to all straight women in the area.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 09:36 AM
11

That was a beautiful verdict, judge jewdy09.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 09:23 AM
2

:(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 09:16 AM
6

Welcome to your new life! I think you'll like it here :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 05:32 AM
10

Just a slight nitpick: We have ALL been subjected to rape culture. No exceptions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 05:30 AM
23

Often the ugly ones will treat you worse! Trying to bring you down to their level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 05:23 AM
71

my freak Gag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 05:19 AM
2

No! Is this some kind of joke? Just in case this is real, don't fucking talk to this guy, and get your shit together (self esteem) before dating again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 05:15 AM
6

This is such a valuable comment! I just have my own experience to add: I have never asked a man what he's looking for or been the first one to bring it up. They want commitment from me. The fact that I don't want it just makes them crave it even more. Don't give them comfort too early! There are so many men out there for you to choose from, so don't settle!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 04:35 AM
13

When he says he wants an independent woman, what he really means is he doesn't want to pay for anything and he won't be there for her emotionally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 04:23 AM
1

Maybe you could record your interactions with him. If you have a front pocket in your shirt, put your phone there so the lens is exposed...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 04:20 AM
6

It's so backwards that HR is so often a filter for assertive women, making them leave instead of the creeps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 04:18 AM
16

Agreed! I don't even do that shit. They can take me or leave me as I am.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 04:10 AM
6

Not this kind. He's just trying to impress you with his culinary artistry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 04:02 AM
22

Oh, so it's a misogynistic reason to be celibate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 01:46 AM
2

I've never encountered this trait but I'm sure I wouldn't like it. I went on a date the other day to a nice restaurant and the guy kept acting like the new york steak wasn't good enough for him. That was a turn off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 01:41 AM
2

Way to go!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 01:35 AM
8

Yikes. I think I know why they have roaches...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 06:27 AM
33

I LOVE this book and it is in large part why I dumped my last bf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 06:15 AM
8

Men Getting Triggered Over Women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 01:06 AM
10

That's exactly what the reproductive health restrictions are all about. They are truly restrictions on women. They want to control us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 01:03 AM
26

HVM are attractive by definition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 12:46 AM
18

Liberal feminism is also called "third wave" feminism... Radical feminists don't like it because it has been corrupted by commercial interests and male pandering. I think there's something in the sidebar at /r/gendercritical if you want to know more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 12:20 AM
28

So they're all men, got it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 01:50 AM
54

Ah, the chaotic minds of women... /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 01:50 AM
4

He's the modern era Ignatius Reilly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 01:44 AM
69

And yet they still don't listen to us when we tell them the same things...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 01:40 AM
17

God everyone in that sub is so cucked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 12:30 AM
15

And you know he was watching porn!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 11:58 PM
56

"Clarity"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 11:55 PM
13

It depends on what you want. If he's not willing/doesn't want the same life as you, cut the cord. Obviously you have plenty of time. For the ring, I will NOT accept natural commercial diamonds because it is an evil industry. I will only accept synthetic or heirloom diamonds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 11:50 PM
10

I tell them I don't drink.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 11:43 PM
21

The truth feels bitter to you because you live in delusion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 02:58 PM
4

Looks like people are all over the place on this. I'm looking for a fwb right now so I'm fine with coffee, but I think "getting drinks" is kinda sleazy so I'm not doing those. I'm using Tinder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 09:11 AM
0

Men do not suddenly respect you because you offer to save them money. That makes them see you as lesser. They will go and brag to their friends that they spent nothing on you and you still slept with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 03:08 AM
4

He thinks she would love someone like him XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 02:46 AM
6

Yeah, you need a job, but...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 02:44 AM
4

Not being attracted to a man=/=judging him. Not only is he a manlet, but also a smoothbrain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 02:43 AM
1

Yeah this sub is about not putting up with male bullshit so it is specific to hetero dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 02:39 AM
5

You might have a case for malpractice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 02:34 AM
12

Dress for you, not for him. You're loking for a guy who likes you, right? For who you are, not for your willingness to pander to his expectations (which should be nonexistent).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 02:26 AM
17

It's hilarious that they think their ideas are cutting edge. They couldn't be more traditional or mainstream.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 02:18 AM
5

That's completely reasonable and a good man won't care. Hell I regularly receive oral without giving BJs in return. No guy worth your time will try to get you to perform a sex act you're not comfortable with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 02:09 AM
3

Lol I just start picking them apart. I assume they're all dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 02:03 AM
2

Is there any way to get through to these women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 02:01 AM
4

Yes! I prefer shorter guys or at least am ambivalent about height (will date a tall guy if everything else is right), but he has to be physically attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 01:55 AM
12

I'm looking forward to your update post where you tell us all about your success in college and social activities while your pathetic ex is begging you to come back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 01:47 AM
15

I don't even care what it symbolizes lmfao it just looks bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 01:40 AM
26

I never lie about it. I have been very open about preferring fit men for many years. What is even the point of dating an unattractive man?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 01:28 AM
2

Hmmm. He might think it would come off as creepy...? If you don't feel that you need to hear that from your partner, then don't worry about it. His actions should show you how he feels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 01:19 AM
5

You might like this movie on Hulu called Pure. It's really predictable and heavy handed, but its thematic contents are probably cathartic for someone who grew up being told that sex makes women "used."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 07:24 AM
6

That would be applicable if I were keeping valuables in my vagina...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 07:18 AM
3

Only if it makes you uncomfortable. "You look nice" is something guys say a lot on dates, nothing wrong with that. If he won't shut up about how hot you are... Back away slowly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 07:17 AM
3

I'm an introvert, so no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 01:19 PM
6

What app do you use for reverse lookup?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 01:17 PM
29

Funny how swallowing TRP makes you miserable... and living by FDS makes you happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 03:56 AM
6

How predators will often "test" their potential victims by pushing more minor boundaries first, giving them orders to see how submissive they are, etc. Give them all a copy of The Gift of Fear!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 03:36 AM
5

This piece of advice: If he upset you, he probably upset you on purpose. Told to me by a male family member.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 03:34 AM
12

I had a boyfriend like that once. He got mad at me when I stopped calling him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 03:18 AM
5

More like 95%.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 03:11 AM
1

True. I should say that they try to convey themselves as just wanting sex, when what they actually want is power.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 03:09 AM
8

RP sell themselves as being PUA, but at the end of the day their real goal is male supremacy. They want power over women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 10:14 AM
9

They believe that "real alphas" don't visit that subreddit... In our terms, HVM don't go there. It's too bad for them that RPW doesn't work. I am fully welcoming of any previous RPW who wants a more empowered dating/relationship life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 10:09 AM
5

Honestly, if it wasn't for No. 5, I could have worked with all this Isn't that always how it goes??? The bar is so low that all we want is a man who can communicate like a human.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 09:51 AM
1

No, it's better to have experience so you know what you're looking for in a husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 09:46 AM
15

Those four stages are absolutely spot on. I never knew that was universal but of course I've experienced it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 09:41 AM
53

It reads as satire of the "not like other girls" girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 01:47 PM
3

I think there's a way to post links without adding to the viewcount, but I don't know the details. They do it over at /r/gendercritical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 09:39 PM
2

No argument there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 08:41 AM
9

You shouldn't be worried about how you did. Do you like him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 12:07 AM
-1

I do seem to be an exception, but I don't know the reason. I suspect it might be because of how I view sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 12:04 AM
3

Yeah but that doesn't change how the tricks view them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 11:03 PM
2

Sounds like he wants to demean you by "making a whore" out of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 11:00 PM
19

Lol how does he know you're not gonna rob him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 10:59 PM
-1

I think in some cases women get attached just because they expect to. Maybe there's a biological reason I don't get attached as a result, but I think it's at least in part because I don't view it as a bonding experience. If I get attached to a guy, it's because I've spent dozens of hours with him, not because I put his penis in me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 10:12 PM
29

And in his head he's just laughing and laughing and laughing...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 08:52 AM
5

Pretty normal for me. I tell the guy he can finish on himself if he'd like and there are usually no objections.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 06:32 AM
12

Me too!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 06:29 AM
5

I have believed this exact thing for a long time, so I am in complete agreement with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 06:27 AM
4

I wonder if that has to do with women being more selective in the first place, making it more likely for a man to fake a connection in order to sleep with someone he's not truly compatible with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 06:23 AM
4

True. I'm not attracted to many people but I have a high sex drive. Good luck to your friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 06:04 AM
2

Do it, girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 06:03 AM
8

RPW isn't right for anyone because no woman is naturally submissive. It's bad for all of us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 12:56 AM
3

Thay whole clump of subs is for men and female cucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 11:48 PM
5

Why do you have to block him to download tinder? You're not exclusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 11:42 PM
5

I have the same thing going on: high sex drive, disinterest after orgasm, and men clamoring for commitment. I wonder if they just want a relationship because it's harder to get? I think we should still not have sex right away even for FWB. It makes the world a better place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 11:34 PM
17

Read The Gift of Fear! If he doesn't listen to the word "no," leave or kick him out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 11:10 PM
12

Girl why in the fuck are you worried about your own attitude in all this!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 11:25 AM
10

Treat her with the respect her future partner should treat her with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 11:39 PM
2

What's breadcrumbing?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 11:14 PM
2

I honestlu have NEVER been with a guy who wasn't thrilled about eating pussy. Men will literally pay to eat pussy. So when a guy won't, yeah either he's gay like people are saying in that thread, or there's something actually wrong with him emotionally. Also just so y'all know, guys don't need blowjobs. I never give head and guys wanna eat my pussy and wife me. It's a nice filter for entitlement, actually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 11:09 PM
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Exactly. They've ben forcing us to need them for so long that now it's hard for them to accept that they have to make us want them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 10:53 PM
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A lot of guys online take terrible photos. Like they honestly think some photo from below of them scowling is gonna make them look good...?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 10:49 PM
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Thank you! This reminder came at the beginning of my day :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 10:19 PM
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People around reddit like to make themselves feel better by saying that the only people those tactics would work on are those who deserve it or who are really dumb. That's not true though. They work on all people. Anyone can be a victim of abuse. They want victims to feel ashamed so they won't come together and unite against creepy stuff like we have in this subreddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 10:00 PM
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Maybe!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 09:09 AM
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You deserve better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 09:09 AM
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I think it's sketchy that the woman he's sleeping with can't see his facebook... That would bother me. There's a way to check someone's criminal record online but I don't know how to do it. Maybe someone could chime in who knows that process better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 09:08 AM
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Lol only keep dating this guy if he is John Wick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 03:00 AM
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Sounds like it's time to level up... You develop feelings for whoever you spend time with. Cut that cord!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 02:57 AM
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You don't have to put up with it. Often a guy will do that to make his gf feel bad but there are lots of guys who want you to feel good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 01:43 AM
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The movie thing is super disrespectful and you should not tolerate it. Next time you watch a movie together, say something positive about a male actor's body. Like "I think the scene where Channing Tatum did the dance was so erotic! It really brought the film together on an intellectual level." But with a less obvious example of course. Like make it sound really sincere. And no not every guy does this. The good ones know better than to say weird shit like that around their gf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 01:40 AM
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Well, I'm younger than you so take this however you want, but it sounds like he is/was up to something illegal. Either that or he is living a double life and doesn't want you showing up at his work, wherever that may be. This is super shady and you shouldn't commit unless he openly tells you where all his money came from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 01:34 AM
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Good people just don't expect that others are saying that stuff for selfish reasons. Most of us can only learn this stuff from experience... That's why I'm glad this sub exists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 10:47 PM
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Because he has no value to demonstrate lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 09:23 PM
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Lol I think Dennis' system is based on PUA tactics, not the other way around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 09:20 PM
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I think it's a difference in execution in this case. Her guy was grinning like an idiot so of course she noticed it. I'm sure yours was a lot smarter about it. And goodhearted people would normally not think that this kind of thing is just a "demonstration." They would think it's just a regular story since that's probably something they would do themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 09:18 PM
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It's not obvious if the guy is executing it right. It sounds like in your case he was an idiot with the grinning and everything. Guys can be way more sneaky than that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 09:16 PM
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Yep. There's nothing wrong with being a feminist, btw. If you ever ask yourself if a guy is trash, the answer is probably yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 03:41 AM
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Lol my ex tried to pull this bs with me. I said "go ask the store clerk."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 02:06 AM
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Guys will say anything to get you off the market, because they want commitment from you. But it doesn't make them like you more, it just makes them like themselves more!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 11:19 PM
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Ugh, sounds like a power trip. I'm glad you got away from that mess!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 11:02 PM
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In my experience, though, the good guys usually want women with some experience (given that they have some themselves). Just like us, they want someone who knows what they want and what they're doing. It's the pissants who feel like they need an inexperienced, preferably naive woman so they can make believe they own her and feel like they matter in the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 10:56 PM
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Truly wise words!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 10:52 PM
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Yep! That's why it's more important for us to care about ourselves than to please them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 10:38 PM
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No, their desires do not change. Big lol, what a blunder!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 10:36 PM
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I see arrogance as compensation for low confidence in most cases. For me, being humble is part of being confident.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 10:34 PM
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Exercise always gives me a boost (especially lifting), and mindfulness meditation has changed my life for the better. I think setting and reaching goals is how you get that long term substrate of confidence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 10:33 PM
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Pieces of shit approach low confidence women. Men with something to give approach confident women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 10:24 PM
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Yeah, it does feel really good if you're with a guy you're actually attracted to. I've done both, and it's a completely different sensation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 09:43 AM
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Strip clubs are very much part of reality whether you want to acknowledge that or not. A man's nature doesn't change when he walks through the door.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 09:33 AM
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Looks matter too, but out of the things you can control, confidence matters the most. I have seen "ugly" dancers rake it in simply because they believe in themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 09:29 AM
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You just made me realize why my ex made me so upset: he was abusing my shadow self. I'll have to learn to recognize this in the future by identifying my shadow self so I can protect it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 03:23 AM
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