Stats: 19M, 5'8", 121 lbs. Readings: RPC sidebar, No More Mr Nice Guy Mission: To become a disciple capable of making disciples by gaining wisdom through biblical and intellectual pursuits, confidence through building a solid body and frame, and putting myself in a place where the gospel is needed (STEM field).
Before I begin with the question, I should let you know I understand exactly where I should be focusing: lifting and gaining weight. I have plans to hop into the gym right away as soon as my school starts in a month and opens its rec center. (I don’t do home workouts and there isn't a gym nearby that I can easily get to). I already have gained some weight since my last OYS, although it's probably not muscle.
Anyway, I am wondering whether I should "go on dates" in light the advice given by u/rocknrollchuck in my last OYS. At this point, I don’t know whether to follow that advice or not based on some of my assumptions.
In my opinion, you need to have a strong frame, physical build, and mission in order to have the confidence and mentality that is necessary to attract women. This seems to be in line with the advice given by many to hit the gym and developed a mission first and foremost in response for some asking for relationship advice. These attributes make dating much more worthwhile as you are more likely to attract and hold onto better females.
So, given that, would it be best to avoid dating entirely? The thoughts behind this being: why would I spend my time casually dating when I know at this time I am not prepared for it, where I don't have a mission that I'm committed to, and understand the vetting process? In addition, I don’t consider myself "the prize to be won" yet, since I need that solid foundation.
On the other hand, should I still consider myself the prize, regardless of what stage I'm in, as is the idea also held by many, including in the Book of Pook which I have glanced through? The implications of this would be dating for fun to build game while still lifting and pursuing mission, and learning the vetting process through the dates I go on. This also seems beneficial.
For me, the problem is I don’t see how casual dating is part of a mission when I can just pursue a relationship with Christ by myself. But some benefits are still there, which confuses me, especially when I see others on this sub casually dating.
My question boils down to determining the purpose of dating. I also wonder if I have a misconception about something, if I'm over thinking this and its simply my choice, or if you think I'm giving excuses to not talk to girls haha.