Original Post:

https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/hy0gnh/i_fucked_up_and_im_so_depressed_and_disgusted/

Ya see, women CAN'T have sex without expecting SOMETHING in return - like commitment. She wants to have sex and willingly has sex, but feels like HE got the better deal.

I don't want sluts, but at least a slut is fucking because she wants to fuck and enjoys fucking and realizes that they are both getting the SAME THING - sex. So it's EQUAL. But no... they don't feel that way. She feels she could have leveraged it more. Which is true, but she didn't. The deal was struck and that's it.

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But then this one comes along and basically describes what happens in a woman's mind after she doesn't get MORE than 'the equal sex'.

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The interesting comment:

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"Even when a woman is empowered and chooses to have sex with a guy, once he starts slow ghosting, it still feels like he stole something that wasn't his..."

https://www.reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty/comments/hy0gnh/i_fucked_up_and_im_so_depressed_and_disgusted/fzb5kft?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x

If he's successful in ten years her hamster will have had enough time to have created the 'rape' story. It helps her avoid the feeling of being a slut that makes poor choices and puts it on him even though sex is completely 50/50.

Let me repeat that: Even though sex is completely even - 50/50 - The woman ALWAYS feels 'fucked' afterwards. You would think these types of lessons would sink in - don't be a feral/impulsive animal... but nah... it's easier to blame men. 3.5 billion men are at fault because she can't control herself or at least realize it was a perfectly reciprocal thing and no one owes anyone any extra cause they busted a nut all up inside her guts.

She doesn't even realize that, after we nut, our testosterone drops and we finally 'relax' a bit because we accomplished our goal after plenty of hard work. She sees this relax as a drop in interest and starts acting like a fool. No wonder the guy is backing away.

¯\_(ツ)_/¯