I am one who prefers to daygame. I have gotten a lot of numbers to date, but struggle with leading these numbers on dates. Often they result in ghosting. I understand that there is something I need to change, and I am trying to find out what is wrong with my approach. Earlier today I was writing this, somewhat like a blog post for myself, and I would appreciate any feedback or advice others have on the post. I am trying to fix myself, so that I can get more dates rather than just flaky numbers, and so I appreciate the help.

Here is the post:

So lately I have been trying to learn about what makes certain approaches successful. Namely, what makes a number lead to a date - rather than just ghosting. At first I thought it was not showing enough interest. Then I felt that I was coming off as a best friend vibe rather than being sexual. I think I got the answer now. When I think back at all the dates I have had, and people that I think could have led to dates, they all had one thing in common. There was a certain look in their eyes, one of which suggests very high interest. It is not a sexual look, but rather one where you really enjoy what you see. That you want more of it. I believe it is this look that determines whether a date will be created out of a number close. If this were to be true, then the question comes as to how to create such a look? The look is merely a symptom of a created connection, much like I study body language, this look is a sign of very high interest. So what leads to the look, and how can I replicate it?

There have been some things I have been focusing on that I think are very good. One is demonstrating intent. Second is congruence. Third is slowing down speech and making more eye contact. I think now I am lacking the creation of a connection. I am very good at keeping a conversation going and making them laugh. But is this not the job of an entertainer? My job is not to be an entertainer, it is to create a connection and leave them wanting more. This is when that look is created. When there is a connection, and you close at a high point. Girls give out numbers like crazy. That is not an indication of success. You need to focus on building a connection. Finding points of connection, and elaborating on those. Rather than using your conversational skills to entertain/ further the conversation, you need to focus on building a connection. This is with any relationship.

So what can I do to change. Keep what you are doing right -> good eye contact, demonstrate intention, and slow speech / good body language, but change the premise of your conversation. Your conversation is not to build rapport, but rather a connection. This is a fundamental shift in what I have been thinking. A paradime shift. Find points of similarity, and focus on them. There a connection is created. In the meantime, demonstrate sexual interest through non verbals. Close at a high point. This is where you create that high interest look. This is where dates are created.