Emotionally immature guys?

suaveagave · 2019-10-30T20:25:44+00:00

I’ve noticed this too. This coupled with the fact I had to grow up very quickly is the reason why I tend to only consider men who are 5-10 years older than me as relationship material. Also, the older I get, the more I find I’m able to date men close to my own age.

And I feel like men begin to split into two camps as they get older-

1) The men who wise up and realize that emotional maturity, introspection, self-reflection, etc. are important and necessary in being a functioning human being

2) The men who are just clueless forever and live in bliss from their ignorance (like it literally never occurs to them they should be bothered about it)

Find a man who’s in camp 1 y’all.

ino_y · 2019-10-31T03:16:08+00:00

Yes, it's severe, to the stage where I think men in the dating pool are all on the spectrum.

I'm about to make a post on the signs of emotional immaturity and what to look for. I bet so many men are going to get dumped right after lmao.

ManchurianCantaloupe · 2019-10-30T20:32:56+00:00

Only five? Lucky.

This is extraordinarily common because nothing is asked of men/boys in this society, emotionally speaking.

They aren't taught to consider others' desires, needs, and feelings. Having company stay at your house? Rarely will a man consider if they'll need food, or to have the guest bed made up, or towels laundered. My girlfriends are constantly asking me "do you need a drink? can I get you something to eat? can I help you find something?" when I come over.

They aren't taught to be polite or agreeable because society tells young boys that they're destined to be powerful and smart and good leaders by default. Society teaches them that their ideas are worthy of being heard and teaches little girls that they're "bossy" for thinking the same.

Most men immediately shovel all the domestic work and emotional labor on to their wives and girlfriends because mommy always did it for them growing up and they have no concept of the delineation between being a child and a grown ass adult. Then they're bewildered when the woman in their life lashes out, burnt out and sick of constantly doing all the work. "Why didn't you just tell me to do all the work I should automatically know to do as a grown man?? :-(" they ask, completely missing the fucking point. There's never a point in their lives when scary, older women abruptly start sexualizing them, so I think they miss a lot of the quick "growing up" girls have to do.

Now we're telling them we refuse to stand for it and that we're going to hold them to the same emotional intelligence standards women are expected to have and (as you can tell by the horrible reactions to this community) they're fucking furious.

So, in short. Yes. God, fucking yes.

2019-10-30T21:28:10+00:00

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Title	Emotionally immature guys?
Author	50sweet25ice
Upvotes	0
Comments	7
Date	October 30, 2019 8:16 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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