I understand how the usual advice is that in LTRs, you want your level of investment to be lower than the girls at all stages of the relationship. However, is being too loving/vulnerable without being over invested a bad thing? For example, i value my own time and goals, but when I'm with her I'm making the moves, organizing surprise dates, trying to provide pleasure and love, and willing to be vulnerable/make risky propositions and be honest about my emotions, putting my feelings on the line.

For example, when we started dating I commited a red pill sin. She said she wanted to break things off, because she didnt like casual hookups. I first expressed i understood where she was coming from and that she was free to do whatever she wanted. Then, after a few minutes of talking about her qualms, I told her i had feelings for her and proposed we date so that it wouldnt be casual. She was surprised at first but thought about it for a bit, 20 minutes later we were dating. According to red pill, the guy should never be the one to propose commitment. But isnt that what old fashioned men, who led their relationships and who swept women off their feet did all the time?

Couldnt this vulnerability be seen as confidence, and this willingness to be a leader be attractive? Or would this turn her off and lower my value in her eyes?