Depression and suicidal thoughts

VickVaseline · 2019-01-02T21:09:10+00:00

You have at least one great thing going for you -- your intelligence (if you are one of the best students, that is).

It sounds to me as though you desperately need to get out from under your parents. That will be very difficult to do while in school. If I were you, I would finish the rest of the school year if you can, and then get out. Get a difficult/dangerous high-paying job somewhere far from your parents and sock away every penny you can. Then you can use that money to go back to school on your own terms, live in a yurt, or whatever the fuck you want.

I guess it's pretty obvious, but anyone replying would point out that you seem to need professional help for depression. Right now it doesn't look as though that will happen without your parents paying for it. I don't know where you are or how old you are, but there are probably some free resources that might be of some help to you. You will have to look for them yourself.

Good luck.

linkofinsanity19 · 2019-01-02T21:55:09+00:00

Since VickVaseline already addressed the suicidal thoughts, I'll focus on the others.

Start trying things. Get good at something, and people in that social circle will want to spend time with you. You will make friends. Also, if you don't know what you do want to do, at least stop doing what you hate. Hate your major? Change it. Hate not having cash? Get job, even if it's only part time. Pick up hobbies and see if you like them. Through making these changes in your life, your circumstances and options will start to change.

linkofinsanity19 · 2019-01-02T22:10:00+00:00

Like I said, since nothing is interesting you, it doesn't matter what you try. Just try something. Get into photography, running, (you should already be lifting), ultimate Frisbee, basket weaving, etc. Since nothing sparks your interest, look up a list of hobbies (preferably masculine) and start checking them off the list. You will eventually find something that you like or are good at.

Some of my current endeavors/hobbies outside of work and school are powerlifting, running, longboarding, reading, and learning languages (currently Spanish). I also watch anime and play videogames if I've got my stuff done. I do some out of necessity, some out of passion, and some I was introduced to by people that I know. If you can expand your social circle, you can also tap into their hobbies and try those out.

I'm going to leave you with these 2 actionable steps.

Make a new aquaintence and find out one of their hobbies, and ask them to teach you about it. Try it out with them.
Google "list of manly hobbies" and pick one from the list. Try it for 2 weeks.

Buena Suerte.

Aggressive_Beta · 2019-01-02T22:11:51+00:00

You need to do two things immediately:

1) See a doctor. There is no shame getting on anti-depressants because they will help you get the motivation to start doing what you need to do in order to get what you want out of life. It's just a question of finding the right medication at the right dosage. Once you're in a good position and things are going well, you can get off of the anti-depressants if you want. Your doctor can also refer you to a therapist.

2) Go to the gym and lift 3 days per week. It's not going to be easy to force yourself to do this but you absolutely must. Lifting will massively boost not only your looks but your testosterone levels, both of which will help with your depression.

Trip-trader · 2019-01-03T00:16:28+00:00

I’ve been as dark and as down as you feel. Best bet is to get on some anti depressants for awhile (SSRI’s not those evil SNRI’s). that should take the bad thoughts away and level your thinking out. Once medicated you shouldn’t have those invasive suicidal thoughts and won’t see the world though the dark lens you do now.

You should be seeing someone to talk this though with CBT as well ideally. Right now your thoughts see no hope. Trust me your life can be full of amazing things. Your clearly very smart and in this world that means a bright future ahead. Good luck remember this is just a small bump in the road of your great long life. Please seek help it is out there and it does work. Give your meds time to work sometimes they make things worse for 1-3 weeks, but then things balance out and you’ll start having better days. Take care of your sleep too that is very important to not stay up late. It can really mess you up with out enough quality sleep.

Themane22 · 2019-01-03T02:38:29+00:00

Hey man. Hit the gym and eat a healthy diet. That’ll help. Also try boxing or bjj

Title	Depression and suicidal thoughts
Author	Vouch33r
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Date	January 2, 2019 7:54 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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