I saw my girlfriend all weekend and she was going to hang out with a friend last night (monday). Around 6 she told me she canceled on her friend because they had some kind of interview come up. She asked if I wanted to come over and I said sure.
It was the perfect opportunity to just say no. All I had to do was be like, No, I have some chores to do tonight and I need to relax and go to sleep early. And then hang out again on wednesday. But since I adore my girlfriend so much, I just dropped everything to drive to her house. I am sure in that moment she texted me, she truly wanted to see me. She even said admitted halfway through our evening that she had "taken the opportunity " to reschedule with her friend. But we both knew it was a mistake, I was too tired to even have sex with her and she lost attraction because I had been too available.
We hung out, chatted for a while, cuddled in her bed and then I left at 10 (an hour past my bed time for a work night since I get up at 5:30).
Instead of taking the opportunity to raise attraction I decided to lower it for no reason. All because I am so addicted to the feeling of a warm female against my body.
Going forward, I have professional engagements every night this week except for wednesday. Here is my question. Should I hang out with my girlfriend on wednesday like normal or should I make an excuse and not see her for an entire week until sunday or monday night? Is 6-7 days too much of a pull back (we hang out 4 times a week on average) Or is it warranted because of my flagrant display of attachment/validation the last three days? Maybe I should come up with an excuse that is a little more indicative of "I could see you if I really wanted but I'm not because my interest went down a bit". Reason being, I am so legitimately busy from thursday to sunday I am not sure it will portray my pullback well enough. Any suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks.
PS- I know that in the grand scheme of things, how I compose myself is way more implemented than a difference of one day if hanging out. But I would just appreciate any input into this micro situation anyway.
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