This is going to be controversial here but any suggestions welcome.

Some of you may know of my situation - basically I'm a married man in a 5 year relationship with another married woman. Yes I'm having a long term affair. The sex is amazing and the connection is great.

What started off as an on and off relationship became emotional unfortunately. It feels so good when she tells me she"loves" me more then her husband etc etc. But over time I became someone that craved that validation.

Well fast forward to now where she's on vacation with her family and has reversed her words and although she makes time to sneak out and text me she won't tell me the things I like to hear. It's gotten to the point where I'm pouting and whining to her about it and stepping back I'm thinking wtf is wrong with me. Why do I need validation from this woman? Sure she's sexy as hell but it's not like I haven't fucked other women while fucking her.

I guess the one thing that puts her at higher value is the unprotected sex (she has an IUD) and she's not crazy at all (too worried about being found out so no blackmail or carrying a pregnancy to term here).

I'm of reasonable SMV. I am a trauma surgeon and I make a lot of money. I drive two awesome cars (both of which women love). I lift (9% body fat) and run (3:30 marathon time, 1:38 half marathon time) and do triathlons. I'm not Brad Pitt but even before I had any status I dated decent looking women (6-8's).

Just talk sense into me and tell me to not give a fuck. I'm so off course.