Holding a conversation.

Adanedar · 2018-12-26T16:22:03+00:00

Use the connectors, for example someone says I went on a vacation to Brazil, you say Brazil? And then they will explain.

Any way, I polarize really fast so I get into deep conversations fast about love life and goals since that is what interests me, just straight away

ForteStrength · 2018-12-26T17:12:25+00:00

I think the biggest rule I’ve learned and followed (I work with hundreds of people a day) is that people love talking about themselves.

Ask questions about them. The more advanced you are in conversing with others; you’ll be able to add humor; effortless change topics (still in relation), etc.

I don’t think you understand what hold “frame” is. Sure your frame could be strong as fuck but you’ll literally be a robot and nobody would want to fuck with you and vice versa.

Get a part time job in retail or bar tending it’ll be practice and you’ll get paid for it

tacospitter · 2018-12-26T17:39:48+00:00

I would say the most important part of holding a conversation is developing your own genuine interest. You shouldn't be faking reactions. You should try cultivating a mentality where you're actually excited to learn about other people, whether you plan on sleeping with them or not.

This makes you seem more approachable to other people as well. It also builds your own confidence.

Asking questions is the right direction -- conversation is basically learning about the person across from you. To be a good conversationalist you need to really LISTEN, not just wait for your turn to speak.

The type of questions you ask matter a lot more than just asking question after question. You need to ask questions that present an interesting arena of conversation. Usually these questions can present themselves in a linear fashion, becoming more complex.

Consider different tiers of thought:

How are you doing?
What is your job?
Do you like your job?
Why do you feel that way?
Have you always felt that way about jobs?

By number 4-5, you are asking a person about who they really are. This is not an easy question to answer. You can both really learn something from a conversation about this. It could actually be interesting. You might not have to fake anything!

Title	Holding a conversation.
Author	askinget
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Date	December 26, 2018 4:01 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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