I have problems with talking.

RedSkeller · 2018-12-05T19:51:05+00:00

Im still having a lack of muscles

Yup. Hit the gym, eat well, cut out dopamine fixes, drugs/alcohol/caffine, get plenty of sleep and if you still feel like shit see a doctor for blood work or a therapist to get sorted out. There is no quick fix and no one on the internet can help your 'problems with talking'.

[deleted] · 2018-12-05T20:37:24+00:00

Go talk to more people. Just like building muscles, you need to build your social skills. Go talk to random people about anything. Sit at the bar when you're out and try to shoot the shit with other people. Go to meet up events and talk to those people. Join clubs, groups, events. Get a job in sales. Be social with strangers.

[deleted] · 2018-12-05T20:01:40+00:00

This isn't a problem with game. This is a problem with frame. I'll explain what I mean.

You are going to run into situations all the time where you don't have anything to say with a girl you're dealing with. This is super common, and it's a natural part of things. The periods of silence or nothing to say aren't your problem; your problem is that these periods are undermining you. This happens because you are weak in the frame department.

There is no easy solution for this. You have to put in a substantial amount of work, and your frame will slowly improve over time as you do that. This includes things like the physical (lifting, cutting out crap you consume, a good sleep schedule) as well as the mental (doing the requiring reading, confronting what you're afraid of in other areas like school/business/otherwise, etc.).

GrimlyStoic · 2018-12-05T22:48:25+00:00

Study Standup Comedy and Public Speaking if you wan't to get better at speaking.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2018-12-06T02:34:44+00:00

This is because you're not talking often enough.

This is the same as people who have problems benching more than 3/4 their weight. They don't lift often enough.

Go and do it. Stop whining about how you don't think you have skills.

maljo24 · 2018-12-06T01:18:47+00:00

When run out of things to say I start asking questions. Let her do the work. What's her favorite movie? Has she been to Alasaka? Whatever she says leads to the next question.

OfficerWade · 2018-12-06T09:10:59+00:00

Talking to hear yourself talk? There’s gotta be a platform for that. Anyways you’re probably not haveing problems with opening your mouth and pardon the pun, so to speak but you’re more interested in getting people to like you. That one thing that all the single ladies in your area will love and adore you! What is it?

Title	I have problems with talking.
Author	InfectedDonor
Upvotes	4
Comments	11
Date	December 5, 2018 7:38 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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