Where has this sub been all my life?

TheOGJammies · 2019-10-25T16:24:46+00:00

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_HEDONISM_BOT · 2019-10-25T17:05:30+00:00

I'm a single woman in my early twenties who has chased after every guy I've dated. Unsurprisingly, none of them gave me the love I deserve, which has always made me feel like I'm not enough.

As it turns out, everything I knew about dating as a woman was wrong.

A lot of the "dating advice" given to women actually comes from men. "Dating advice" geared towards women, that comes from men is easily identifiable. Please learn to identify and IGNORE male-authored "dating advice" directed at women. This "male-authored advice" typically tells you to:

It tells you to Lower your standards. It standard shames you and tells you that being selective and choosing to date only high quality men is going to lead you to a lonely life with cats in it, they also typically dangle the "mid-30's" negging point at you. This is a common misperception. Women, at ALL ages, have an easier time finding dates and people to spend time with than men. This is evidenced by the abysmally low response rates that men receive on online dating and when "cold approaching", in real life. The goal of this male-authored advice is to get women to let their guard/standard down and give incels, unattractive men, manchildren, abusers, narcissists, cheaters, unemployed men/NEETs, and low-quality /noncommittal men a "chance". They won't get past your filters otherwise.
It negs you, nitpicks at your flaws, tells you you are unworthy and have to "bring something to the table", and attempts to lure you into a place of insecurity. There is a phenomenon out there in the dating world where men are 100% vested in making as many women insecure as possible. They tell women that they're going to end up alone because she's (insert insults here: Older, bigger, smaller, shorter, taller, etc etc.) They want to create "herd insecurity" in women by telling them they become less desirable when they're older (sure, but men become less desirable with age, too. As they begin to bald, descend into dad bod, and Erectile dysfunction kicks in... and the wrinkles, gray hair, etc. etc.... we slowly realize that age is nobody's friend). This "advice" helps cheap, lazy, unattractive romantic partners fuck more women, easier, and cheaper. The goal of this "advice" that comes from men is to make as MANY women insecure as possible because insecure women initiate, go dutch on dates, fuck and suck on the first date, send nudes, pay his bills, do his laundry, suck his dick, and when he ghosts her, she gets the blame. You do everything and get nothing in the end. This benefits men 100% and you can see exactly why they give out this "advice".
It tells you to initiate, pursue, go dutch on dates, become too available (text back immediately, accept "reschedules" at the last minute), have sex sooner, rather than later, and commit to him exclusively and automatically, by default, without expecting or being told exclusivity is at hand. The goal of this "advice" is to give into the lazy romantic partner's weak efforts. To reward his lack of commitment with your own commitment. It benefits men 100% and you can see the bias in why they dish out this "advice".
It tells you to be "honest" about your sexual past, something that NO MAN wants to hear about, and having any discussion of a sexual past will turn off and scare away most men, because most men are offended that you had the sexual NERVE to exist before you met him. Most men also have a fetish and obsession with sexual innocence and purity, and they want to fuck as many "low N-count" women as possible (N= number of sex partners) and that's why men tell women to be honest, to see if she fits into this "purity" male fetish. They want to fuck. They don't want to fuck just any girl. They want to fuck pure girls. That's why they need to find out this info from you, and lose interest when you tell them. When you tell him you've had 4, or 7, or 300, or 1, he typically loses interest and respect for you, and then proceeds to look for a way out and starts treating you worse when he finds out that you don't fit this common male fantasy of "the virgin GF/Bride". The goal of this "advice" is to get as many men laid to "pure women" as possible, and you can see why they're vested in doling out this "advice" to women.

These are just a few of the common themes/patterns I've noticed in male authored "dating advice" that's aimed at women. IGNORE IT, LADIES. It doesn't work!!! Men want a woman who makes them work for the sex, who is "pure" as evidenced by a lack of sexual past (or a lie she tells him about it, lol, stupid moids), a woman who reinforces boundaries and tells him "no", a woman that's not available, and that's too busy to be worried about him.

Cocksmasher69 · 2019-10-25T16:52:51+00:00

Don't take it for granted, moids do everything in their power to erase female spaces so they can continue acting like subhumans with impunity

rftw2013 · 2019-10-25T16:36:17+00:00

Read the links in the sidebar. Absorb the lessons.

Kzunzh · 2019-10-26T01:21:20+00:00

Oh my gosh same, I just started reading this tonight! Super excited to be able to understand how it all works pretty soon hopefully

Title	Where has this sub been all my life?
Author	bitchnouveau
Upvotes	2
Comments	5
Date	October 25, 2019 3:41 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/dmz7vm/where_has_this_sub_been_all_my_life/
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