So I’ve come to the conclusion my ex was a misogynistic pos. it took me a while to dump him due to my codependent/low self esteem issues (which I’m now trying to work on!)

However, thinking back on some of the things he did to me during sex, I feel quite disturbed now I’m out of the relationship and can see things more clearly. Sometimes during sex he would slap me, spit in my face, choke me (not always too hard), and what I did not like the most was when he would lift me up by my hair when we were doing missionary and one time he put a pillow over my face without warning. I hated it. It made me feel like a piece of meat. The sex wasn’t always like this, most of the time it was great and very pleasurable for me and not always so ... violent.

Outside of sex he would often insult me straight to my face saying things like my butt isn’t big enough and I have an annoying voice, or he would comment on how attractive women were when we were watching tv.

But he could also be the most affectionate and sweet and cuddly person I’ve met, and would compliment me and say nice things to me. I guess I’m writing this post because I almost need validation from strangers that he was a misogynistic pos because I have moments where I miss him and I beat myself up over it for the way he treated me. I wish I had more respect for myself and I wish I dumped him sooner.

Why do men treat women like this?