this may seem obvious to a lot of you guys but this is an epiphany to me.

The girls i met at parties irl who saw me as fuck buddies, one night stands, or even bf material, i'd get their numbers or ig and i'd never talk to them aside from if i wanted to randomly meet every other week or month for a party or just plain boring dinner.

I didnt FEEL like i wanted to send them memes. i didnt feel compelled to say hi to them randomly or anything. It was literally just "yoo, we're going to x on friday. yall goin? niceee, cya there" and thatd literally be enough. I could not talk to them for weeks or even months and it wouldnt even register - even though they were objectively hotter than the girls i matched with off tinder.

juxtaposing this to 90% of girls i'd match with on tinder, i felt "compelled" in a way to want to talk to them. I felt like i wanted to share with them hilarious memes and crack jokes and get to know about each other and itd go no where.

Even tho the girls i matched with were far less attractive and just simply not as cool, my rejection rate with them was so much higher.

again, im' sure this is not news to anyone but putting the pieces together i was just shocked