from gottman's research:

https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/

it seems like all of these 4 relationship communication patterns relate back to red flags that are mentioned here often. EG shitty father = extremely defensive = failed relationship

Are these just the blue pilled way of interpreting red flags just typically slower than we would with more discrimination?