Building frame

Job_The_Saint · 2018-11-22T20:15:18+00:00

One of the corner stones of frame is having self-worth in your life.

Educate yourself, hit the gym, get good with the ladies, get a job doing what you want to do, etc. Once you can look in the mirror and be proud of the man that's staring back at you, most people wont be able to get under your skin and phase your mental state. Imagine being so ripped that you belong in the top 5% of guys with the best physique and now someone comes around and tells you "you look like shit" or something along those lines. Now you can just start arguing with this person and enter their frame or you can just brush them off with something witty or by smoothly changing the subject. The former being an example of you entering their frame (i.e. they set the stage of "you're ugly" now let's debate about it) and the latter and example of you staying in your own frame. This is something that you can observe in professional debating if you look closely, someone will present an argument that is either too strong to ignore, in which case being witty helps, or is so weak that it can be ignored.

Now some topics you might consider personal and you will probably get emotional about those things especially when someone insults you on those topics. Those are the tricky ones, because when we get emotional we tend to throw all of rationality and "frame keeping skills" if I may, out the window, which results in complete loss of frame. A way to prevent this from happening is to be present in the moment and to know yourself enough so that you can either prevent yourself from getting emotional or calm yourself down once you do get emotional. For that I suggest reading "The power of now" and "The mind illuminated" books, the former about living in the present moment and the latter about meditating, which helps with self control and self awareness.

These are not the only ways, but I have experienced these to be effective means of building frame.

Title	Building frame
Author	Caroluss
Upvotes	1
Comments	3
Date	November 22, 2018 4:02 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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