Hi all,

This is my first my first post here so thank you for taking the time to read it.

I'll start by saying I know I have a lot of work to do, and will be open to all suggestions. Here's the deal and questions I have.

Dating in general seems to effect me at a deep level, I will date multiple girls and try to build abundance yet there will always be some girls I feel more for, maybe even multiple girls at once.

I allow these girls and their behaviours (good, bad and neutral) to effect me emotionally. Here's an example of something that i find myself battling over and over:

When I'm with girls everything tends to go pretty well, I keep my frame and progress things in the right direction. The issue I have is when I'm not around them, if i see them online on whatsapp, dating sites it really starts to fuck with me, I want to message/call them and communicate and the longer it goes on before they message me the more it plays on my mind and actually effects me emotionally, I find myself not being able to enjoy activities until I've heard from them, I'll tell myself all kinds of negative things and just generally feel like shit and end up reaching out

Thus far this hasn't actually come back to bite me in the ass but they are behaviours I don't like in myself and would like to be stronger and also be happier whilst being stronger.

I read a lot of advise from you guys on other posts and think to myself wow I'd love to be able to act like that but in reality i'm too weak for it.

So my questions are:

what have you guys done to help you value yourselves more?

when your chatting/fucking with girls and the vibes are good and you're enjoying yourself, how do you deal with emotions that come up and how do you process them in a healthy way?

Does anyone else out there automatically think the worst and feel rejected if they haven't heard from somebody in a few hours/days? I feel this one may be a deeper issue I have but would appreciate some thoughts.

Thanks for reading, all comments are welcome.