Help I’m in Love

I-am-ed · 2020-07-04T07:25:29+00:00

hey man we’re not gonna stop you, but theres a high chance this will turn to shit. go do what you “FEEL” like doing, you’ll see.

Boogaboogabrother · 2020-07-04T07:28:10+00:00

Love is too strong a word.

Call it infatuation. Later on itll subside.

The only person you can/should love is yourself.

harrypoppy1 · 2020-07-04T09:05:08+00:00

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alphaonthecomeup · 2020-07-04T12:59:07+00:00

Yo you can drop your plates and focus on this girl and enjoy the ride. Have fun and do your thing. Just make sure you are her best option and she knows that you can have other girls whenever you want.

Read up about dread.

Just understand she is not your possession. She can leave you whenever she wants and you will need to prepare for that day. That’s the only con about love and dropping plates. You fall head over heels, emotionally invest and then when it ends you can’t turn it off like how girls can.

Honestly bro, love is a great experience. Just don’t ever show insecurity or break frame. Don’t make her your whole life, she is a side piece that you love. Like the gym , you love the gym but you dont spend every second at the gym. You love burgers but that’s not what you eat everyday.

Good luck. Don’t be afraid to love.

courtesy_flush_plz · 2020-07-04T07:59:44+00:00

love or infatuation or lust whatever you wanna call it, all can definitely lead to oneitis & those feelings from her to you will start to get diluted because she's not gonna feel like she is gonna lose you at all.

that's why marriages tank after honeymoon phase.

hell, LTR's fade after awhile.

I'd stay strong & play it cool man

iphone5000 · 2020-07-04T18:03:35+00:00

'Love' is a special thing that doesn't come around very often and you should be happy you found a girl you want to be with.

Now that we got that out of the way here's where your focus must be.

She always has to wonder about how you feel. Don't start spouting off about how much you love her yadadad, you can say you love her and everything, but never say it more than her ever.

Once she stops wondering about how you feel then she starts analyzing you and once she starts analyzing she starts to notice your faults because we all have faults. Then she starts to think about replacing you because in fact there is always someone better.

Keep her wondering not knowing she has you in the bag.

So the three keys to keeping a girl as far as I can tell is you don't live in her frame, you always maintain options, and always maintain walk away power.

You want her, but never need her then you can keep her.

2020-07-04T15:58:13+00:00

I think being in love and exclusive is a great thing if you both want it. But be wary of losing abundance mentality, thinking it is fated, there is no one else you could want etc. Keep that risk alive every day. Without risk the energy will die. A big part of the feelings she has is the tingles she is getting from feeling like she is corraling a high quality guy into commitment. The energy level will drop unless you keep dread alive by working on yourself, doing new things, gaining more skills, having female friends/prospects etc.

LeatherBoundWisdom · 2020-07-04T17:09:46+00:00

Careful friend, you walk a dangerous path.

volvostupidshit · 2020-07-04T17:53:31+00:00

I know where this going and it will be a disaster.

Title	Help I’m in Love
Author	harrypoppy1
Upvotes	4
Comments	13
Date	July 4, 2020 6:25 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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