There's this gjrl who was giving me iois in like june. But then she lost interest and stopled replying to my messages. She is muscular which i like. Anyways she started giving me iois when i suggested a gym sesh at a new gym and she said " maybe we could get a bite to eat after. " I've played cool not getting too excited. I asked she was in a conversation and she said that she is a mess and taking time off off from the gym for awhile. Not as in canceling our plans. She posted that the gym isn't fun anymore and taking time off in her story.

  • I said " sorry to hear you're not doing well
  • she said " i appreciate that"

I thought about saying something like "what's going on?" Or "I'm here if you want to talk."

Is that too much of an emotional tampon or beta? How should i go about this?

At what point is it ok to ask a girl if she's ok or to say you're there if she wants to talk?