Hi guys,

So basically I'm bi and I got asked out a few days ago by this girl who goes to the same uni as me. We get on really well, we have similar interests and there's defo a physical attraction there too. So far she's been lovely and not at all sleazy (which makes a lovely change from the men I've had ask me out).

What I'm kind of worried is she said she wanted a relationship whereas I don't really want one because I'm graduating next year and hopefully moving abroad. I was a massive pickme last year and a couple of months back I decided I'd had enough of shitty experiences in my love life. Whilst I'm totally open to a relationship with the right one, I mainly don't want one because I want to enjoy my final year at university working on myself and if we did get together the relationship would have an expiry date. She's in med school so her course is for another 5 years.

I know this isn't really man related but has anyone also encountered this thing where they're happy doing their own thing, someone pops up and shows interest and they're like nope why did this happen now ffs. How did you deal with it? I don't want to be horrible towards her or anything and I have a tendency to plan ahead (which is a blessing and a curse) even if it is my love life. I'm just looking at it from a heartbreak pov and I'm trying to protect myself.