I’ve been looking at different posts on how people set and enforce boundaries in an LTR. I see some people say to verbalize your boundaries and what you’re comfortable with and to enforce them, while I see others say that verbalizing boundaries is “beta” and you should never overtly state what you think is acceptable. I personally believe that setting boundaries covertly via the use of Dread and not trying to negotiate what is acceptable and what is not is the better way of navigating this.

This has left me with the question - should one be overt or covert when establishing what is acceptable and what is not? This piece of theory has been a bit fuzzy in my head.