People are expecting women to have no standards when dating men. Trust me, many men have absolutely NOTHING to offer to women. It's OKAY to have standards and it's usually better to be single than to date losers.

It's OKAY to want a man who has a job. It doesn't make you shallow or a gold-digger.

It's OKAY to want a man who is physically attractive. Men judge women based on their appearance all the time.

It's OKAY to want a man who is competent. You're not shallow for not wanting to date weirdos and losers.