I need help with exit strategy

jackpayne65 · 2020-08-03T00:09:04+00:00

Brother you have a complicated situation. Take a breath and calm down.

You need LEGAL advice! It will be irresponsible of me to advice you and anyone else on what to do man, because we dont know anything about your situation.

I know this sucks and you want to hear magical words, but you are in a deep hole right now and the best thing you should do is get a lawyer that you TRUST.

American__Jedi · 2020-08-03T00:45:02+00:00

Start recording EVERYTHING. You need a device that records every conversation you have with her from now on. She's going to scream abuse at the first hint of you leaving. But first she'll threaten you with just that before she does it. You need to record her saying it ahead of time. Plus you'll need the evidence that you didn't abuse her. You'll have that by recording every day with her.

BalkanMexican91 · 2020-08-03T00:57:22+00:00

Gotta go get milk n cigarettes real quick.....

Airman07 · 2020-08-03T02:26:23+00:00

Try to make her want to leave you. Say you lost your job. Blow all your vacation/personal time. Become depressed, sit on the couch all day. Dont pay for anything, say you are broke. Drink all day. Cry. Bang another girl, get caught. Sell the vehicle, saying you need the money.

You know your situation better. I'm sure you can come up with something.

SantaClaucasian · 2020-08-03T00:15:05+00:00

It's going to be really tricky to solve all your issues without her punishing you in some way. Here's my best advice.

Be patient. Lock down a new place to stay at least one month before your current lease is up. Continue to pay for everything and act normal up until two weeks before your lease is up.

At that two week mark. Leave. Take the car and park it at a park and ride a town or two over. Since you're not married and the car is in your name and you're making payments, she has no legal right to the car. She may wish to vandalize it tho and therefore I wouldn't leave it anywhere she could find or have access to it.

She'll probably fuck the house up in retaliation for leaving but there isn't much you can do about that. Just think of paying that as your final payment for this dumbass thing you did. Keep records of any crazy shit she does after you leave. You could win cases in court if she goes super nutso. You could also maybe win custody of your kid.

Don't correspond with her at all and do not talk to your kid about what's happening over text or email!!! No written record. Don't do any crazy shit.

It'll be ok brother. In a year you will know you made the right decision and you'll thank yourself for getting out now.

Good luck.

lifeisareal · 2020-08-02T23:36:45+00:00

This is scary and fucked up situation. Unfortunately you cannot run from your responsibilities. If you try, she will kill you legally and use all the bitches way to accomplish it.

Are you married? If no stop paying car rent and be more cold. If yes, do the same.

You’ll divorce her or quite one day so you cannot avoid paying child support.

Just stop paying shit for her.

KennyBlankenship9 · 2020-08-03T02:38:29+00:00

You should try and move out before the end of the 1 year lease. At least in some states, it gets harder to evict people after 1 year(check yours). Your girlfriend could easily just stay in the unit and you would be stuck with the bill as eviction proceedings continue(and screw with your credit rating). As signer you are responsible for vacating the unit at the end of the lease. Maybe work with the management company and have them invent an excuse(plumbing repair, mold, etc) that means everyone has to move out into a motel for a couple weeks at least. Break up with her in the motel, and find your own place to live.

She's a freeloader with disability, no reason she won't try to freeload off you or the apartment complex as much as she possibly can.

SniffSnatch · 2020-08-03T04:50:05+00:00

Take LEGAL advice on how you can leave.
Leave.

Maximum_Afternoon · 2020-08-03T03:24:54+00:00

My advice is to figure out the best way to do this, not the cheapest way. That might mean renting a storage unit for the car for a couple months, having a couple months overlap for rental of a place to live. I kind of like the idea of the fake mold scare, if you could get someone to help you out on that from management. I doubt they'd want to get involved though. I wouldn't worry about your son going or staying as far as the expense of it, either way you pay child support. I assume that once you're ex is living in squalor, your son would rather come live with you.

I'd also go with record everything. My opinion is it doesn't matter whether it is admissible or not... It's better to have it and not be able to use it, then need it and not have it. And even if it's illegal... Guess what you'd have to get convicted of that, and what is it going to be, a $500 fine? Who's going to prosecute that? Nobody. You're not going to need it in court, you're going to need it at the police station when they arrest you for some stupid trumped-up domestic assault bullshits and you need to convince them that your ex is a lunatic.

Could you send them on a weekend vacation? And while they were gone, empty out your unit and lock it up?

NippyRex · 2020-08-03T03:32:54+00:00

You need to talk to a lawyer. There may be some sort of stipulation that you no longer need to pay child support if the child is living permanently with you again. Depending on what she is doing with her disability money she may be committing fraud and you may potentially be an accessory.

If you don't want to go the lawyer route, you're probably better off just toughing it out for another year and a half till your son is 18, child support is 100% done and then just moving out when the lease is up. Problem with this is that if you have set a pattern for acting as the primary breadwinner for her 10 year old, she can potentially get child support from you all over again (believe it or not). You should really get a free consultation.

HeadBangTiger · 2020-08-03T12:19:00+00:00

Look at the bright side. You aren't married and only have 2 more years of baby jail. No idea what you should do now, but when your kid is 18, you can easily tell her and her little bastard kid to fuck off forever.

DubsPackage · 2020-08-04T05:19:44+00:00

Put your kid's cellphone on your bill, so you always have the number.
1-2 months before end of lease, rent a cheap pad for yourself.
Give her a heads up that you're not happy with the relationship, don't yell at her or turn it into an argument, just say, "I'm not happy living this way, I don't mean to make your life harder, I wish you well but I want to break up. I won't be here after the lease ends next month so I suggest you make arrangements, I will try to help you as much as I can if you need help moving or whatever."
Discuss with the landlord that you are moving out at end of lease, and that your partner may decide to stay, and that there's not much you can do about it, you don't have any legal control over her. Just say "I'll cooperate with you as much as I can and give you my key."
Depending on how the partner reacts, and depending on how the landlord reacts, you may need to get legal advice on your rights. If they seem friendly and cool then just move out at the end of the lease.
If your ex needs help to move, help her move. You want to keep a good relationship with her. Also you want to keep a good relationship with the landlord too. Just be as cooperative as you can with both parties without being a total doormat.
Have "the talk" with your son. Just say, "Look, your mom and I are splitting up, but we both still love you. You're always welcome at my place and for anything else you need, I love you and I'm always here for you no matter what."
Once the lease ends, clean up the apartment as best you can and move out. If the ex gets hostile, you could move out sooner to avoid conflicts. Try to remain friendly but don't be a total doormat. Like I said, get legal advice as necessary depending on the situation.
Hopefully your son makes the decision to move in with you. But if not, then just keep tabs on him via text, or social media, skype, etc. If you suspect anything stupid happening like the ex putting him on medication, get child welfare involved and get ready to legally fight for custody.
Keep all of her texts and emails and voicemails, and keep detailed logs of everything including time and date.

Best of luck

rp_whybother · 2020-08-03T08:11:23+00:00

I hear Dubai is a nice place to escape to

Electric_Plankton · 2020-08-03T06:10:13+00:00

I'd have a really long and sober talk with your kid to get him on your side and then move into a new place at the end of the lease or sooner if things start to blow up.

TigPlaze · 2020-08-03T14:32:55+00:00

Best possible advice is: Get a lawyer!

I know they ain't cheap, but in this case they're worth every penny because a good one will know the intricacies of the law in your area and what your best moves will be.

imazed54 · 2020-08-04T04:53:20+00:00

bounce to a new city, set up an LLC and start doing handyman work or whatever you know how to do. start over completely fresh. she owns your son so you might as well give up on him as well

Title	I need help with exit strategy
Author	bipeka
Upvotes	50
Comments	27
Date	August 2, 2020 11:27 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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