My LTR of 1 year is pretty, feminine, submissive in bed and really respective of me. Our sex is excellent but the non-sex part of the relationship isn't good at all and she is dragging me down with her misery.

We 'dated' for 6 months before we got into an LTR which means I was fucking her casually on a regular basis with another girl on the side and had a wonderful fucking time because we only met for some wonderful sex and not much heavy communication besides that. Cue March and we get into an official relationship and she get's a job at a big 4 consulting firm and this is when the shit starts.

As an independent business owner, I know the shit that these corporates put you through so I expect nothing less. Plus covid happens and she is stuck at home with shitty parents and horrible work hours. Lo and behold, her first month is fucking miserable as expected. I support her through it but today it is month 9 and she is still as miserable.

I got into the LTR with her before I was red-pilled and ignored all the red flags, namely:

  1. She has had clinical depression and anxiety. Has had serious suicidal thoughts before. Been on depression meds + therapy and got out of depression. (Nuggets she dropped few months later after we got official) And has had a couple of online counselling sessions during the lockdowns as well.

  2. Alcoholic dad;cunt mother and a shit relationship with both of them

  3. I squandered my time too easily by calling her everyday and texting her everyday during covid. LITERALLY EVERY SINGLE DAY. Because any day that I did not text or call, this girl had a mountain of anxiety and problems to tell me the next day because I did not text/call her.

I swallowed the pill during the course of the lockdown but did not dump her. Instead I tried pulling back my time and she protested every single time. Finally through much friction, we settled on me taking a day off calls/text whenever I want and being there for her few days of the week. Which seems reasonable but here is the thing, everyday that I take off she is just plain miserable by herself caught up in all her anxiety spirals. And even if I do text or call consecutive days, there's still a good chance that 9 out of 10 times she will be sad and miserable about something or just express her anxiety like a patient would to her therapist. But it is feels like whenever I claim my personal space and take a day off, the next day I have to play Mr. Therapist for her tales of misery.

I am so happy and doing fantastic by myself that this shit is dragging me down. I am genuinely trying to be empathetic and understanding here and trying to make this LTR work and being her rock but all of this isn't adding shit to my life expect good sex which I can get elsewhere too. Oh an speaking about being her rock, when she starts expressing her anxiety and misery, slowly her spiral of issues starts circling me about something I said a few weeks ago or how I wasn't available when she needed me, which is like every single fucking day and it fucking sucks that I am playing therapist for her while she gets all miserable making big bucks from her consulting firm and yet half the times get blamed for something going wrong in her life.

She's a reformed slut yet by far the most feminine and genuinely kindest girls I've met. The sex is out of this world. We meet to bang once or twice a week depending upon time and work constraints and it is fucking amazing but whenever we talk outside of that through text or call, she is just complaining about her work,family,life,anxiety and her mental health. These hour long conversations on call or text (I wish I could go back in time undo this mistake of squandering my time) where she just complains and "shares" how she isn't feeling good.

What the solution to this? Is ending things the only way possible or is it possible for us to have a setting where we meet in person and have great sex and a good time outside of the bedroom too without having to deal with her misery every single day? Or is she beyond the point of being happy anymore? Honestly I thought being in a relationship with a nice, feminine girl would add to my life but except the sex, it isnt adding much. Should I just tell her to fix herself through therapy or by dropping her job and that I don't want to talk on calls, text anymore? Should I tell her to rant to female friends instead?

There's a good chance after covid that me and her might live in close proximity and that just being around me and being able to meet friends, better work hours etc could mean end of her problems. But that's still 2-3 months down the line. Let me know what you think guys. And thank you if you've read till here