I've read a lot of post about dread, boundaries and asktrp post about what to do when an LTR is about to break a boundary or how to enforce a boundary or etc. A common recurring theme is to neverperform an ultimatum and verbalize it like "If you do this I will do that" or "Don't do this" but instead "I'm not comfortable, but do whatever you want" and end it if it's crossing the red flag.

I remember soft nexting my LTR for something minor she done and she figured out what she has done. Through that she occasionally asks me what my boundaries are. Like would it be okay if me and a girlfriend goes out with 2 guys, or go to a party, what is too much when talking to a guys and etc.

I also get asked outright, "What are your boundaries specifically?"

It makes me just want to shut up because of what I read, but I'm pretty sure it would come off as I am someone who doesn't know what he wants, or I'm just weird, because she is ASKING.

Would it be wise to just answer her directly?