I decided to make one big post on the effects of branch-swinging and giving into your hypergamous nature.

It was the worst mistake of my life. I’m not exaggerating when I say that I’ll never be the same. The girl I once was, the girl who thought she was “settling” and deserved “better” than her soulmate is a beautiful memory compared to the girl I am now.

First of all, alpha widowing is a real thing. A guy above your league shows interest in you, fucks you (either for a night or you begin a thing) then before you know it, you’re completely unable to be satisfied by anything else. You get deeply attached to this guy because nature and I promise he will NEVER have the same attachment to you. He has an array of women around him, some better than you, and he has every intention to explore them all. Because... nature.

You feel stupid every day. Humiliated. Small. And the worst? So. Fucking. Ordinary. You have zero self esteem because you realize how basic you are. You’re just like all of the other women around you, all of the other women around him, and no matter how smart you are, how talented, deep down you’ll always be just your average female.

And an average female will never be good enough for a guy like that.

There are many guys you’re good enough for. 80% of them actually. But you don’t want them. You CAN’T want them. Your body, heart and even soul won’t LET you want them. A lot of these guys are on your level. Hell, some may even be above you. What does that mean to you? Jack shit because they’re below HIM. He is now the subconscious pinnacle for your attraction and love and nothing less will do. You don’t choose this; you sincerely can’t help it.

So, you’re only able to feel anything for men on or above his level. What does this mean? Either way, you’ll end up forever alone. Men like that are a rarity (20%) so you may never even find one again. And if you do, they may have higher standards than the last one and not even look at you. And if they do and you two get involved, they’ll move onto the next eventually. Far too many options not to.

Of course, you can get with one of the 80%. You don’t HAVE to be alone. But good luck being happy. Good luck being attracted to him, good luck truly LOVING him and great luck respecting yourself or him.