Need some support lads

Parris01a · 2020-07-01T22:30:16+00:00

Honestly she was probably sleeping with other guys during those 6 years.

You never went to her place, you never met her kid, and as you said she was “8/10”.

Eventually you’ll get over her. And hopefully you’ll be happier for it.

I would also suggest going fishing or going for a hike. Those usually help when I’m trying to clear my head.

Airman07 · 2020-07-01T22:29:21+00:00

Doesnt sound too bad. Had some sex. Not too much money spent I assume if you chilled at your place. You will forgot her more and more as time passes.

FeedMeMore22778534 · 2020-07-01T22:40:25+00:00

She has to be in a relationship because she can’t be alone. That would force her to evaluate her shitty life and might require her to make changes - which would require work.

As for you, I’d recommend watching a Wes Watson video on YouTube and start putting in that WORK baby boy 💪🏼💯 best of luck to you

seattlemgtow · 2020-07-01T22:38:20+00:00

Rub one out, and concentrate on going your own way.

Ocjab · 2020-07-01T23:45:01+00:00

She was never yours, it was only your turn.

Why would we roast you? Yes, you were stupid to even date a single mom. But we all make stupid mistakes. The only thing we all hope here is that you have learned your lesson.

Read some more stuff on this subreddit so you can finally move on and understand what women are. There is a reason why this saying exists: "Either you love them or you understand them, you can't do both"

Also, about those anti depressants ... I can't be 100% sure about this so I'm going on a limb here.

Either you feel that you need external validation. Trust me, this is pointless. You don't need external validation, it's a drug that you can never truly fulfill. Emotions are too fickle of a thing, someone might like you one day and the next they will dislike you. It's a pointless thing. The only validation you need is your own. Improve yourself, be the best you can be so that in the end, you can be proud of yourself for what you have accomplished in your life!

the other reason, I think you might be depressed about is because you have been brainwashed to fight for a societal cause. Let me tell you this now, there is no cause in the world that is worthy of your sacrifice. Stop wasting your time on things that don't matter to you. I'll give you an example: We have been taught that we should protect our wives. That if she gets into a threatening life and death situation, that you must sacrifice yourself to save her. ... ... ... You know what you just did? You sacrificed your life so she can fuck other dudes. Congratz! That must feel amazing! She will probably be dating someone else a few months after your death, I wouldn't be surprised if she dating someone that she met at your funeral. Don't be an idiot! This counts for every other cause in the world. You will just die and never see the benefits of it. Fuck that shit.

This is another aspect of mgtow. Go your own way and fuck society. It doesn't care about you, why should you care about it.

Dunkman83 · 2020-07-01T23:16:18+00:00

6 years and u never met her kid?? Something was really fishy with that girl and thankfully you dont have to find that out.

Its fine bro.. find a hobby, ANY hobby at all.

And just keep building your castle..

TheOnlyThing-Sufjan · 2020-07-01T22:46:08+00:00

First of all you're not broken, life sucks right now and then it gets better, however to make it become better you can try to learn from your previous experiences. I'm not saying that MGTOW has the answers, but there might be some observations which might be usefull for you, so read and think about this stuff and then start making choices.

So the first thing alot of men on this sub wil point out is that dating a single mom is quite a risk (most will say that dating at all is a risk, or will put it as a stupid thing to do). This because she is taking alot of baggage with her, also even if you dont pay for the child and she makes that clear from the start, eventually you will be called upon, and I would argue that the kid has a father so let him fullfill that role. To be fair it sounds like in 6 years she did not push this on you so mabye she was not thinking that.

Second quite a few red flags (and ofcourse nobodies perfect, but still things to look out for). First of single mom, if she is not widowed, it means she made a couple of descicions which werent great. For example she picked a guy to be the father of her child and choose one that did not stick aroudn (I assume), second if it was an accident then she was either not raised very right or she does not make smart moves (ofcourse again this is assuming), then you say she got pregnant at 14. Ofcourse context is needed, but I would argue that in general this shows a lack of thinking things through. Also you say that all you did in 6 year was have sex and chill at your place, was that the only thing she brought to the table? That is a good thought experiment, what does she bring to the table other then sex, if the answer is very little you know that your 'heartbreak' is more related to the physical high then the mental high.

Now you say you are not in a very good place mentally, I would really focus on yourself for awhile. Try to get help if you need it, but also read this sub alot of men found that letting go of the expectations of society to preform and to please (in general women) made their depression and anxiety flow away. Try to get into a mindset where you feel strong and calm and this can be achieved by setting priorities and focussing on what you want to be. That is not to say I dismiss mental health as something you can just fix, its a serious condition and seek help if you need it.

And a final thing, look up the term monkey brancing on this sub, and you will understand quite well why she jumped so easy to the other guy. Basically (and especially in the current corona situation) women will only jump ship if she is sure she can go to another guy for proteciton and comfort. Not saying she cheated on you (but chances are high because of the quick switch), but she was working on this other guy while you were together for sure.

Hope this helped a bit

someevilwhitemen · 2020-07-01T23:05:27+00:00

women are obsessed with their vagina because they derive their power from it on men and society

thats how she gets power over you get over her pussy you will get over her

you are 26 you have great sex with a hot young woman and dont lose anything in the process

its not a big deal you will realize that soon enough dont worry

Pufnager · 2020-07-01T23:19:37+00:00

Welcome mate! Nice to see you here! Enjoy your journey :)

sootlord · 2020-07-02T01:07:09+00:00

Look bro. Take it from me whose banged enough single moms to know what the fuck they are all about. They will never be happy and long term will cause you so much fucking problems your flacid dick wont know what dafuq is happening.

They do this. They find a better option and they bounce. My ex gf single mom did it, your girl did it, they all do it.

She did you a favor. Shes a signle mom for a reason. Everything she touches turns to sand. Also awalt.

Stop being a little slut and listen to Tom Leykis he will show you the way https://youtu.be/JUgEoHB8jhI

Bailey12393 · 2020-07-01T23:09:05+00:00

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jack333318 · 2020-07-01T23:18:51+00:00

I had a kinda similar situation... well woman brike up with me and went back to her ex..

Got some good advice here

https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/h9iqph/stood_by_my_ex_for_a_year_while_she_was_suicidal/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

BrazilianSwiftie · 2020-07-01T23:32:25+00:00

You clearly dodged a bullet. Be thankful.

Aposematicly · 2020-07-02T00:39:25+00:00

I once dated a single mother, and thought about marrying her. Decided not to. Best damn decision I ever made! I caught up with her in the setting of giving condolences for her Father's recent death. She had had another child with the Father of the first. He then died very prematurely of a heart attack...

MuchIndependence · 2020-07-02T03:36:18+00:00

Broken is when she reaches down your throat and pulls your wallet out through your heart. You just got trained into the fantasy of what might have been and it's tough to let go of but time heals. Check up on her in five years and you'll probably see it was for the best it didn't go any further

Hateussoyboys · 2020-07-02T06:49:36+00:00

Why broken?

You are free!

GYOW

jstrockmeyer · 2020-07-02T07:30:09+00:00

I get it too, some single mothers actually know how to make the cake look good...If they are the really observing kind, they figure you out and chameleon into the closest they can to your ideal. Spy shit right there...

How about your gut? How much time in proportion was that gut feeling bothering you?

I am betting at least at the end times, it probably was too much to bear, am I right?

Congrats!

_ImS_ · 2020-07-02T09:26:42+00:00

What have you lost really?

A false connection that she could replace within a week. A mouth to suck your dick. floppy drained titties. A worn out, had by many before you pussy. A lot of time. A finanical burden.

That's all you've lost. Now go and read some Briffaults Law and internalise it. Dont SIMP for a single mother ever again. You literally simped for someone who has been cum in, cum on and turned out. Stop it. Go your own way and prosper.

(I'm being harsh but these are words I said to myself. I too dated an older single mom when i was 25. She had a fat butt. I really enjoy fat butts. Probably more than normal. Point is, it happens but you will recover. Just be careful of when she calls you to see how you're doing a couple months from now. She'll only have destruction in her mind.)

SniffSnatch · 2020-07-02T11:57:12+00:00

It was a chinese woman that ate the bat, not a guy. And what's there to roast, you fucked an 8/10 without comitting financially, you are a winner. now move on, you are not special, nothing really happened

michaelfowler · 2020-07-02T12:52:30+00:00

Youre not as broken as her pussy after chads been through it

seattlemgtow · 2020-07-16T22:35:25+00:00

Going off the happy pills ain't easy. But once you come out the other side, you'll feel a lot more alive with vim and vigor. Hang in there.

Title	Need some support lads
Author	Bailey12393
Upvotes	14
Comments	28
Date	July 1, 2020 10:23 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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